Ok so I'm 4 months PP npw, and still not feeling 100%, feeling maybe, 75%. I'm terrified to have sex again. Luckily, my DH and I have been so busy and exhausted it hasn't really come up more than a couple of times.
The kicker? I am hornier than I have been in like, a decade. I mean, I'm soaking pantyliners during the day and definately "awake" down there. I'd really like to take advantage of this!!
Question 1: We're cosleeping, and Kai is pretty high needs. He wont sleep alone for more than maybe 45 minutes, and especially since I returned to work, has been up every 1-2 hours to nurse...around the clock. Any advice on how to manage this? I mean, logistically, what have other mamas done?
Question 2: How do I get over the fear??? I still have perineal pain from the 2nd degree tear (my RN friend who was at the birth said it could have been called a third degree tear) and tend to be very swollen and uncomfrotable, especially if I go more than a week between yoga classes, which unfortuantly happens often since I went back to work. Any advice on getting over this?
Thing is? DH was NOT into sex during the pregnancy, we did it maybe 3 times in those 9 1/2 months. Now, that means we've basically gone 13 1/2 months without sex. It's bumming me out, and I know it's bummng him out too, though he tries really hard to be supportive and patient since I am a bit stressed out these days.
Sigh, any advice would be awesome!!!