Sending you love, prayer, and good vibes. Keep us posted. Thinking of you, your DH and baby every day.
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I also send you hugs and positive thoughts. I know nothing about the medical aspects of your case, but I do know a little bit about the "numbness" response you talk about when you heard all the troubling news. It is a self protection mechanism. When you have a baby to care for (even in utero) it is possible for your mind to basically automatically shut off in order to protect you from the severe stress, hurt, pain and anger of certain situations. It allows you to continue to function. Recognizing that you "should" have been feeling more is fine, but forgive yourself for moments of numbness, it isn't as though you don't care, it is that you care so much you tripped the fuse. Feeling all that badness all at once would be too much, and taking as good care of yourself as you can manage is all you can do.
I thought about getting a doppler for reassurance when he's quiet, but I'm not quite sure what to get. At first, my gut (no pun intended) told me that this baby will be fine because he felt so strong but with the near absence of movement lately it's hard to believe my first instinct. But if many babies are snuggling in I'll try to let it sink in it's just a phase or position.
Luckily my blood pressure was ridiculously low until recently, so hopefully I've got some "room" to work with on that front. It's come up about 20 points in the past month, which is concerning to me because I compare, but not to doctors since it's still healthy low. I had read about the Brewer's diet before, but it sounded like so much work. Maybe Probably it's time to change my tune. I was trying to figure out how I can best my chances to avoid the BP and preterm delivery issues (other than luck) but without a good direction to start.
I'm trying to be optimistic that finding this so late (relatively speaking) is a good sign. I guess the chances of a healthy (or surviving) baby decrease significantly, the earlier it's found. I also try to find hope in the stories of babies that come into the world like there was nothing (or nearly nothing) wrong at all despite doctors saying the outlook was grim. Already there are two scares that worked out among us few women. That is a good thing, right?
And thanks for the positive thoughts. It's something very good to look forward to, visiting our DDC. :-)
Hugs and hope to you, Autumn.
We recently had a baby in our practice who was diagnosed with a complicated heart defect at 26w. All kinds of prep went into planning the birth, having all the specialists involved and present at the birth, and it seemed very likely that he would be whisked away right into an initial surgery to begin the staged repair. Well, he was born pink and lovely and crying and breathing, was monitored in hospital for a few days and then discharged home with his family! He did eventually undergo surgery and there are more operations in his future, but nothing that dramatic happened for the first month - which was a big surprise given all the hype. It seems to me that specialists often offer the worst-case scenario first so that you are prepared for that and so that anything less seems like a happy blessing. I fervently hope that you are pleasantly surprised when your boy is born. Please keep us posted.
Yesterday was a roller coaster ride of a day that nearly included welcoming baby. Well, maybe not literally yesterday, but being admitted to the hospital and prepping for welcoming baby in short succession after the 48 hours of steroids.
You poor thing :( I've heard things that weren't a hundredth of that over the last few days and was a wreck, I truly can't imagine what you're going through. I know there is nothing in the long run we can do to help baby, but is there anything we can do to help you get through this stressful period of waiting and watching? I will truly be wishing you the best possible outcome...doctors have been known to be wrong, and I pray this is one of those times.
Oh Autumn, I'm so sorry the news wasn't better. It sounds like you are doing everything you can--getting lots of opinions. All you can do is make the best decisions that you can. I wish I could give you a big hug. I know you have much more important things to do, but feel free to vent/cry/yell here if you need to. ((((hugs!!!))))