Hi All! I would love any help with information or if anyone has the same sort of things they've observed.
Background: DS is 5 years old and in Pre-Kindergarten.
Sensory Precursors: My DS was a late crawler (1 year), pulled chunks of hair out and stuck into his mouth while sucking on his fingers in a total relaxed state (odd I know; it didn't hurt him and was sensory related), and for a good year and a half now he flaps his hands and runs back and forth.
- extremely early and advanced verbal skills
- amazing memory
- reasoning skills that are far above his years
- very numbers oriented
- imaginary friends since age 2 (they come and go - even to school with him ;-))
- unique interests for his age: - currently into memorizing everyone's addresses, putting them into google earth then adding them to his contact lists on devices like iPad (contact list is his favorite device activity); very into geography and maps; around 18 months or so his big interest was garage doors, etc.
- not really into typical toys for children, although he will play with them briefly
- every teacher has always told me he's "really, really smart" as in unusually, and he "marches to the beat of his own drum."
- he connects similarities of things that I can't even begin to have seen until he shows them to me...it amazes me. This happens all the time.
- prefers to talk to the teachers at school and has one good friend
- not very social at school but is well liked
- would prefer to stay home with me then be at school (makes me sad but this isn't an option)
- has zero interest in team activities like soccer. Played last year and never talked to teammates
- very social with kids he knows well and is comfortable with
- there's more...just can't think!
When he started flapping and running back and forth we got a bit perplexed. I used to teach special ed and knew it seemed autistic spectrum, but he doesn't exactly fit that. His interests are very unique and intense. He seems very bright--not just bright. His Pre-K teacher told me that he wasn't just smart, but "gifted." He has a hard time relating to the other kids in his class. He is just on another wave length. Etc.
So our pedi wanted him to go to a developmental specialist who discovered he was NOT Au spectrum which was had deducted, but was about a year behind on fine motor. We had an OT eval and he has SPD with vestibular issues, along with not crossing his midline (bilateral issues). YAY for some answers on the sensory quirkiness! I'm convinced he has a mild case b/c besides the occasional running back and forth, flapping in class (during free centers), he hasn't had it interrupt his classroom function. The developmental specialist also wanted him IQ tested. She said he was "too silly and engaging" to be AS, but his interests and cognitive ability seemed definitely above a 5 year old.
Sorry for the novel, BUT does anyone have a child dealing with what they think is SPD and Gifted? Not sure my son is even gifted but we've been told he's different (cognitive-wise) since he was a toddler. Adults love him. I'm trying to really determine if these gifted-like traits are just SPD-related or if he's truly a gifted child. If he is, it will determine his schooling route.
Thanks if you read all of this...I'm sorry it was so long. I can't find anyone out there I know who has a kid like mine, so I'd love to find anyone with common ground.