Originally Posted by mamatoemily
My DD is 14 months and hasn't done this yet. I am planning to start THINKING about it around 2...but I met with a child psychologist after my Ex and I split up to get advice about overnights. He said that it is a very delicate thing to handle because nighttime is such a vulnerable time for children (and adults!). He said it all depended on what kind of child she was developing into (needy, independent, etc), and how much time my Ex put into bonding with her. He said I would just know if it was appropriate to try or not....
It's ideal if both parents are child-focused enough to go along with such a plan. But if a mother's being taken to court for visitation (IDK if the OP is, or not), the judge will likely want a more defined proposal from her; or will impose his own time-frame.
I think my ex and I agreed to start overnights for our twins at age 4 (we split up when they were 2).
My state has reasonably progressive guidelines, as far as handling visitation differently for kids of different ages. They recommend no overnights before age 3 unless the baby/toddler was accustomed to them before the parents went to court: http://www.in.gov/judiciary/rules/parenting/index.html (read Section II, parts A & B)