Does your child have living grandparents? Or are your parents far enough away or unable to have a regular relationship with your child?
My parents are deceased and my daughter's father's parents live over 12 hours away. We have not seen them in a couple of years. His mother's dementia is getting worse and doesn't remember everybody. Both are up in age.
My father died when I was about 11 yrs old. My mother died a month before Anna was born.
I guess this is one thing I didn't think about ahead of time. Anna will talk a lot about grandparents after we are around kids with their grandparents. I can see the longing there and wonder if any of you are going through the same thing. She will tell me that she wishes she had a grandma, too.
It would be wonderful to have an adopted Grandma to do things with. A friend suggested visiting a nursing home, but she is very leary of older people like that and, after seeing them, there is a lot of questions about sickness and dying. I don't think she is quite up to that kind of a Grandma or Grandpa relationship.