There is some really good advice here about possible options to keep the babe at home and the realities of doing this. Moremadder/Lizbiz, that is a good idea about paying someone to come help out. IntuitiveJamie, your situation is impressive, how wonderful to have that level of support. Unfortunately, is it absolutely certain that DP's job requirements are going to be extensive, including long hours during busy seasons and travelling. Somethinganon, that is the advice that my friend gave me as well, about when they're younger ('just stick him on the boob"). Aimee/Rebecca, thanks for the reality check on the requirements of trying to juggle both a job and a baby. I think a possible solution might be to bring my mother up to NC sooner than my DP and I had anticipated. My mother has health problems (epilepsy/diabetes/lupus) and is in the process of going on permanent disability, eventually DP and I had planned on building her a little 1-room cottage on our property (that we don't have yet), as she really needs someone around to help with heavy lifting, etc. She is mostly self-sufficient, and would do fine to help with the baby, but she could't be a sole caregiver. As I'm working from home, it might just work out that she could kind of look over the baby for the most part, and then when I'm needed, I'd be there. The only downside to this plan is getting my DP on board, he's accepted that at some point we'd bring my mother up, but wants more time before that happens. My mother can be super needy and acts like she can't do as much as she is capable of. I know she has a hard time, but I think that having (a) some purpose and (b) more company, would help with her slight depression over her current situation, living alone and not being able to work. Also, knowing she doesn't have to worry about paying her bills and things like that would help with some of her stresses as well.
Thursday, (this is my twin), you and your family could move to NC :D I've already postponed moving as long as possible because I didn't want to leave you, but this is absolutely the next step in our careers at this point. Come with me!!!! You could move onto a farm right by us and homeschool all the kiddos! And your hubs could definitely get work up there...we'll talk him into it yet . Once we have some land, how can he say no? I purposefully picked a place where I knew he wouldn't mind moving.