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[Polliwog]

NCFamily, I would start with your local DSS office. Pretty much all standard foster care in our area goes through social services. I'm in Orange but I know that things are fairly similar in Wake. Another forum poster, Christophersmom?, likes in your county and has fostered, and adopted, there.

[christophersmom]

Originally Posted by Polliwog 

NCFamily, I would start with your local DSS office. Pretty much all standard foster care in our area goes through social services. I'm in Orange but I know that things are fairly similar in Wake. Another forum poster, Christophersmom?, likes in your county and has fostered, and adopted, there.

Yep, I adopted from local dss office. I have one adoption where we don't have any bio family contact and one open adoption. It was what was best in the second adoption. I didn't feel strongly going in one way or another but so happy we have it available as an option with our 2nd daughter. We see bio-dad 3-4 times a year, see bio-mom about the same and she goes to daycare with her nephew (who is 3 months older and also adopted to someone who lives close to us). It's easier to do visits with bio-dad because his main interest is knowing she's okay and little pressure.
PM me if you have any questions about the local DSS office.

[Smithie]

My daughter  thinks about and talks about her birthparents often. They are always a part of her even though she does not know them. Not knowing them or why she placed for adoption are real losses for her. She grieves her losses.

I have really noticed this with my soon-to-be-adopted-son. He is NOT grieving, because he knows why he is being given up for adoption and knows that he will see his biological mother again. I really agonized over telling him about her addiction issues, but my husband insisted that we tell the truth from the get-go and he was totally right. The truth is so much less bad than the things he would imagine in the absence of information.