January 16th - Page 2

[element2012]

I have a super crunchy MW like montessorimama who won't do any cervical checks, stripping membranes etc until after 41 weeks.  I've felt quite a bit of cervical pinchies today, so I am hoping that means sometime soon...

devaskyla, you sound so calm about your husband rearranging the living room today!  I literally couldn't sleep last night just because of the current configuration of my living room.  My husband put our piano in a place that for some reason really bothered me.  The first thing I did today, after griping about it here, was move that piano back to its proper place  (it's on casters, so while it was heavy, nothing that was dangerous or anything).  Do men get nest-y?  I am starting to think so.  The good thing about his unacceptable rearrangement is that it did kick in my nesting instinct (finally!) and I got a lot of cleaning done today.

Kaitlyn, just curious what all are you currently doing to try to bring on labor?

[Kaitlyn811]

Not too much since a lot of things require purchasing - with money I'd rather save for medical bills, or another emergency, etc.

Anyway, I take EPO orally (I'm not comfortable doing it vaginally), each visit now I'm having the MW strip membranes (so once a week or so), oh and laugh at this - I'll let the water from the shower head hit my nipples as a way of stimulation lmbo, other than that..just trying to keep active (hard to do with sciatic nerve pain), tried the spicy food thing tonight. Sex isn't an option for me. (:

[lisamarie1081]

Originally Posted by Kaitlyn811 

mm Chinese leftovers! I'm jealous! I'm very surprised your MW isn't willing (lack of a better word) to at least sweep some membranes! Especially since you're past 40 weeks, what's her reasoning?

I have an appointment tomorrow morning, and I think my game plan is to..do another membrane sweep, they're hooking me up for another NST, and with the sweep I'll obviously have an exam. I'm going to schedule another BPP at the end of this week when I'll be 42 weeks (or maybe early next week..) to check my placenta and uterus are make sure both are healthy enough to maintain a pregnancy. And maybe..just maybe..I'll schedule an induction for around 43 ish weeks. But if everything is healthy still..then why risk an induction? I'm battling back and forth in my head..fearing a C section more and more. Baby isn't moving as much because she's running out of room and it just makes me worry.

Oh why must my baby do this to me? lol!

Time to chill out!!!  : )  You're stressing yourself way too much.  Planning on going 43 weeks?  You probably won't.  You and I are in the exact same boat ... almost same number of days late ... same worries and fears ... same appt plans (tomorrow and Friday)!  Just take it one day at a time and let your mind rest easy for a little while.  I know it's easier said than done, but what will all this research and worry do for us?  Nothing good, for sure.  In fact, I'm a firm believer that it's possible that all of our stress and worry could be hurting our little ones more than a *mild* induction would. 

Let's sleep well tonight, huh?!  :)

[Kaitlyn811]

I'm hoping I don't! But I'm glad someone can completely relate - I'm done reading. And if one more person tells me to get an induction - I am no longer responsible for their bodily harm. I'm trying not to stress, it's incredibly hard when I fear missing my class because my LO is being highly uncooperative. I had posted something on facebook about fearing an induction and I almost felt ganged up on by some of my female friends that I should get an induction even if it goes against my birth plan. For what reason? They are insinuating that my baby is at risk of health/medical reasons if I don't get an induction ASAP. Really? I don't have HBP or GD, etc. I'm just totally irritated.

Speaking of uncooperative LO, she is REALLY trying to move around in there - yeeeouch!

[juneboymum]

Oh ladies, I'm so sorry there is so much anxiety and stress.  I totally know what you are going through.  I remember my mom being appalled at what strangers would do and say to me at the grocery store when I was way overdue with DS1.  I swear, no matter how educated and kind a person is, when it comes to saying stuff to a pregnant woman, most people are just idiots.  I say that if friends/relatives are annoying the crap out of you then just turn off the phones, put some sort of message on your voice mail/facebook/bedroom door saying everything is fine but you are in hibernation mode (or something like that), stay off facebook, don't answer the door, etc.  I've been though all you are going through.  You are all being so strong and doing what is best for your babies regardless of what others are telling you.  They will come when they are ready.  The advice to make a conscious effort to just relax and connect with your baby is excellent.  These last couple days/weeks are soooooo long but I promise it will be over before you know it.  Do whatever makes you happy! 

Today was more of the same for me....nothing new in terms of labor signs.  I'm still not expecting any for probably another week or so.  Work was crazy busy and I had several clients who's chins hit the floor when they asked when I was due and I said Saturday.  It's not like I'm going to drop a baby on the floor during our 30 minute appt!  I do think about how funny it would be if my water dramatically broke in the middle of an appointment, though.  He He.

I do need some ideas on what I can do with DS1 (2.5 yrs old) to have a fun day.  Today my husband was home with him since it was a holiday and they just had the greatest time doing "boy things".  I'm sure he's sick of being stuck at home with his whale of a mom who can't run and tackle, play chase, gymnastics, etc.  He's so active and I know he gets bored with me.  It's really cold so we haven't been going to the playground, zoo, etc like we usually do.  Tomorrow he'll probably tell me to go back to work so his dad can stay home.  He's done it before :(.  Maybe we'll go to an indoor play area at the mall or something.  Anything to get out of the house!

I really hope everyone gets a good night sleep (unless there is some serious labor going on!) and has a better day tomorrow!  Big hugs for everyone!

[mamasmoman]

Ugh. We were car four in a five-car pile up Thursday night. Felt alright after the accident, but went to the hospital thinking they'd monitor me for awhile(like an hour)...wanted to be safe. Ended up staying twenty-four hours and being hooked up to various beeping monitoring devices. They found a pretty high number of fetal blood cells in my bloodstream and my poor uterus was terribly irritated for a couple of hours(Read: little but painful and frequent contractions). Came home Friday evening and am on "couch rest". 39w4d. Have a midwife appt. tomorrow and will hopefully be able to resume normal activity until delivery.

Sorry to hear that some of you mamas are strung out and hormonal, but it makes me feel slightly less whiny and insane :D

[chilichiki]

eek, mamasmoman!!  Glad everything is okay! I would have had a heart attack just waiting to get to the hospital to make sure everything is alright!  My parents were hit by a drunk driver about three weeks before I was born (exactly on the passenger side where my mom was sitting).  The only thing that kept her and I from being hurt was the fact that my parents were driving one of this big conversion vans and the guy that ran the stop sign was in a Chevette.  I can't imagine getting into an accident now...I think I would rip the other person a new one.

Kaitlyn- I mentioned something on my facebook about a possible induction and the majority of my friends spoke out vehemently against it, much like on here.  In fact, most of the people  I talk to are against it as well...  But then again, I seem to have a whole let of hippie friends :o)

Had my NST, BPP, and check up today.  Both the ultrasound tech AND my doctor expressed amazement that my water has not broken yet.  Apparently there is next to nothing left of my cervix and baby has been steadily moving down.  They have been telling me for weeks that my cervix was thinning, but this time I could actually see what they were talking about right away on the ultrasound.  And I am dilated to almost three...which I know doesn't really matter, but makes me feel a bit better.

When I left the office, the tech told me she didn't expect to see me at the appointment next week...I told her she just jinxed me.

Part of me thinks "yes, this kid is coming anytime now!", but a slightly bigger part of me thinks "Who am I kidding?  He isn't coming out until he hits 43 weeks!"

Please be the first!!

The past three nights have been full of contractions...but it was like that last week, and the week before that...

I hate the wait and see of all this.  I am not a very patient pregnant woman! Neither is my 4 year old.  Every morning he asks me if Henry is here...like he might have missed it during the night   When I tell him no, he says "But I'm ready for him now!"  Believe me, I am right there with you buddy!

And my god, I don't think I have ever felt this uncomfortable!

[Kaitlyn811]

That is so darn cute about your son! LMBO! It must be absolute torture for him waiting for his sibling to get here!

Mama - so sorry to hear about your accident but glad you and baby are ok! How awful!

June - I've stood my ground with them and intend to with my MW tomorrow. This bully crap is for the birds! I commented on FB "well if you all want to start an induction/medical bill fund for me be my guest but I'm paying entirely on my own and I'll do what I please!" And it's the truth - hell, no one is paying for it but me and it's easy for them to say oh yeah get an induction, really? I do not like the idea of pitocin whatsoever. I have a friend who is so anti-main stream medical yet is sooo pro induction/c-section. What sense does that make? I knew people were irritating before becoming pregnant..but now? Good Lord no wonder I need coaxed to get out of the house! Ha (:

[element2012]

To kaitlyn:
 

Originally Posted by lisamarie1081 

Time to chill out!!!  : )

This. Times 100.  I know it's MUCH easier said than done but I feel its the most important thing you can do for you and your babe.  Like take bubble baths and listen to whatever music totally zens you out time.  You know that this baby is going to come (soon) and can take comfort in that.  You've probably read about how stress and uncertainty can affect or even temporarily stop labor.  What can you do daily to bring yourself some peace?  I feel if we can get your anxiety level down, your body will relax enough to do the work it has to do now.  Affirmations (I can send you some if you like), visualization of your dream delivery (including date and time of day), maybe a little meditation.... I hope you can find some peace now, you are so close mama!!

And to momasmoman, so glad you're ok!

[AfricanQueen99]

Mamasmoman - I was just thinking about you last night and assumed you had your baby since we hadn't heard from you.  That car accident sounds so scary.  Was your child in the car, too?

[lisamarie1081]

Originally Posted by Kaitlyn811 

I'm hoping I don't! But I'm glad someone can completely relate - I'm done reading. And if one more person tells me to get an induction - I am no longer responsible for their bodily harm. I'm trying not to stress, it's incredibly hard when I fear missing my class because my LO is being highly uncooperative. I had posted something on facebook about fearing an induction and I almost felt ganged up on by some of my female friends that I should get an induction even if it goes against my birth plan. For what reason? They are insinuating that my baby is at risk of health/medical reasons if I don't get an induction ASAP. Really? I don't have HBP or GD, etc. I'm just totally irritated.

Speaking of uncooperative LO, she is REALLY trying to move around in there - yeeeouch!

I'm with you on the induction thing, entirely.  It is THE ONLY fear I have going into this week and THE ONLY fear I've had throughout my entire pregnancy.  And, really, it's not so much the actual induction, but the fact that everyone thinks they know everything.  I don't just have people telling me my baby will be healthier (HA!) if I have an induction, but people saying ludicrous things like "they won't let you go past friday", etc ... who's the say they won't?!  It's been so hard for me to remember throughout all this -- but it is YOUR BODY, YOUR BABY and YOUR DECISION.  When you show up at the ER to have this baby, they have to deliver it (if you are going the hospital route -- we had to, no other options here).  :)  THey may not like you very much during or after the fact, but you exercised your right.

The other thing that keeps me sane is that this baby cannot make decisions for itself.  We're the ones responsible for knowing good from bad for them, now, despite all the external social pressures of the world.  Yes, doctors are supposed to advise in our best interests, but they don't necessarily (or knowingly).  It's all on us from here on out.  Those thoughts help me feel better, mostly because I only feel pressure through my dh -- I have tremendous faith and acquired knowledge ... he is willing to hand over his faith to the docs and trust what they tell him rather than really research things for himself.  So, when I go into "protection mode", I feel less bad about possibly hurting his feelings or disappointing him.  I know I'm making good mothering decisions -- an d you are too!  :)

So wishing that I actively joined this group earlier in my pregnancy!  Looking forward to sharing the trials of first-time-motherhood with you ladies!