Friends Chat Thread - Page 6

[mommycaroline]

Originally Posted by ilovebeingamom

mommycaroline- I will look into the new way. Although it is interesting, the day I said I was sick of listening to the tapes, I ended up listening to them again that night b/c I couldn't sleep. I was stressed b/c of the family, and knew I was working myself up. So I put on the rainbow relaxation, and I was able to go right to sleep. I have also been falling asleep during the tape, but always wake up at the end when she tells us too. Do you know if that means I was hypnotized?

I don't think "being hypnotized" has any specific forms. From my personal experience, it was never something I ever became aware of, but it worked. I don't think of hypnosis as the cliched trancelike state you see in the movies. I think it's more of a conscious relaxation state that you can control, and that's the goal with hypnobirthing. The fact that you're falling asleep really doesn't mean much one way or another. If you become relaxed enough, you fall asleep. If you fall asleep, and the tape is still on, you're still absorbing the material subconsciously, so it's all good.

When I practiced the last time, my main focus was on relaxing each portion of my body, and finding a place in my head where I could stay inside myself. It took a lot of effort at first, and over time, became very natural. So natural, that I think I kind of lived in that place for a long time. I didn't manage to have the vaginal delivery I wanted, but I had 36 hours of pitocin induced labor with no pain meds. And, then, after my surgery, I never really wanted any pain killers, either. Although, with a lot of external pressure, I agreed to take some Motrin for the ride home from the hospital, but I really don't think it was necessary. I fully attribute that to hypnobirthing.

As for waking up when the tape ends, I think that's also part of the process. I am very reluctant to use the word "hypnotized" because I think the connotations are really inaccurate. But, I think it's safe to say that you were still conscious enough to be aware of the end of the tape. And, that's mighty cool, huh?

Have you ever been able to direct a dream? You know, when you're having a dream that you don't like, and somehow you change something so you can wake up, or you change the outcome? Having that ability is kind of the same thing, IMO, as waking up at the end of the HB tape. You're aware, you're listening, you're in control, but you've shut your mind down. When I was in labor, I didn't want to be that out of it, so I wasn't. Some people *do* want to go through labor like that, and that's okay, but I wanted to be *in* the experience, and so my efforts were more focused on achieving that level of relaxation while remaining awake.

Okay, I'm babbling. Not making much sense, I'm afraid. I think it's fantastic that the tape helped you feel better when you were feeling stressed. That would be a terrific sign to me. I'd try not to think of there being certain steps to succeeding at HB, and just let it flow over me. You're starting early enough that there's plenty of time for everything to come together with no pressure. And, I don't think it's anything that you ever become certain of. It's so easy (or at least it was for me) that I was sure I wasn't really doing it, you know? But, 36 hours of pain free, pit induced labor sure tells a different story. So, I'm a believer!

[Solange]

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Hey all....glad to see we are all still here....

I am trying to keep up with these posts but have been busy latey and now fighting allergies/head cold thing and I am just miserable....can't sleep b/c of coughing my head off or stuffed up nose...... and now here I sit wide awake after midnight...UGH!

gtg
ttyl

[LizaBear]

I'm lost, I can't keep up with this thread, but I *am* still here !

[frognladybugmama]

i'm still here too, though i seem to be drifting away from my online boards more and more each week...i feel self-absorbed this time around, guess i've already gone into my nesting and "i need alone" time phase? i find myself constantly sewing for this baby as a means to prepare for him, although we really don't need much except diapers (smalls now since i've made close to 2 doz nb's)...
my kids must both be hitting growth spurts/developmental milestones since they're both ogres right now lol...shelby's almost 18mos, so i fully expected her to start a new "phase" - but jake's got me stumped...he's 4.5 and will be 5 in october, but is just unbearable lately...the worst was tonite at tball when he just stood on the field and screamed/cried while the other team was batting and his team was playing the field...he normally loves to bat, but his second turn he just kept screaming and didn't stop...we pulled him out of the game and he still kept on - just a huge embarassing temper tantrum imo, but i wonder what the real problem is? he loves playing tball at home and goes to practice/games willingly but then acts like this while there...and one of his best friends is on his team so i thought that'd help. sigh...so unlike him, he's my sweet, easygoing child while shelby's my drama queen!
anyways, i'm glad to hear so many of you are doing well...i'm sorry to hear that a few are still feeling icky...i am doing pretty well minus the heartburn/indigestion that seems to occur every nite - otherwise good - just the occasional braxton hicks which i don't remember so early with the other two.
kids are grumpy still, better get back to our bedtime routine

[christeenybeany]

Is anyone else soooo tired lately. It feels like the first trimester all over again. Ug. I have been taking 2-3 hour naps in the mornings lately and still sleep soundly at night. I guess sleeping soundly is relative. I am having a harder and harder time getting comfortable. I want to be on my back, but it is getting too hard to breath that way. Last night the baby's kicking woke me up because I was on my stomach. I never sleep on my stomach but I was last night. I guess he didn't like it. I"m going to take a morning nap now.

[Dodo]

Christeeny, I'm tired again too. Because dd's at daycare, I now take a nap in the afternoons. It's only 10:30 -- three and a half hours into my day -- and I'm beat! I even started drinking coffee again.

And I also feel like being alone. When childless friends hear that my mornings are now child-free, they assume that I'm dying to socialize without my little one when in fact I'm relieved to finally be able to step out of the world. As mentioned previously, my dd is a social butterfly. For the last two years, we've been constantly on the go, playdate after playdate. I am so ready for a little quality alone time.

I can't believe how far along I am. I haven't done anything to prepare baby-wise. My entire focus for two months has been on my sciatica, nothing else. By the time I find a solution, I will be due.

[ketilave]

Well, both my munkins are snotty and coughing and not sleepy. We haven't had a playdate in a while so where do these germs come from? Today they both started on the diarrhea. Ah - the things that I love about being a mom.
I agree on being tired but I chalk it up to having an infant and a toddler (who has quit napping) and tossing and turning at night. I told my mw that I wanted a chilled out baby but apparently that isn't in the cards and she sat there laughing at me.
My friend with a newborn has the cuddlest baby - I want one like that!! DD is also nursing up a storm - my boobs are huge - I measured 36G this morning. It's just not right! I told DH when I got to J (for Jugs) I was cutting them off. I have to admit I have talked plastic surgery since the c-section - fix the funky tummy and chop and lift my boobs. I'll be 28 soon and my body looks like it has more years than that - which reminds....
Went to the grocery store yesterday, had 2 bottles of wine in the cart and no drivers license (DS was playing with it that morning) so they took them away. I have 2 kids in the cart, obviously pg and can't buy wine. BUT - we can send 18 year olds to war and left 16 yos drive lethal weapons. This place makes me nuts - Disclaimer: I grew u p in Europe.

[Jlcampbellkidz]

Hi everyone!

I have been reading everyone's posts since Monday but have been unable to post myself. I was having lot's of trouble with my long in. I was ready to give up. But just now I tried it again and it worked. Thank goodness.

Sounds like everyone is busy. I know I feel like I could use a day long nap and then sleep through the night. DD is skipping the afternoon nap most days now but sooooooooo ready for bed by 8:00 or 8:30 and then sleeping till 8:00 the next morning. You would think I could get some sleep. I can't get comfortable. I loved my bed during my daughters pregnancy but this time I hate it. The couch is better but DH hates for me to sleep away from him. He sleeps in big chair in living room, but I feel bad so I try to tough it out in our bed.

I have been nesting big time. My house is clean again for the first time since the beginning of the month. My DH is off work today and I put him to work. I've practically locked him in the house. I gave him his list of to do's and he said he was leaving to go mow at our church and I told him "NO" because he had not finished my list. (He cleans the bathrooms since I don't need to be around the chemicals)!

I think this baby is going to be huge! I have a midwife apt. tomorrow morning and I want her to try to estimate the baby's size and position. I'm curious. I have had a big week of weight gain. I was doing so good. I made it to six months w/o gaining a pound and all of sudden I'm ten pounds heavier. What's up with that? My daughter was 8lb. 4oz at 3 weeks early. I fully expect to carry this baby to term or later. I really don't want to bring home a 10 or 11 pound baby. That is a 3 month old. I have no fears about delivering a large baby. That's not even an issue, I have every bit of confidence in my and my body's ablity to birth a large baby vaginally. It's just that I want a small newborn that can fit into all the cute newborn clothes that I have prepared. Sorry I'm whining! I'll stop now.

[lena_girl]

I'm with you on the tired thing, but if I weren't chasing my crazy kid, I think I'd feel great! I desperately want to still be sleeping on my back because sleeping on my side really hurts my back, but I think I shouldn't because of being this far along. I don't feel any weight on me or my lungs or anything (but I've only gained 10 lbs and I'm 26w 5d) but beacuse of the whole compressing the artery/vein or whatever it is thing, I'm scared to.

Does anyone know where they are having their baby sleep? I think I'm going to try to do the bassinet in the pack n play in our room. There's just not room in our bed. DS takes up to much room for a little guy, I need decent space to sleep comfortably for my back, and DH (whole always has the most space to begin with) is always saying scoot over. I just don't think there's room for one more. Now if DS would sleep on the mattress on the floor or in his super cool race car bed... Well, now that's wishful thinking now isn't it?

Anyway, can't believe it's almost May and we will all be entering our 3rd tri. over the next month! WOW!

[christeenybeany]

The sleeping thing: I have a cradle (a HUGE homemade one) in our bedroom by the bedside. The baby can either sleep in the cradle or with me in bed. I'm hoping the cradle will last 5-6 months or so. The cradle is really big. Then we'll take it from there. If the baby is still waking up at night, we'll get something for the room (crib or something) but ds was good about sleeping through at least most of the night pretty early. I"m hoping we can do that again. If co-sleeping happens, then it happens. I'm not going to push it, though. I am a very selfish person when it comes to my sleep. I neeeeeed it. I can't share it with a baby and not resent it eventually except for the occassional nightmare or ear infection.

I'm glad to hear I'm not alone in going through a tired as heck streak. I'm hoping to get over this soon. I have alot to do! I'm getting behind on schoolwork.

[ilovebeingamom]

Thanks, mommycaroline, for your answer. I don't have a class to help me with the hypnobirthing, so any insight is appreciated. I do have the instructor's number, and she is actually my back up doula, so I will have to call her sometime and ask the rest of my questions. It has already helped me become excited about this birth, I have had such a time finding dr.'s, etc for my VBAC that I was very discouraged. Even though there is the tiny voice that says, "but what if I can't?" , I think it still helps, because it just helps me be excited about the baby, period. I didn't experience any labor last time, so just to be able to experience it this time would be great. And if I end up having a c/s, I know I will have to deal with some grief, but at least I am not dreading the birth and the possibility of another c/s.

I have been tired too! I don't think I ever stopped being tired. Ds is a great napper, though, so I am spoiled with my afternoon naps. Everyone knows not to call here in the afternoon b/c I won't answer the phone.

lena-i think we are going to have our baby sleep in the crib, in our room. The baby will definitely be in our room, no matter what, but I am thinking I will use the crib this time b/c with our ds, once he was mobil, I was so worried that he was going to fall out of our bed. So when I heard him on the monitor moving around, I would rush in to make sure he was ok. So that made him a very light sleeper, I believe. I know we could put our mattress on the floor, but I just don't want to. I am sure this babe will spend some time in our bed, but maybe not as much as ds did. Ds now sleeps in his own bed, but comes into our room sometimes at night. So I am also worried about him crawling/rolling on the baby, since children aren't aware like we are of the baby in the bed. I am sure it will get worked out once baby is here!

I am looking forward to third trimester too! I am so excited about this baby on the way!

[Jlcampbellkidz]

I didn't really think of it as co-sleeping with my first daughter. She did sleep in bed with me the first two nights and then in the cradle up until 6 months. I would put her in bed with me to breastfeed on several occations. At two years old she sleeps in her bed and just comes in our room occationally.
I havn't thought much about sleeping arrangements for this baby other than the cradle. I already have it set up next to the bed. I plan on just taking it one day at a time and just seeing how this baby is.

Hypnobirthing? I am interested but I don't think we can afford classes. Does anyone have advice or has been through it. Basically I have heard good things from woman who have chosen to use it for thier births. I am just not sure were to look or begin and what's available for how much $$$ Any info would be greatly appreciated.

Had a 25 1/2 week apt. with the midwife today. I gained 6 pounds since my last visit. I fully expected to get griped at but she said it was good since I had just made it back to my starting weight at the last visit. I was measuring 26 1/2 weeks. First time to be measuring larger than my weeks. I can tell the baby and I have had a growth spurt. I need to take another photo to add to my belly pics and then I will share with you all. Glucose test next time. I don't mind the drink cause I love orange soda but i hate the one hour wait and blood test. My sister had GD with two of her three pregnancies. I really don't want the test to come back with (-) results. Urgh. I hate prenatal tests :

[Solange]

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Well Laurie I understand your concern about the Glucose test... I had my appt today and did not even think about the possibility of testing high...but guess what, I did, and now I have to go in for the 3 hour test next Friday


I am a bit worried b/c I am measuring 28 weeks and I am only 26. My CNMW thought it was weight gain but I only gained 3 lbs since my last months visit and have gained total only about 15lbs. She measured me before the test and I did not get to see her after the test so I do not know if the two could be related..just my assumption.
I have also been having vision issues that I have been ignoring and now wonder if it all is adding up.
I am 35 and my grandmother had diabetes so who knows.....all I know is that I am not looking forward to fasting ...I am fearful I may pass out with no food until 12pm(my appt is for 9am) since I cannot eat at all after midnight the night before my appt. SO that will be 12 hours no food.

I sure I hope that next Friday's test comes back that I do not have GD.

*sigh*

Stressing out about $$$
Stressing out about diapers......changed my origional plan....

My BFW instructor is coming to see us on Sunday...happy for that!

Dodo..you poor girl.....

Bears....

Ketilave take care of yourself....make mamma time

too tired to type any more...so ITA with everyone on this second phase of pooping out....

sorry I cannot address more of you..back to my self absorportion...

[ketilave]

Katje got the CDs for hypnobirthing. Ithink hypnobabies but I could be wrong. You could take the classes but the success rate of doing it on your own is really high.

I haven't thought of any of these things. Right now a friend has my moses basket which I keep downstairs and we co-sleep for the most part in the beginning. Then I kind of let the kids decide. Both of mine started sleeping in their room when the started having their own nap schedule. They got used to sleeping without me and now I am a distraction. When they aren't feeling well or just want to they come in our bed.

[mommycaroline]

Starting a new thread. This one's getting kind of long. I'll post a summary of what's been going on.

[Jlcampbellkidz]

Ap: so sorry about the glucose testing. I am just praying for my test to go well. I will add you to my prayers. About measuring larger. I have been told that it isn't unusual to measure 2 or 3 weeks larger from time to time. I wouldn't worry.