Originally Posted by BennyPai
Heather: Way to go, trusting your instinct and staying close to your baby.
My MIL attempted to get my first baby to sleep in a crib using CIO while DP and I were on a short bike ride. I was shocked when I returned. She thought she'd helped to free me somehow. I never left another infant with her, and went on co-sleeping with our baby girl. I still don't understand why people think we need to be "rescued" from a natural and healthy attachment with our infants. Since then, I've read a lot on the benefits of attachment parenting and I'm so glad I trusted my instincts.
Yeah, the only person we've 'left' Tenley with so far is my MIL (and by left I mean we were either napping, or outside in the hot tub destressing for 20 minutes). And it's because I know that while she may not agree with all of our choices, she will come over, do dishes and clean until we're ready to hand the baby over, and then she will do nothing other than hold her while she sleeps. Seriously, the first time she came over, about a week pp, because DH and I were seeing stars from lack of sleep, and we handed Tenley over sleeping already, and MIL sat down in a chair, and didn't move for almost 3 hours. She didn't even turn the tv on. I feel bad when she does it, but at least I know she's not going to be putting her in a crib to cry without my knowledge.
We've only given DD a few bottles, but I put 4oz in, and she always takes it. She would probably take more, but I worry about her overfeeding, since she can't control the flow. "They" say that at this age 3-5oz I think is normal, so i figure we stick with the 4, and if she needs more, then she can have another bottle, but at least it forces her/us to stop and take a break in between without mindlessly overfeednig her. We also burp her after every ounce when she's feeding from a bottle.
My mother keeps offering to take DD for the night to give DH and I a break. I keep turning her down, saying that I don't -want- to be away from her, especially for that long. She has a ahrd time believing that I don't want to be away from her, I just want someone else to be here with me while I'm dealing with it.