Originally Posted by MrsKatie
And J - unless she's being nursed, KJ has a specific cry that means she's about to fall asleep, too. So while I'm not letting her CIO, she often has to cry a little before she passes out. DH has the magic touch where she falls asleep in his arms without a peep, but if she's in the carrier or in bed, she's gotta fuss a bit first.
I heard somewhere (couldn't say where, this was almost 3 years ago when I was having sleep issues with DD.) that babies release tension in two ways - sucking and crying. All babies need to release that tension before falling asleep, some prefer one or the other, and some need both. My DD was one of those babies that needed both to a large degree. I guess according to that logic those babies that can settle themselves don't have tension? Baby O can not self-settle, though I suppose he must to some extent at night, because he's only up once to eat (once during my sleep-period, that is, 3 times during his.) This thread is helpful, because while O is generally a happy baby, I was feeling a little lost on his daytime sleep - he needs to be sleeping on me, while nursing, to sleep, and it's been really intrusive to regular life. If he doesn't get enough sleep he's screaming, but if he sleeps enough he's cherubic, so I've been letting him sleep while nursing on the bf pillow, and DD just watches lots of TV, and I feel horrible and have been feeling totally inept as a mother. But this thread has helped me realize that perhaps it isn't something I am or am not doing, but just his sleep and settling "personality."
If there is something I can do, I'd love to hear suggestions. I've tried wearing him, but he cries and fusses if I do anything but bounce and rock, and he's only nursed in the carrier once successfully. And honestly, I'd rather sit and have him sleep on me, because I can then read DD stories, and play with her. We swaddle him at night, but I don't want to do it during the day too. He only sleeps for about a minute after putting him down, even if he's in deep sleep, and even if I use warm blankets, things that smell like me, something that has weight on him etc.
DD was one of those "unhappy" babies. And she's a delight now, at almost 3.