Oh wow, I just had a whole novel of a post about this typed out and it apparently got eaten by the internet.
My dd, 2.5, goes to preschool 3 days a week, 8:30-12:20. The preschool is fantastic, small, loving, kind etc etc. She loved it and went happily from September-December, until she came down with an ear infection while at preschool and spiked a high fever. We got there quickly but I still think it scared her a bit to be without her mama when she really wanted me. We only had two preschool days after that before Christmas break and she was definitely more worried on drop-off than she ever had been before. Then our heater broke, leaking carbon monoxide so we left our house to stay with my parents for two weeks until they could get the replacement part and fix it.
She went to preschool from my parents house last week, and had a bit of a rough time, and suddenly started stressing and crying about pooping. Her teachers were great, snuggled her, read to her etc to calm her down. Then on Monday she really had a hard day, crying throughout the day about wanting me, stressed about pooping etc. So her teachers suggested that maybe I should stay for a morning. On tuesday evening and Wednesday morning DD kept starting to cry about not wanting to go to preschool with no provocation on my part. On Wednesday, I went and stayed the whole time, she started out clingy and then eventually relaxed and became her playful self, but is still worried and upset about going to preschool.
Background on the poop issue- DD had chronic, painful constipation (like requiring major use of miralax, suppositories and other things that really aren't pleasant) from infancy-toddler until she potty-learned this summer (of her own volition) she is still occasionally worried about pooping, and pooping usually involves hanging out in the bathroom for 10-15 minutes talking and relaxing with one of us holding her hands before she goes. But she doesn't have constipation anymore, and doesn't need any treatment to poop successfully.
I spoke to her teacher some about DD's general worries that she expresses quite well verbally, her teacher commented to me that she seems slightly abnormal in her anxiety, although she doesn't always have anxiety about things, when she does it's pretty intense.
Help me make preschool better again for her! Any thoughts on things I can do?