Ex DH and I have been amicably divorced for almost 8 years. Both of us are remarried. He does not have any children from that marriage, but they are planning them. My new DH and I are expecting our third together. DD1 from marriage #1 is almost 13. We divorced when she was 5 and we were both students. A simple child support form had him paying $290/month. He made $13/hour then. Now he has finished school and makes about $50-60k. I had full custody of her and it took me awhile to get on my feet. After remarrying and having more kids I quite full time corporate job to SAH. I do some part time consulting. This was totally a personal choice...no lay offs etc. Basically, Ex DH and were discussing the fact that he should be paying more...in Kansas at age 12 the support goes up if you file the papers with the court, but also, we never adjusted it based on our incomes inflating. He and new wife are planning finances to be able to have a baby this next year, so he wants to talk over child support. I told him, let's just get the paperwork to the court and let them work it through. His side is...we have never had a money fight in 8 years, let's go through the forms and find an agreeable #. Basically, I told him I will do that, but if we struggle to find an agreeable #, or he fails to pay the difference and I have to bug him, I will have the court do it. He is fine with that.
My question is...how do I figure a fair income for myself since I quit full time work? I obviously do not think it is fair to say "i make $12k" now. But I would not be able to earn what I did my last year at work either (in sales, so there is a large fluctuation). Is there a general formula that is used in many states to find a fair #?
My income since the divorce has looked like:
year 1 - $13k
year 2 - $17k
year 3 _ $30k (fell into a new sales job)
year 4 - $48k (was good at said job)
year 5 -$70k (a good year at my job), I quit working here
year 6 - $10k (working part time from home, 15 hr a week)
year 7 - $0k (DD 3 born with health issue this year
this year - $12k (working part time from home, 15 hr a week)
I do not have a college degree, so really my earning potential is this one niche industry. All the jobs are on the coast so they are all telecommute and lots of travel. Realistically, I could go back to work now and make maybe $30k, getting to $40k over a year of two.
EX DH is kind of a pushover and still just follows orders. Because of this I feel sorry for him which is why I never asked for more money or help. So I am trying to find a balance between being fair to me and our DD and also to him.
Does anyone have experience with computing this type of income number?