Ds1 will be 8 next month. He spends a fair amount of time just not doing anything in particular. A little while ago he was relaxing in the rocking chair looking outside just kind of daydreaming (I asked him later what he was thinking about and he said Mario Brothers!) for about 20 minutes. Now he's sitting of the sofa making weird random noises. We are chatting a bit off and on, but mostly he's just chilling out, doing nothing in particular. Oh, he just went to get a book he's read a zillion times to ask me if kids' names out of it are real names.
Anyhow, he does this a lot. He doesn't play a lot on his own. Sometimes he'll get really into a project and will be quite engaged in that, but there's a lot of downtime in his life. He does go through phases where he's doing more, but this last phase has been loooooooong - partly because of the big change in our life this last year (a baby) means that we aren't on the go as much as before.
On one hand I feel like downtime is good. Time to relax, to process stuff going on in your life, figure things out, reflect, daydream. All good.
On the other, I see him lazing around and something in side of me wants to scream "GET OFF YOUR BUTT AND DO SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE AND MEANINGFUL!".
Thankfully I don't actually scream this at him, but we have had some conversations about the value of meaningful work, following your passions, asking him if he is happy, etc. He's not an easy kid to get to talk though.
So I'm wondering, do other kids do this? How do you know how much is too much? Can there be too much? Are other kids all engaged and inspired by life all the time, jumping from one project or activity to the next, smiling and loving every minute?!
Help! I'm having a panic attack!!! :)