DD, 13, has been mean to DD, 9, for years. It is long and complicated. I did take DD to task for it, fruitlessly, many times. It was a daily theme in our house for a long time. In the last 6 months or so she has made great strides in being nicer to her sister. Great strides.
DD, age 9, is starting to have a bit of an attitude. She does do things (such as screeching or noise making) on purpose to annoy her sister. She occasionally makes mean comments.
part of me thinks: DD, 13, you were mean to her for years - now it is your turn. I have little pity.
and another part of me thinks:
Older DD is making such great strides! I should take DD, 9, to task for any behaviour against her sister, in support of DD making great strides and a more peaceful house and because the behaviour is inappropriate.
It is hard for me to be hard on the youngest when part of me thinks the older one has it coming to her for years of mean-ness.
Edited by purslaine - 1/15/12 at 7:34am