I gave birth to a son in 2011. I am a single mom. I read everything I could get my hands on about custody and fair visitation, etc.
I allowed father 24/7 access of his child and updated him on everything, always. I offered him visitation in my home from day one and said we would work up to out of home short visits as baby got older to eventually every other weekend and two evenings a week on top of that.
Father sued me in court and got shared custody at 9 weeks old. So to the OP, please try to work with him.It is better that the two of you come together and try to make a schedule that you are both happy with. I live in PA where laws have changed and unless the other parent has a criminal record, it is shared parenting.
I do believe that shared parenting in most cases, can work. My case is not one of them. My son is the one who pays the price. Father has him today and I waited for them to show for a Doctor's appointment for 50 minutes. He never even called the office. Judge does not seem to care. Father lives in a very dangerous neighborhood and has not held a job for two years. In the courtroom, judge stated that I am the superior parent and father should look to me for any suggestions/help with the child. But, it doesn't matter. Shared parenting is the wave of the future.