Originally Posted by Azadehhast
Everyone is always asking what they can buy for baby, but we dont need anything, and I'm wishing I could ask for a bra and a pair of pants or something.
On pacis, Winter has phases where he's quite dependent on his. I hated it at first, but now we've had a few days where he wont take it, but wanted to comfort suck all day, and all he would take was the breast. I love nursing my baby, but those days weren't so fun! He has, though, developed a second suck; he'll suckdeeply and drink when he's hungry, but when he doesn't want any more milk, he switches to a shallow, tongue-y suck that doesn't draw as much milk.
Ok, I've got to ask: are anyone else's babies not so fond of their papas? DH has been home since W was born, and we all spend lots of time together, but Winter is very much a mam's boy, and he just cries whenever his papa has him. He does fine with women who aren't me, but he doesn't like men. My baby likes the boobies!
For Christmas my father wanted to make stockings for everyone, and asked what to put in Tenley's. We do stocking prices of $10-15, so dollar store stuff, and there was nothing she needed, so we told him to get mommy and daddy chocolate for T's stocking, because if mama a'int happy, a'int nobody happy! lol Really, if people want to help you guys, then they should be willing to buy things that will help you- which will help Winter!
We were the same with a paci. I had bought some, but I really wasn't planning on introducing them until after 6 weeks, as per breastfeeding recommendations... But seriously, we asked for one after the first night in the hospital. She nursed for 24 hours straight, and I was so exhausted and my nipples were raw. I was cringing every time she tried to latch on. We use them now, though try not to offer it unless she's already distressed and it seems like she needs it. I really do credit it with keeping me breastfeeding-- if I didn't have that bit of respite, I think I would have quit when my nipples were raw, cracked and bleeding. It helped give me the 5 minutes, 10 minutes etc that I needed to get back into a headspace where I could nurse her lovingly, instead of grudgingly.
Re: mama/daddy love. She loves us for different things. If she's awake and happy, it's daddy she wants to be with, hands down. He's the one that she coos and talks and smiles at, and the one she will look towards for reactions when she does stuff. If she needs cuddles or to sleep though, I'm generally the only one that can calm her. It sucks for me both ways I think! Sometimes when she's fussy I'd love to hand her off and have 30 minutes of quiet, but she just gets more agitated with him.