I am struggling to discipline my son and thought I would ask the thoughtful and creative mamas here for some suggestions.
DS is almost 3 and has entered the full-fledged tantrum stage. He has hit me a number of times and actually bit me a few days ago when I took a ball away from him (it belonged to someone else who was leaving the park). I am worried that he will start hitting and biting other kids soon. The confusing part for me is that he has a language disorder so I'm not sure how to help him. His receptive language is way behind so he has the emotions of a 2-3 year old but the language comprehension of a much younger child.
For the most part we work to make sure he controls his environment. The tantrums are happening when there is something we can't bend on (touching a hot plate, jumping off the counter, standing on an unstable chair, etc). What is happening right now is I give him one clear verbal warning (i.e. "sit down please") and if he doesn't I have been picking him up and sitting him down in the chair or putting him on the ground. He is then flipping out - screaming, arching, kicking, etc. I've been trying to be close and calm and let him know I'm there. I've also been providing some very simple words ("you are angry"). After a minute or two he was calming down and then coming to me for hugs and reassurance.
This worked for a while but now he is sometimes lashing out at me, running up to me and trying to bite or hit me. I'm at a loss how to handle this. Should I restrain him? I've never held him down in any way before and that seems wrong to me but perhaps not? I've also tried removing myself but he chases after me, wildly swinging at me and I'm worried he will hurt himself running after me. I don't feel like I can talk to him or reason with him when he's in the middle of these.
I would love to hear any ideas. Am I doing anything wrong here?