We've been homeschooling for a year now. My 7 year old son absolutely refuses to participate in anything school-ish. He throws a fit, screams "no" at me, whines and complains. When I make it clear that he needs to sit at the table and participate, he glares at me, mutters under his breath, and complains the whole time. His work takes ten times longer than it should because he complains so much and drags it out. If I sit with him, I have to endure his complaints and grumbles. If I explain his work and walk away, he will mess around or simply leave the table. If I make it clear that he will have no play time or toys until "school" is done, he just makes me sit there and be the enforcer instead of taking responsibility for his own work. If I tell him he may not act disrespectfully at me, and the he must go to his room until he is ready to be kind and participate, he will either go to his room and play with toys for a long time, or say he's going to be good and then the whole thing begins again two minutes later.
I expect so very little "work" from him. An hour or two a day of simple handwriting practice, arithmetic, journaling and reading. As much as I try to keep it fun and interesting, he is so resistant to everything, it doesn't seem to matter if it's fun and creative, or if it's a worksheet. Radical unschooling is not an option for us.
I am at the end of my rope and ready to send him back to school. He is making me, his sister (4 yo), and my husband miserable. I spend most of my day on discipline instead of on learning and playing. He had an absolutely miserable time in school, and we thought that bringing him home might change his mind on learning and education, but he's just as angry and resentful as ever. My thoughts are that if he is so miserable here, and so miserable at school, that perhaps I should just send him back to school because at least then I have a quiet house for 7 hours a day.
Please, I am at the end of my rope and have no idea how to handle this boy any more. I can no longer retain my cool, and I feel myself growing angry and resentful.