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[Mom31]

I think the OP knows she made a bad choice in not using birth control- we surely don't know for sure if she did or not right.  I don't think this is the time to say things like that to her.

PMing you.

[habitat]

Originally Posted by TTC1983 

OP - I am going to say one thing, sorry, but you have been very irresponsible. You said this pregnancy resulted from a 'friends with benefits' fling? How could you have been so silly as to not exercise proper use of birth control in such a situation? Anyway, it's happened now, and you have a decision to make.

TTC, this part of your post is arrogant, disrespectful and shaming. People fall into pregnancy for all kinds of reasons. Birth control fails every day. There is no magic 100% guarantee that someone isn't going to get pregnant. The habit of blaming and shaming women for unplanned pregnancies is absurd. It's a lot like saying women haven no business having sex outside of marriage, which is a blatantly patriarchal point of view. What about poor people? Should they never have sex? Wagging fingers at other women is presumptuous and unsupportive. Pregnancies happen. Women are not the only ones who should be burdened with the responsibility of birth control.  It's this kind of isolating attitude that intimidates mothers out of seeking support.

Keep shaming out of support threads, please.

OP, I have had an accidental pregnancy and I support you in whatever choice you make. Try to go the route that feels the most natural, whatever that may be. IT'S YOUR CHOICE.

Edited by habitat - 2/7/12 at 9:03pm

[hazeldust]

Also TTC, I think Adina was talking more about debating abortion, not mentioning it as an option..They mods want us to stay on topic with the OP, not start debating whether she should or should not have an abortion. The support is the important thing here..OP, good luck to you. You are in a difficult spot and I hope you find peace and healing, whatever you may choose.

[AdinaL]

Originally Posted by hazeldust 

Also TTC, I think Adina was talking more about debating abortion, not mentioning it as an option..They mods want us to stay on topic with the OP, not start debating whether she should or should not have an abortion. The support is the important thing here..OP, good luck to you. You are in a difficult spot and I hope you find peace and healing, whatever you may choose.

Yes, that would be the case.  I also did not want this to devolve into a discussion about the morality/ethics of abortion, that's the kind of debate we don't wish to host.  I was in no way trying to be dismissive, but rather trying to keep this thread from being shut down.