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[rubyjune]

Chrio...Its the not having the info up front that really sucks...what other kind of business can do that? It makes Canada look so nice. I wish we could take the money the drug companies spend on advertising to the public (not the info that goes to the Dr's) and use that to fund health care. It keeps me from having to explain erectile dysfunction to my dd and basic services could be covered, and more people could see the DR and thereby get prescriptions and make the drug companies their money back.

[RosieL]

chrio - That SUCKS. Since you're going through insurance, however, do you have some extra time to pay things off? I know one health bill of mine fell through the cracks a long time ago, and it turned out that I had to just pay it. No late fees or judgments against me, since it was a health expense. I got the impression that you can put yourself on a payment plan for health expenses at your own schedule. That sounds ridiculous when I write it though.

I started saving for our midwives before we started trying to conceive. I knew DH would balk at the $4200 bill up front, so I got him used to the idea early. Since we banked the money before I got pregnant, it was such an easy decision to make, and in hindsight I wouldn't have it any other way. But if I had gotten pregnant first, THEN suggested we pay $4200 out of pocket for a midwife, DH would have said no, I'm sure of it. 

We hope to get something back from insurance after all is said and done, but there's no guarantees. 

[zuzusplace]

Wow, how is it that I keep thinking I'll have more time and then I still don't find time to be here??? Maybe I should give up one of the 500 snacks I'm eating every day and use that 15 minutes to post LOL.

Potty Training - DD has not really started this yet, but given the fact that it seems to be trauma based (she was mid-training when we had the fire) I expect she'll take her time and that's fine. For now I will just relish the fact that she hasn't nursed in 4 days!!! I think I may actually get a few months off before the baby comes (what a nice break after 12.5 years).

Cervix - mine tends to be pretty high, and with a tilted uterus it tends to stay pretty far out of the way...now if there was actually time to acknowledge the fact that I have a husband!

Insurance - I don't have any, one reason I was able to convince DH to do a homebirth last time. We loved it so much we would have gone that route no matter what this time, but fortunately my midwife is really great about accepting what you can pay.

I've had a really busy week. My birthday was Thursday, and my DH got me some really great jewelry at my favorite clothing store (and with my "frequent shopper points" from it got a $25 gift certificate which I'm going to go spend between classes on Tuesday...fun fun). Then today is my baby shower. Technically my sister is throwing it, but since she lives out of town and won't be here till an hour before I'm having to do a lot of the prep work this morning (sigh, I should have let my neighbor throw it when she offered LOL). This will be the only one I've ever had (my mom "threw one" when I had DS, but only invited three of her friends and none of mine, didn't serve any food, etc...really no fun for me or anyone else, more like an "old lady luncheon" that I was forced to endure). I'm sure I'll be tired when it's over, but I'm VERY excited. We're even having a henna artist come to paint my belly...I'll post my 29 week pic a few days late once the henna has set :)

[jess in hawaii]

Happy Birthday zuzu!

I've never had a real baby shower either, but I guess #5 isn't to late ;)  Have fun!

[Thursday Girl]

that insurance thing sucks!

happy birthday zuzu and have a nice baby shower! I am throwing my friend one on the 27th. it will be her first shower, second and last baby.

I have totally crashed my sisters ddc group. i feel kind of bad, but I kept wanting to post so I just joined. Naughty me.

[piratemere]

Hi ladies,

I've not kept up do date on this thread, so I skimmed through and am just going to jump on in. 

Who was it that asked about sex positions???  I said it in another thread, but when I'm pregnant I would just about rather have sex than anything else. TMI? Sorry!   Anyway, we've tried a few.  Missionary doesn't work, obviously, because baby is squished, and anything that I have to spread my legs too far doesn't work either, because my hips cramp up.  So... rear entry, missionary where my knees are up on his chest, and (I have no idea what it's called, so bare with me while I describe) DH is on his side and I'm on my back and we kind of come at each other at a 90 degree angle.  One of my legs is between his and the other is over his side. Sorry, I don't have any books to know names or anything, we just do what works.  I asked DH if things feel different being pregnant, and he doesn't think so. After my last birth I was so torn open that things are significantly different, so maybe that has made a difference.  I had to go through physio just to get enough tone for him to be stimulated enough for anything. It sucked! 

As far as sex goes, I'm open to any and all suggestions to keep my sex drive up after baby is born.  As much as I love it now, I usually hate it then.  Both my other births have been disappointing (and damaging) so I think that has something to do with it, but I would love to actually WANT to have sex, and, heaven forbid, enjoy it!  Maybe having a natural birth where hopefully I'm not torn to pieces will make me less cautious when it comes to sex?  Anyone have any suggestions?

I went to my MW on Wednesday.  The appointment before me went over 20 minutes and I was still in and out before mine was supposed to end.  I love my midwife, know her very well in real life through family friends, so there is no question of if I know what I'm doing.  I walked in and she said,

"So, have you done your blood work?" (You know, the bloodwork she gave me at 10 weeks)

"No." 

"You're due for the GD test." 

"I won't be taking it." 

"Do you need me to go through the schpeel?"

"No."

"Are you going to do the GBS test?"

"Probably not."

"We won't worry about that then.  Do you want to hear the baby?"

"Not with the doppler, but you're welcome to try with the stethoscope." (She couldn't hear it because baby was moving too much!)

"Well, why don't I measure you and send you on your way?"

"Sounds good to me!" 

In and out!  She's wonderful, and if I needed more time she certainly would have given it to me, but I had a LLL meeting to run at my house in an hour, and a million other things to do that day, so I was grateful for the quick appointment. 

Other than that, I'm in the boat of wishing I were nesting.  I just haven't felt it yet. I'd like to go through baby clothes and diapers and such, but I've got no desire.  I think I need to up my iron and potassium too, because I'm just generally too tired to do much of anything.  I need to get some more fish oil capsules too, because that helps, and I can't swallow it liquid. 

I hope everyone is having a great weekend!

[justKate]

Wait, Courtney, which sis is pg?!

[Thursday Girl]

My twin!!

[justKate]

Yay!!!

[lalazap]

Originally Posted by jennyvangy 
Who was it that asked about sex positions??? ... DH is on his side and I'm on my back and we kind of come at each other at a 90 degree angle.  One of my legs is between his and the other is over his side

LOL, I was going to post this same exact thing and was trying to figure out how to describe the position! DP said recently that he feels like we're having more sex than when we were trying to get pregnant and I'd have to agree. I'm loving the connection with him and the sensations are very very very nice. I've been having some graphic dreams that make me wake up in the middle of the night or first thing in the morning ready to go, which has been pretty fun because it's so unlike me.

I'm 27+4 today and just came home from a long walk. Lots of toning contractions along the way - what a weird feeling. It is SO interesting to feel firsthand all these things that I've talked to women about in my midwifery practice. I'm still feeling pretty mobile and energetic but am starting to be able to imagine how that might change over the next few months. I have just about another month of on-call work and am really looking forward to being off and being able to put some distance between my clients' pregnancies/births/babies and my own.

I've hired a doula who is also a doctor of TCM and acupuncturist. We're hoping to be able to get a bunch of her fee covered under our extended health benefits for acupuncture. I've reserved a birth pool from my friend who rents them out, but am wondering about buying one instead for future use as a 'hot tub' for special occasions. I start a prenatal yoga series tomorrow which I'm looking forward to. I know I need to look into car seats and strollers but hate doing research on that kind of stuff so will probably procrastinate until the last minute, or make DP do it and pick one.