sometimes when people talk about two year olds having a hard time, i think it's because families are often welcoming a new babe around that time. like, it's not just their age but how their family is changing so much during that year or pregnancy and then a newborn. i think that makes it harder for them on top of all that they are already going through. and, thus so much harder on us mamas. my 2nd was born when my first was 27 months and it was so intense for me that pregnancy. things have been so much better this time around and i think their older ages are one part of the reason.
one thing that i am thankful for is the growth we have seen in our youngest who will be four in feb. i always say that 3 is like the month of march, "in like a lion, out like a lamb" if that makes sense. they seem so wild and out of control and frustrated at the beginning of 3 but by the time they are almost 4 there is so much more self-control and clear communication, etc. that make it easier to work with them. i was so worried about how she was going to be during this pregnancy and in welcoming the new babe. i have been constantly surprised by her though and am really thinking it's going to be fabulous seeing her flourish as a big sister.
so, in spite of all of that, i totally need time by myself and space and get overwhelmed like every mother in the world does. DH took over nighttime parenting a long time ago and it helps our family life soooooooo much. they have no expectation of me putting them to bath, bed or toothbrushing. it's all the dada. when we were first new parents and doing kangaroo care/co-sleeping with our tiny babe, DH always commented on how he would have missed out on so much had he not slept close to her (since he worked outside of the home then all week). having the kids transition to nightime parenting with their dads, if possible while still preggo may help.
uhm, i also get a massage every week these days and there is nothing like that to help with intense days! i look forward to it all day long. go get one, my fellow preggos!