I'm at a bit of a loss for how to handle this situation... My DS is 3 yo and in preschool two mornings a week. He seems to be in time-out at least once each day he is there, for various things, but mostly for pushing and poking at the other kids, and in general being "a disruption." Today, he told me he had to go in time-out for knocking a little girl down.
About a week ago, he told me he didn't want to go to school because he didn't have any friends, and he didn't think the other kids liked him. So, I'm assuming that's at least partly where the "aggression" is coming in...I think he wants to play with the other kids but doesn't know how. I've wondered if DS may be attempting to be friendly to the other children at first, and then when they don't answer or respond in kind, he thinks they don't like him. I know at drop-off today, he said good morning to a boy in his class, and the little boy looked right at him and then turned around and walked away. (not that I'm expecting 3 yr. olds to be social experts by any means, but still...)
I just don't get it...we never seem to have this problem at the playground when we go...he marches right up to any kids around and says, "Hi! I'm DS...wanna play?" And he's always been such a happy, extroverted child. He's the kind of person who never meets a stranger.
I want so badly to help him with this, but I don't know how, or if this is just something every kid has to deal with at some point, and maybe I should step back and let him work it out. I've tried to have a few light discussions where we talk about how to be a good friend and about not pushing/hitting, but I worry that he thinks I'm blaming him or that he's "bad." I would love to have playdates with other children, to practice and so he could possibly find a friend, but that isn't really an option at this point in time... None of my friends have kids, and actually, we don't really know anyone with kids anywhere near his age.