I am a (newly minted!) SAHM with a 4 month old daughter. She was a healthy (and painful!) 8lbs 3oz at birth, and by our super-scientific weigh-at-home method, she is 16+lbs at this time. (Her check-up is in a few days, so we'll have a weight confirmation shortly.) She is exclusively breast-fed every 3 hours on schedule during the day, and she seems very happy with the arrangement, never arriving at "starving to death" prior to her scheduled feeding time, and, if something disturbs our routine, she happily goes 4 and sometimes even 5 hours before giving me all sorts of hell about taking my shirt off.
We complete our bedtime routine by about 8pm, having nursed her at 7:30pm. Here is where I need some advice from more seasoned Mommies.
She's sleeping through me coming to bed between 11pm and 12pm on a more regular basis. She used to wake up, and I'd nurse her back down. When she does sleep through me coming to bed, she wakes up to nurse at some point when it's totally dark and husband is in bed with us, so I am guessing sometime around 1am-3am. (I've never checked the clock. That would require more movement than I care to make at that hour.) She wakes up reliably between 6am-7am and nurses again.
I don't know if I should wake her at 11pm to nurse. 7:30pm to 3am seems like a mighty long time for such a little girl to go without nursing... but I also feel wrong waking a perfectly happy sleeping baby.
My own mother is zero help on this one, as her only daughter (me! yay!) slept so much and so deeply that she failed to eat enough to gain weight and required what little medical intervention was available where we lived. I was deemed as "failing to thrive" and so instilled an almighty fear of not feeding the baby in Mom. My daughter happily nurses every 3 hours, and doesn't fall asleep until she'd full... should I wake her up during that long stretch from 7:30pm to at least 1am and maybe as late as 3am?
(My apologies if this belongs in breastfeeding.)