The ONE Thread Jan 22 - 29 - Page 3

[skinnyloveBC]

Ahh! I feel so behind! Sorry I've been MIA for days... I'm learning about myself that when I'm in the TWW, I tend to try not to think about my symptoms or what DPO it is because it all gets so stressful for me. But then I start to feel like a hermit and that's no good either! Haha. I've been keeping track of everyone's updates daily, and I'm so hopeful for all you other ladies in the TWW! It all sounds so promising, and I'm sending you lots of positive vibes!! You all have your own personal cheerleader here!

AFM: I've been doing a daily relaxation/meditation track from Circle + Bloom. I really like it, except that it's so hard to do at home! When DH is home, he wants to lay in bed with me while I do it, but then he falls asleep and starts snoring and it's soooo irritating and distracting. When he's not home, the dogs (a yorkie/maltese and border collie) want to lay right up against me--feels like I'm suffocating!   Not relaxing at all, but oh well, I know they're all doing it out of love.

I've been drinking dirt-flavored tea (mix of herbs from the acupuncturist) to help balance out my "kidney yin and yang deficiency." It's pretty disgusting but hopefully it helps!

DH did a SA over the weekend and OMG it said that he had 160 million sperm per mL. That just seems like so many! But they have pretty poor morphology, so he's going to work on taking more vitamins and not drinking alcohol for a bit (difficult considering we're home brewers...). By the way, does anyone else get a little bit grossed out thinking about sperms?? We were looking at all of these diagrams depicting poor morphology (weird shapes and the like) and I nearly got sick. Hopefully, it's just nausea because I'm pregnant and just don't know it! Haha yeah right, probably not.

[LisaAdkins20]

Originally Posted by sleepingbeauty 

Ever noticed that when all you want is to start a family of your own everyone around you is knocked up? 3 friends...then another got her BFP today.  Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them...but geez....  I figure I don't have to explain myself to you guys.  I know I'm not the only one feeling like that.

I know exactly what you mean! Every month when AF comes around for me, someone else announces that they are pregnant. Today I got a text from someone else saying that they are pregnant! This sucks! All I want to do is cry. In addition, this month my chart (first one) is going to be all off, because I am running a fever since yesterday. Caught the stomach bug- vomiting without end. But I guess that is good practice :P

[LisaAdkins20]

Originally Posted by sleepingbeauty 

Ever noticed that when all you want is to start a family of your own everyone around you is knocked up? 3 friends...then another got her BFP today.  Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them...but geez....  I figure I don't have to explain myself to you guys.  I know I'm not the only one feeling like that.

I know exactly what you mean! Every month when AF comes around for me, someone else announces that they are pregnant. Today I got a text from someone else saying that they are pregnant! This sucks! All I want to do is cry. In addition, this month my chart (first one) is going to be all off, because I am running a fever since yesterday. Caught the stomach bug- vomiting without end. But I guess that is good practice :P

[skinnyloveBC]

doularebekah: It seems like you ovulated between CD10 and 11? Have you tried a B6 supplement to even things out? I ovulated a couple of days late and had a really short LP (8 days) in November and started taking B6 after that. I've been ovulating earlier again and have had a normal length LP. I only take 50 mg per day though throughout my cycle. I read that jumping into 100 mg can throw your cycle off. I also read that taking it the whole cycle will help balance everything out by moving ovulation closer to the middle and lengthening LP accordingly. Seems like it has helped keep my cycle on track. Just a thought!

It sure is confusing when your body seems to change things up just for fun.

[RavenMadMommy]

I love reading everyone's updates, but I'm terrible at responding to them all so please forgive me. I'm 11 DPO and got another BFN this morning. I'm going out-of-my-mind crazy with these progesterone suppositories that are giving me all the signs and symptoms of being pregnant with one crucial piece missing. I would be due to greet AF tomorrow without the progesterone but instead I just want to rip someone's %($)#**%&$*#( head off with my teeth (and there's no box on Fertility Friend that quite covers that "symptom"). I have a blood test on Friday morning so I'm just trying to keep my homicidal urges in check until then.

[LindsayDawn]

Hi quick question -- am I ovulating today?

OPK just showed not quite as dark as the reference line (but close - darker than yesterday).

It's the first day of EW CM. The weird thing is I had a little bit of spotting.

[John16n33]

I don't know if there is any 100% way to tell what day you ovulated until after the fact and your temps shift.  I would say you are definitely fertile though with the OPK, EWCM, and spotting!

[skinnyloveBC]

Originally Posted by LindsayDawn 

Hi quick question -- am I ovulating today?

OPK just showed not quite as dark as the reference line (but close - darker than yesterday).

It's the first day of EW CM. The weird thing is I had a little bit of spotting.

I've never had a positive OPK line that was darker than the reference line--they're usually just a lot darker than my normal. I agree with the PP that you're at the very least fertile if not actually ovulating today. When do you take your OPKs? I've always had the best luck with SMU somewhere between 11 a.m. and noon. FMU never really showed a reliable surge.
 

[LindsayDawn]

I've been using the OPK at noon, based on a post I saw on here somewhere. :) Thank you for the input!

[LisaAdkins20]

Is OPK a ovulation test? Sorry, im just trying to keep up :)

[Lisoula]

Originally Posted by LisaAdkins20 

Is OPK a ovulation test? Sorry, im just trying to keep up :)

Yes - ovulation predictor kit :)

[skinnyloveBC]

Yes, it stands for ovulation predictor kit. No problem!

[aHikaru]

Thanks skinnyloveBC 

AFM

I feel so silly for getting upset about the last two BFN's. I actually ended up buying a couple CB tests instead of FR and actually read the instructions, which clearly states 4 days before your missed period there is a 50% change of accuracy, which is good news for me considering I'm only on CD20 / 28-30, so I'm still a little hopeful, just not as much as before. 

Edited by aHikaru - 1/24/12 at 4:22pm

[doularebekah]

Stevi - It's definitely a bit crazy when your body does unexpected things! Hopefully you're feeling back to normal soon. 

SleepingBeauty - I totally know what you mean, and it's hard. No one knows we're trying and so of course I don't expect them to be extra sensitive - especially because they should be happy about being pregnant - but it can't help but bring it back home that we're not pregnant/don't have kids yet. Just think how great you'll feel once you're all done with college and are in a place where you feel totally ready to be a parent, the wait is hard but it's going to be so worth it!

LadyCatherine - Hope you're doing well! Fingers crossed!

Cassandraz - I know this is easier said than done, but try not to feel too discouraged. There's still time for testing and a BFP, hang in there!

dbl_my_luv - It sounds like you're doing really well :) It's such a great feeling to know that you're treating your body well!

SkinnyLove - Good to see you, girl! I think taking a bit of a break during the 2WW is a really great idea. I'm actually looking forward to going back to school next week because it will take my mind of things. It sounds like you're having a really productive and healthy time, too. Dirt flavoured tea, mmmm! Haha. I haven't been to Circle+Bloom before, but it looks like it has a ton of great resources and I totally want to try some daily relaxation. I was cracking up picturing you trying to get it done with dogs and a snoring husband! Oh, speaking of which congrats on the SA results! That's fantastic news :) So yeah, I do think I O'd between CD10 & 11, according to what I have to go on at the moment anyway. So still a slim chance! I've actually been taking a B complex for a few weeks or so, plus the Vitex so I'm wondering if the combination of the two have evened things out and this is the new normal? 

RavenMadMommy - Haha yes, always best to keep homicidal tendencies in check! Ugh, I feel you though - it must be rough. Especially with seemingly pregnant symptoms! I guess because of the progesterone you also don't have a clear idea of when AF is coming this cycle, either? You can do it, though! We're all here for you, feel free to rant and rave whenever you need to .

LindsayDawn - Like others have mentioned, the only reliable way to tell if you've O'd is by a temp shift. Some people ovulate on the day of or the day after a positive OPK, so it might take a couple of cycles using OPK's to get a clear idea. The best is really just to BD as much as possible during that fertile time! Good luck!

AFM - I've decided to override my FF chart by setting O at CD10 for now until anything changes. Nothing much to report apart from a bit of nausea and headaches, but because that could be metformin side-effects I'm just trying to relax and not analyse things too much! Also, it's WORKOUT WEDNESDAY which I know you're all excited about! Ha! This week I've been doing quite a bit of walking, and also picked up a new swimsuit (or togs, as we'd call them here) that's more of an exercise type one because I have my first aqua aerobics class tomorrow. My husband and I have also signed up for a yoga class starting Feb 14th - romantic, no?

[anyalily]

Finally catching up on this thread.

Lisa I am so sorry to hea you have a tummy bug. We had it recently and it sucks sucks sucks! I hope you are already better.

Lindsay, get to it, lady!

This is my last week full of working and I am so ready to be home. It is hard to leave work because it is a family business and I don't have anyone stepping in to fill my shoes, so I know there is going to be stress on my folks. I know that it is absolutely the right thing for my daughter's nutritional health and my own well-being to take some time at home. 

I feel like every day I have to make the decision whether or not to TTC. I think it is a sign that I am still on the fence. I apologize for sounding like a broken record, but it helps to soundboard this stuff here. I really do want to get my body back and balance out my emotions and all. But it is hard for me to say, "I am going to take two or three months to lose some weight" because I am afraid I won't do it and then I will be just three more months down the road and not pregnant yet... It isn't that I am in a red hot hurry to have a baby... I am not afraid to take a little time... I just don't want to waste time if I am not going to turn my health around.

It isn't a huge project. I am about 25 pounds over my healthy weight. A little exercise goes a long way for me, and kicking sugar and cutting back on wheat and dairy would just about do it for me. It is my head that is in my way! Every time I have a good morning or even a good day, my fatigue and stress catches up with me in the evening and I overeat. Ugh.

I just have to hold out hope that once I am home with my DD, I will find a little rhythm and balance and be able to be more intentional about my food choices. Packing lunches while I am making two breakfasts is always a challenge.

Sorry for the fat post!

[LadyCatherine185]

AF is officially LATE this morning. She always arrives first thing in the morning at 10 DPO, and today I am 10-12 DPO.... of course, she could still come late as I know 10 day LP is pretty short, but it is typical for me. Still testing negative. I have the Wondfo test strips I got on Amazon.. anyone have experience with these? I am thinking of picking up an FRER tomorrow if I don't get AF by then... I only have ONE wondfo left!

[John16n33]

doularebekah- Sounds like a lot of fun exercise is in your future.  I love water aerobics and have a friend who teaches it here on base, but she always has it at the weirdest times (9:00 p.m. Tuesday and Thursday and 6:30 a.m. Saturday) I try to make it to the Saturday class but that is the only day I have to sleep in so it's kind of hard lol.

anyalily- Yay for getting to be a SAHM! I admit that I found it a lot easier (or less stressful at least) to make healthy choices for me and my family when I am at home instead of working.  When I was working I was either stressed or exhausted from lack of sleep over the weekend all the time (I worked weekend doubles in an emergency room) that I just didn't have the energy to think about what was going into our bodies.

[jpack]

****Note that the pic below is NOT a new BFP, it was from last month! ****

FXed LadyCatherine, I had great results with the Wondfos when I did get pregnant last cycle. I felt like they were really accurate and it was easy for me to judge when they stopped getting darker. I'd say my batch was totally reliable. GOOD LUCK to you! At least this pic proves they're better than CB digital (Hope you can see OK in the pic, it was a clear BFP on the strip and "not pregnant" on the digi) This was last cycle - m/c about 9 days after first BFP. I had wanted to share this pic last month any way, so here it is!

Anyalily you did a great job describing your thoughts on the issue that you're facing right now. I totally hear you, and FXed that you're gonna find feelings of success whatever happens! Good luck with the transition to staying at home. Do you have stay at home parent/friends who will be allies during the day? For me, it takes some active focus to structure my days so that DD and I are not home, driving each other crazy and snacking too much. But, I've also found that I burn a lot of calories at the park!

SkinnyLoveBC I couldn't get a pos OPK either for the first couple months that I tried. I switched to using the wondfo brand, and that may have helped (I double dipped with my old babyhopes strips when I got pos with the Wondfos and it wasn't positive - dark but not positive). It drove me crazy!

AFM I keep going back and forth about trying over the next week. It bugs me that the only rationalization for waiting a cycle after a chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage is for the "woman's emotional recovery" and for dating. On the other hand, I'm still spotting. It's a tiny bit, but it's kinda bugging me because it has been close to two weeks. Bleh! I've got an apt with a new midwife that I'm excited about, but it's not for another week. With any luck, the spotting will stop and I'll have Oed already by then!

[LindsayDawn]

No temp shift today. Yes, we're taking care of business! Mostly I'm just confused about what the spotting was yesterday.

[LadyCatherine185]

I ran to the bathroom twice this morning thinking I was going to hurl.

Also took another PG test, I swear there was a shadow of a line on there.. but then it disappeared.. haha. I am going to pick up some FRER's this afternoon. :)