I'm having a hard time figuring out where this baby (our first) is going to sleep. I'm just going to type out my current thoughts to see if anything becomes clearer, but I also welcome any opinions or solutions. I definitely want to room-share. We'll set up our 2nd bedroom as a "nursery" but we'll keep our futon in there (for quiet adult sleeping for whoever isn't with baby) instead of a crib for an indefinite amount of time.
We currently have a full-size bed. The mattress is pretty terrible and would be unbearable without a memory foam topper, but I don't think I'd feel safe with baby in bed with us on the topper. We do not have a box spring since it won't fit up the stairs; we have bedslats in an ikea bedframe. There are ready-to-assemble box springs that would work (to raise the bed height, etc) but they are $150+. We would like to upgrade to a bigger/better bed, but I'm not sure if we can afford it given all the upcoming baby expenses
I think bedsharing would be nice, but it would be impossible in our current bed, my partner is concerned about it at all, and we'd still need a place for baby to nap.
I think the Arm's Reach Cosleeper could be an option, but we could not secure it as intended with our current bed . Plus I think it is kind of expensive.
We could use a pack 'n play with bassinet feature (NOT the weird babyseat thing some of them have, but the raised sleeping surface). This is the one I like: http://www.target.com/p/Bright-Starts-InGenuity-SleepEasy-Play-Yard-Briarcliff/-/A-13303219
I'd have sit up to reach over to get at the baby and couldn't really touch the baby with our bed at its current height. My concern with this option is that there doesn't seem to be a safe way to put sheets/a mattress pad on the bassinet surface which could get messy, and since it isn't a mattress, it might not be that comfortable for the baby.
We could have a crib freestanding and within a few inches of our bed (or right up next to it depending on the safety of the mattress heights). I could reach through the slats to touch the baby occasionally, but I'd still have to sit up to pull the baby over the side of the bed. This would solve the issue of where the baby would nap, and it would be a relatively inexpensive option.
We could sidecar a crib, but we can't push it against the wall (our room is not square) so I would be concerned about a gap between mattresses even if we could secure the frames.
We could get a new mattress, skip the bedframe, and put a crib/toddler/twin mattress next to it for the baby, but once again I'm not sure how we would avoid a gap. Another option for putting our mattress on the floor would be the Summer Infant Rest Assured Sleeper (http://www.amazon.com/Summer-Infant-Rest-Assured-Sleeper/dp/B004J7VHVG/ref=pd_sbs_ba_8) for the first few months. My partner would love to have the mattress on the floor (or a platform bed) but I have a couple issues with it:
- If we're going to get a new/bigger mattress, I want it now, and I am not sure I will be able to get up from the floor when I am super pregnant or recovering from birth.
- In previous places (all of them were shared apartment buildings) we had vermin problems and I felt much safer sleeping up high off the ground where critters could go UNDER me instead of crawling ON me. We are now in a single family rowhome and haven't seen any pests, but there's no guarantee since we're in an urban area.
We could use a family bassinet (my dad slept in it, my siblings/cousins/I slept in it, my nieces/nephews slept in it). I could get a new custom mattress and sheets, and I could check the slat width and test for lead paint, but it definitely breaks the rule about not using an old crib. It is only for really young babies, so we'd have to come up with another option once the baby was mobile.
Whew, that was long! But it helps to have written it all out.