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[Jaimee]

LOL, Joanie... yep, it helped immensely!

[MrsKatie]

Originally Posted by jbk21 

I have a random question- is anyone else freaked out about oral sex?  It's easy for me to DTD because DH isn't, uh, face-to-face with my lady bits.  But the idea of him being down there WHERE MY BABY CAME OUT totally freaks me out right now.  I can easily stop myself from thinking about my baby coming through the birth canal when we're having sex, but not if he wanted to do oral.  Does that make sense?  Maybe I'll need two beers before that can happen LOL!!! 

Well, for me this is the only way I can O, so I'm not turning that down.  Ever.  I've been able to O during actual intercourse while DH is stimulating me manually but only a couple times.  Otherwise, nope, not happening.  My body is very stubborn.

[jill the pill]

I'm so jealous!  At least you guys are having sex!  When do you do it?  How do you find the time?  Baby is sleeping with me, dd1 is sleeping in her room with dh.  We get the most sleep this way but our sex life has definately gone down the tubes.  Not good.  I'd be happy with just some cuddling at this point! 

[IwannaBanRN]

Originally Posted by jill the pill 

I'm so jealous!  At least you guys are having sex!  When do you do it?  How do you find the time?  Baby is sleeping with me, dd1 is sleeping in her room with dh.  We get the most sleep this way but our sex life has definately gone down the tubes.  Not good.  I'd be happy with just some cuddling at this point! 

DH and I have had a couple spontaneous sessions while the kids were still awake. Levi was in his bouncer chair the other night and the kids were watching toons in our room with the gate up. If we'd waited until the kids were in bed, we both would have been too tired to do anything.
 

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by jill the pill 

I'm so jealous!  At least you guys are having sex!  When do you do it?  How do you find the time? 

Seriously in the middle of the day... ds1 and ds2 nap around the same time and dd can be entertained long enough on her own.  Night would never work- too tired.
 

[Abraisme]

This would never work for us.  We'd be guaranteed to get interrupted.  DD2 will only sit by herself awake for 3-4 minutes at a time.   There's no way I could get in the mood and not be constantly worried about someone walking disturbing us.  We also have a small house and you can hear everything from every room because of the wood floors.
 

Originally Posted by IwannaBanRN 

DH and I have had a couple spontaneous sessions while the kids were still awake. Levi was in his bouncer chair the other night and the kids were watching toons in our room with the gate up. If we'd waited until the kids were in bed, we both would have been too tired to do anything.
 

I'm with you.  My baby doesn't fall asleep until 11:30.  She might sleep before that time, but she's super restless.  By 11:30 I am just not in the mood.  So far we've managed twice since she was born and both times DD2 was awake before we were done.  This was never an issue with my other kids because they went to sleep around 10:00 and I still had enough energy.

Originally Posted by jill the pill 

I'm so jealous!  At least you guys are having sex!  When do you do it?  How do you find the time?  Baby is sleeping with me, dd1 is sleeping in her room with dh.  We get the most sleep this way but our sex life has definately gone down the tubes.  Not good.  I'd be happy with just some cuddling at this point! 

[Krystal323]

for me it's hard to get in the mood for sex--or even for anything productive--because of the possibility that we'll get interrupted.  like, i hate having a half-mopped floor--so stopping before i/we get to O??  UGH, so not cool!  

we waited longer than ever before with this babe--about 6 weeks (we've done as early as 3 weeks before)--and i still didn't O first time.  i think it takes a few sessions for me to shift from birthing-mindset back to, uh, someone who's capable of enjoying sex.  i don't mind helping DH out at all tho, if need be.

and yes--i think it helps if you're not irritated with dh all day and/or have been doing everything yourself in full-on mommy mode all day.  but then again, if everyone's actually asleep and i take the time to do seemingly ANYthing to shift gears before going at it, someone invariably wakes up and interrupts us.  sometimes before anything even starts..!

[jbk21]

Okay, so i know it's supposed to be dry down there while bf-ing but um, I don't seem to be having that issue. Quite the opposite, really.  Is that normal?  Just when I think I'm done with pantyliners....  It's not a sign of fertility is it?  PLEASE NO!

[Jaimee]

J, is it eggwhite in consistency- stretchy?  Is it clear, white or yellow?  Since you're still under 56 days pp it is very unlikely to be a sign of returning fertility, but I would take precautions while dtd if I were you, just in case.  If it continues for 14 days then you can consider this your basic infertile pattern.  If it dries up and returns in 14 days then I would again take precautions.

[jbk21]

not stretchy.  watery, actually.  Clear.  I guess I won't complain :-)

[Jaimee]

It's probably just hormonal shifts and nothing fertile.

[Abraisme]

When did your af come back last time?  Mine has come back at about the same time with both of my older kids (12mo and 13mo).  While it might be different, it's likely that it'll follow a similar pattern as last time.
 

Originally Posted by jbk21 

Okay, so i know it's supposed to be dry down there while bf-ing but um, I don't seem to be having that issue. Quite the opposite, really.  Is that normal?  Just when I think I'm done with pantyliners....  It's not a sign of fertility is it?  PLEASE NO!

[jbk21]

I dont exactly remember but it was after 12 months... maybe 13 months?  I forget!  I assume I have a while though....

[TalkToMeNow]

Ugh, I mentioned before my period came back at 7.5 weeks pp this time. I also had fertile cm the week before. So sucky and unfair! Happens every time, though. Hope it's not that for you, J!

[birdhappy85]

Wow, I would love to go without my period for a good year, especially after just finishing 7 weeks of pp bleeding. I hope mine stays away for a while! I doubt I'll be so lucky, but one can hope. 

[Abraisme]

The average is about 14mo, so it's totally possible.
 

Originally Posted by birdhappy85 

Wow, I would love to go without my period for a good year, especially after just finishing 7 weeks of pp bleeding. I hope mine stays away for a while! I doubt I'll be so lucky, but one can hope. 

[jbk21]

Joanie you just might!  FX :-)

[birdhappy85]

Time to revive this thread... How are the rest of your sex lives going? I expected to have less interest while breastfeeding and being "touched out" with the baby, but I didn't expect to just feel totally different about my sexual "sense of self" in general after becoming a mom. I wonder if it's still just hormones doing it or if it'll continue when I'm done nursing.  I sure hope it gets better. I used to be all about dtd all the time. Now? I feel almost dirty being all sexy and stuff in the bedroom because I have that "you're a mom!" thought. Silly, right?

[TalkToMeNow]

I totally need this thread revived! We've been doing it practically non-stop since we moved Jasper into our room full time. Not. I think we are down to once a week. Sigh. We have no place to have sex anymore! We have to be totally silent in the bedroom. Sucky.

[Zoopath]

Sex? What's that? I've forgotten ny now. Maybe by the time dd is walking if I'm lucky. We really need to make that more or a priority, I am ashamed to say how long it's been.