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post #21 of 96
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Do you all feel a physical...sort of emptiness, an ache, when your babes aren't attached or nearby? I can't imagine how I'll ever want to be farther than a room away from him. I don't at all feel the desire some of you have expressed to have baby-free time. He's too far away even when DH holds him while I shower! Yes, I'd like to be able to put him down long enough to get a clean shirt over my head, but that's about it. Anything else....well, it feels like someone cut out my lung and now I'm supposed to go on without it. He just feels so much a part of me! 


I feel both at the same time.  :)  Yesterday I went to the chiro while my mom watched LO.  It was a very, very quick trip.  It was the first time I drove by myself and it felt very lonely.  O and I usually listen to the radio and sing crappy pop songs "together".

 

post #22 of 96

Azadehhast, I know the feeling you're talking about... for me, part of wanting baby-free time is so I can do stuff with my big kids! I was pretty bummed out when it wasn't a snow day today, I miss them when they're at school (sometimes by the end of the weekend I'm ready for some peace and quiet, lol) DH and I are going out on Sunday and I'm NOT being a big suck about it, I'm going to go and enjoy it whether I like it or not, LOL! It's going to be hard! Stephanie will be with mom and her brother and sister, and it's a time of day where she often naps... she will be okay.

 

I just made appointments for the whole family at what I hope will be our new family doctor. The last interview set the bar nice and low... as long as there aren't needles on the floor at this place and the doctor isn't totally condescending, I think we'll be happy! The location couldn't be better, it's a 2KM walk from home, in the same building as a lab and x-ray place and across the street from the Safeway where we get our prescriptions.

post #23 of 96

I want to be able to put her down, but I'm selective about the conditions, if that makes sense. I don't want to be -away- from her-- DH and his mom kicked me out of the house at 3 weeks pp, because they both thought I needed time without her. I practically counted the minutes until I came home. It was good to be out, yes, but I would much rather DH and DD have been with me. And when I'm not holding her, I want her to be in DH's arms, or happy in her swing or something... for some reason the quickest way for me to want to hold her again, is for someone else other than DH to be holding her. 

 

I think, the best way to describe it, is that I really wish I was-able- to be her down. I think if we had that, I'd be so much more excited to hold her, because I would still feel like I had freedom, whereas right now, it's stressful knowing that I can't can't her down without her screaming, even for things like eating and going to the bathroom. 

post #24 of 96
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Originally Posted by Azadehhast View Post

DH and Winter went with me this morning to get my haircut--baby slept on papa while the ladies cooed over him, and now I feel all cute and happy when I look in the mirror--yay! It's definitely the longest I've gone without baby on me....serious withdrawals! Do you all feel a physical...sort of emptiness, an ache, when your babes aren't attached or nearby? I can't imagine how I'll ever want to be farther than a room away from him. I don't at all feel the desire some of you have expressed to have baby-free time. He's too far away even when DH holds him while I shower! Yes, I'd like to be able to put him down long enough to get a clean shirt over my head, but that's about it. Anything else....well, it feels like someone cut out my lung and now I'm supposed to go on without it. He just feels so much a part of me! God, I'm so in love with this little old soul. All I want for the rest of my life is just to be his mother.

I love this snow! I love how cozy and warm babywearing makes baby, and how not worried I am about keeping him warm outside!


Oh. Yes. This. Dear God yes. The "baby is not in my arms ache" is awful. His favorite spot, and mine for him too, is inside my shirt, skin-to-skin. It's one of our "if nothing else will calm him, this will" moves. We put Owen down in the moses basket in one room one day, and he stretched out happily and slept. Then my sister, mom, DH and I were going to go into the next room to have lunch, and I couldn't walk out of the room without bawling. We brought the moses basket in with us, no problem, but all of this crying has caught me somewhat unawares. At this point I can leave him with one of them long enough to take a shower, but that's it, and it's a darn fast shower too! 

 

And yes, isn't babywearing the best? Pop the little guy in a carrier inside my coat, put a hat on him, and off we go! Snuggly warm :-)

post #25 of 96

Benny, all those finished jobs sound WONDERful! And my parents bug me about birth control after every baby. Shut up mom and dad, we'll provide and raise these children!!


 

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DF is in the reserves (Marine) and has drill this weekend. So, I am going to be home, all alone, with all three kiddos, this weekend. I am REALLY nervous about it! I asked my sister if she could come stay with me this weekend and she can't. I HOPE I get through it with all my hair! Wish me luck!

DF and I have been able to DTD a few times, and each time gets better. I have a libido this time around


SB, my DH is in the Army reserves and has drill this weekend, too. I'll have my 5 alone all weekend, I can totally relate! Also, I have interest in DTD and never had before 9-12 months PP with other babes, interesting....

 

I DO not like being away from baby. But, he is an easy guy and I can put him in the swing for at least 2 hours a day to shower, teach big kids, etc.

So exciting to read about the love of the first time mamas!

 

post #26 of 96
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SB, my DH is in the Army reserves and has drill this weekend, too. I'll have my 5 alone all weekend, I can totally relate! Also, I have interest in DTD and never had before 9-12 months PP with other babes, interesting....

 

I DO not like being away from baby. But, he is an easy guy and I can put him in the swing for at least 2 hours a day to shower, teach big kids, etc.

So exciting to read about the love of the first time mamas!

 


Good luck this weekend too!!

 

I have to leave baby at home with his daddy when I go to class. It's hard for me to do that.. but I don't have a problem with putting him down when I need to do other stuff around the house. I can't listen to him cry though.. but it rarely happens. 

 

post #27 of 96

I like holding baby too...I just feel trapped at times because there is so much that needs done around the house and I feel like my boys don't get enough quality time with me.

 

Small sucess - Naomi is 8lbs 8oz now (she will be 6 weeks tomorrow and was 8lbs 10oz at birth...but has been gaining from 7lbs 15oz) she gained about 3 1/2 ounces in the past week. Pediatrician did say he feels she needs greater quantity during feeds and wants us to let her on breast and then when we follow with bottle increase it from 2oz bottles to 3-4oz bottles and just feed her as much or as little was she wants. He believes she takes the bottle slowly enough that she won't overfeed...hopefully that is the case! He also thinks she will be fine JUST breastfeeding with no supplimentation at night, but, I know we aren't quite there yet. She still has thrush (though he said its almsot gone and he looked much more closely this time) and he suggested we wait a week for it to clear up and then if she still isn't sucking well he encouraged the lip tie cut and even said based off of her feeding she may have a tongue tie he just can't see it so he encouraged us to get that checked out by a lactation consultant if she still isn't feeding well after the thrish clears up. It was a really good appointment. :-) We are seeing an ENT next Friday that is experienced with posterior ties for a second opinion/consult. Not sure where we will go from there (maybe we will wait another week or two and then decide - our pediatrician suggested we hang on until her 2 month appointment and then if there are  still any issues clip but that he would support as doing it at any point before then as well).

 

We signed my 4yo up for art classes today and he is so excited! He also got "home work" from preschool today and was excited about that...so cute! And Naomi just does not stop grinning and cooing I lvoe it!

post #28 of 96

I also got off work for next Friday..now I only have to work 3 days my first week back (Tuesday-Thursday)! ;-)

post #29 of 96

You know, for me it's not about whether or not he knows you'll keep breastfeeding, it's about being supportive and respectful of you while you do it. It's worthwhile, and it's worth working through it even when it's hard, but that doesn't mean it's okay to brush off that it IS hard, or to make it harder for you by discouraging you from getting the support and services you need to make it something that ISN'T excruciatingly painful for six months. I'm sorry, I've held my tongue til now but I've honestly been really bothered by the struggles you're having with your DH over this and I really truly hope you get what you need to make this bf'ing relationship a non-painful one, whether or not DH is in your corner on it. =/

 

I love holding my son, and snuggling with him and spending hours having "conversations" with him or just watching him watch the world. But I'm getting to the point where I'd like to be able to put him down for an hour while he naps, so I can get a shower and do a load of dishes. And I'd REALLY like to have one stretch of sleep a night where he's in the sidecar. I'm starting to get achy sleeping in the same positions all-night-every-night, and I miss snuggling with my DH. =/

 

Oh, and it would be nice to be able to dtd without DS screaming his objection about being out-of-arms for ten minutes. He seriously has the most uncanny ability to wake up within five minutes of being put down, no matter how conked out he was previously. =P

post #30 of 96
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I love holding my son, and snuggling with him and spending hours having "conversations" with him or just watching him watch the world. But I'm getting to the point where I'd like to be able to put him down for an hour while he naps, so I can get a shower and do a load of dishes. And I'd REALLY like to have one stretch of sleep a night where he's in the sidecar. I'm starting to get achy sleeping in the same positions all-night-every-night, and I miss snuggling with my DH. =/

Oh, and it would be nice to be able to dtd without DS screaming his objection about being out-of-arms for ten minutes. He seriously has the most uncanny ability to wake up within five minutes of being put down, no matter how conked out he was previously. =P

Fortunately it's my DH who sleeps with her, but I miss cuddling with him in bed!!

Haha, my girl wakes up whenever she's put down too!
post #31 of 96
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Originally Posted by aeterna View Post

You know, for me it's not about whether or not he knows you'll keep breastfeeding, it's about being supportive and respectful of you while you do it. It's worthwhile, and it's worth working through it even when it's hard, but that doesn't mean it's okay to brush off that it IS hard, or to make it harder for you by discouraging you from getting the support and services you need to make it something that ISN'T excruciatingly painful for six months. I'm sorry, I've held my tongue til now but I've honestly been really bothered by the struggles you're having with your DH over this and I really truly hope you get what you need to make this bf'ing relationship a non-painful one, whether or not DH is in your corner on it. =/

 

I love holding my son, and snuggling with him and spending hours having "conversations" with him or just watching him watch the world. But I'm getting to the point where I'd like to be able to put him down for an hour while he naps, so I can get a shower and do a load of dishes. And I'd REALLY like to have one stretch of sleep a night where he's in the sidecar. I'm starting to get achy sleeping in the same positions all-night-every-night, and I miss snuggling with my DH. =/

 

Oh, and it would be nice to be able to dtd without DS screaming his objection about being out-of-arms for ten minutes. He seriously has the most uncanny ability to wake up within five minutes of being put down, no matter how conked out he was previously. =P



I don't know if you've mentioned this already.. maybe you have... but, have you tried swaddling? It works just about every time for Elliott when he can't or won't settle down. I wrap him up really tight and rock him a bit and he passes right out. 

post #32 of 96
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I don't know if you've mentioned this already.. maybe you have... but, have you tried swaddling? It works just about every time for Elliott when he can't or won't settle down. I wrap him up really tight and rock him a bit and he passes right out. 



Yeah this helps N too! We love the Halo swaddling blankets especially but it can be done with any blanket...

 

Just planned our last weekday playdate for tomorrow...*sniff*

 

post #33 of 96


 

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Originally Posted by aeterna View Post

You know, for me it's not about whether or not he knows you'll keep breastfeeding, it's about being supportive and respectful of you while you do it. It's worthwhile, and it's worth working through it even when it's hard, but that doesn't mean it's okay to brush off that it IS hard, or to make it harder for you by discouraging you from getting the support and services you need to make it something that ISN'T excruciatingly painful for six months. I'm sorry, I've held my tongue til now but I've honestly been really bothered by the struggles you're having with your DH over this and I really truly hope you get what you need to make this bf'ing relationship a non-painful one, whether or not DH is in your corner on it. =/

 

yeahthat.gif I agree!

I second the swaddling! That's the only way we can DTD. :) DS sleeps really well at night, as long as he's right next to one of us, but really poorly during the day. The only way to get him to sleep is to wear him, which is lovely, but there are *some* things you can't do with a baby on you!

 

Heather, we do that too! When nothing else seems to work, I strip us both down (except for bra and breast pads....oh the constantly dripping nipples!) and cuddle up. It works well to wear him like that too, as no guests pop in unannounced!

post #34 of 96

I love swaddling!  I swaddled my dd1 until around 6 months for bed time in the huge anais aden swaddling blankets.  I use the halo sleep sacks with the twins and that works well for night time.  Question about nursing lying down/side lying :  my babes latch seem to suffer in this position - or they latch, suck, fall asleep and let all the milk dribble out until we are laying in a puddle.  I am literally surrounded by puddles.  We are back to sleeping on towels.  They sleep fine between these feedings so they must be getting some in them (though it doesn't seem like it from the amount dribbling out)  I don't remember this with dd1.

Yeast rash on A cleared up with lotrimin (the nystatin cream didn't work) the nystatin solution worked for her oral thrush but then M got oral thrush and the nystatin did nothing.  So we opted for gentian violet and it worked after only 2 treatments.  Plus he looked all goth.

 

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post #35 of 96

DSB- Cute lol - at least one good thing out of it ;-) Glad they are cleared up! Naomi's thrush is almost better (with Nystatin) too...and I am taking Diflucan as well as putting some of her Nystatin on my nips just to make sure and sterlizing all her nipples and bottles and pump parts about twice a day...I didn't really think we had it at first, but, now I think we did have a minor case of it...glad N's pediatrician caught it quickly! Now I am trying to decide if I will scald the frozen milk before giving it to her or jsut give it to her straight up. I think I will probably scald it..I hate to kill the antibodies but I hate for her to get thrush again either...the last thing either of us needs is more BF trouble LOL

 

Our speech pathologist is coming Thursday! Soo glad they are moving quickly with this!

 

 

post #36 of 96

I remember my son with his purple mouth!!!  It's messy, but it works! 

post #37 of 96

Hmmm... I thought I commented earlier... Caitlin wants Stephanie to have 'lipstick' now, too!

 

Our MW appointment went well yesterday, Stephanie is up to 9 pounds, 10 ounces. I was telling the other kids at supper last night and DS was like "So she's improved by nearly two pounds!" LOL, I need to remember that next time the scale isn't friendly to me! 

 

I went to pick the kids up from school but they had both arranged to go over to friends houses, so I came home with just Stephanie. DH is working tomorrow, he's taking a bus over to the island and will be gone most of the day. My big kids are big enough that it's not a big deal, though. Wow, I used a lot of bigs there! 

 

In other news, I caught the bug and I'm working on a drawing for Stephanie's room. Just a doodle, basically but I'll share a picture when I'm done if it's any good. DD1 has a cross-stitch and DS has a blankie I quilted, so Stephanie needs something made by me, too.

post #38 of 96

OMG I think I might be allergic to diflucan!!! MY arms have been burning badly all day getting worse and worse (this is my second day on diflucan) and I finally looked i nthe mirror to put vasaline o nthem because I thought my skin was just really dry and I have what looks like BURNS all on my arms...but I can't think of anything they have come in contact with so all I can think of is allergic reaction! :-/ Hopefully not...going to call my MW tomorrow if it hasn't cleared up...it doesn't seem to be anywhere else..so I may jsut wait and see if it spreads also. Eitehr way this rash is horrible!!!

 

I'll write something interesting tomorrow lol I'm sleepy. :-)

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post #40 of 96

For some reason my post above didn't show up.  Weird.  When I went into edit it was there.  I had a funny picture but oh well.

 

Lilmomma - I hope your rash clears up.  Take benadryl if it is itchy and looks like hives or welts.  I'd stop the diflucan until talking to the MW or doc.

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