DS has always been a very social kid. Even as a baby, we HAD to get out in the mornings EVERY DAY or he would be completely miserable. I had pictured domestic bliss, hanging out with my baby every day, staying in PJs til noon and just bonding with him at home. But nope. We had to be out of the house by 9 or he'd start melting down. So I adapted.
As soon as he was old enough, I started him in a toddler gymnastics class once a week. He LOVED it, and it gave him the activity and stimulation he needed to wear him out so he could nap in the afternoon. He's been doing that for 2 years so far, and has progressed really well. Now he is in a "real" class with only a few other kids (all boys) and it's a 90 minute class. The coach moved him up b/c he wasn't nearly challenged enough in her preschooler class. He liked it at first, but now after 6 months is saying he wants to quit. He seems to like it while he's there, but always says he doesn't want to go. Last session, I sat him down and said, "It's time to sign up for gymnastics again. You keep saying you don't want to go. If you don't want to go, we'll stop. If you do want to go, we need to pay now." He said he wanted to keep going, so we signed him up. Now he's complaining that he doesn't want to go.
He did the same thing with soccer class. It's not a team, just a skills class for 3-5 year olds. He liked it at first, then decided he didn't want to do it anymore, so we stopped. He complained about going, but then had a blast while there. But since the complaining continued, I let him stop.
He goes to preschool three mornings per week. Then he was doing soccer one morning and gymnastics one morning. Now he wants to cut everything but school.
I am definitely NOT one to push my child into being overscheduled. It seems that his activity "needs" are changing and we'd be better off just doing museums and playdates on his days off. But DH wants him to continue in at least a sport, and I kind of agree. The kid is very athletic, and very energetic, but is moving quickly towards being satisfied with TV and video games. (We don't do a lot of screen time at our house, but he has educational games on the computer that he can play and he loves to watch PBS videos on trains.) I really want to keep him active and not let him become the couch potato I was raised to be. But I also don't want to force him into activities he doesn't like.
Is it fair to tell a 4 yo he HAS to do a sport, and just let him choose? (And of course we can vary it -- we're not married to one for life, but some of the programs have annual memberships you have to pay in addition to the class fees, so it's wasteful if we don't stay for the whole year.) Do we let him take time off and wait til next year? And hope he doesn't start liking being at home all the time in the process?