My twins are now 9 months old and my oldest is 5 years old. I thought that I was doing okay, because I did not experience PPD with the twins, but I did experience it when my 5 year old was an infant. I manage to get out the house and keep my 5 year old busy while finding time to have fun with the babies. Everybody is healthy (thank God), we are still succesfully breastfeeding, and we are happy. I guess this comes at a cost, because my house is a mess.
My house is much neater than it was when the babies were younger, but it is a mess. We have lots of family around, but my decision to breastfeed gave lots of my family reason to believe that they just couldn't help. We don't get many visitors that can stay long enough for me to really clean any one room, but we try. I often stay up late at night so that I can get a good amount of laundry done or so that I can really get a room clean, but it leaves me exhausted and cranky.
I am trying to find a balance, and I don't want my home's neatness to mean that I am in an even more zombie like state. Things are improving and we are considering hiring a sitter so that I can clean more, but am I missing something?
Am I the only mom with twins that needs an emergency housekeeper?
I have asked for help, but folks are busy. I get it, and its okay, but it hurts when visitors only offer advice about what I should be doing and how it is okay for the babies to cry for a while. My babies do cry, but I am not excited about having them cry for hours or even longer than necessary. My mom has suggested that I give my youngest babe a bottle, but I will not take that advice.
In an ideal world, I could have family help, but at this point, I plan to hire a sitter while I am at home so that I can clean a little better.
A recent house guest suggested Sitter City after deciding that we needed help. I was open to the suggestion, but I was hurt as my guest seemed to be disgusted with how unorganized things seemed to be at my house. It might have hurt more because of who my guest is, my best friend. My best friend is single, and our lives are drastically different, but while I recall never really "getting it" when I was single, I do remember being a lot more supportive. I remember reorganizing my friend's cabinet after deep cleaning her kitchen after she had baby #2. I now understand that folks aren't going to do that, and I shouldn't expect them to.
Have things gotten easier once your babes got older? Am I off base?
I know that this was long and rambly, but thank you for reading. Just trying to figure out if I am actually behind the curve regarding this whole cleaning while juggling thing.