I am really struggling with Godparents this time around. We're Catholic and for me, it's important to have a Godparent that is active in their faith and can serve as a role model to the faith. My dh is less concerned about that. He knows they obviously have to be Catholic (at least one of them) but doesn't feel they play that much of a role in faith formation. His experience was that he just got extra gifts from his Godparents! lol!
For our first, we chose my sister (who at the time was an active Catholic but has since switched faiths, which really bothers me now since she is my ds's Godmother) and my dh's best friend. For our second child, we chose my SIL and dh's cousin. For this baby, we're at a loss. I'm not close to my brother and he's not at all religious, so he's out. There are no other siblings for either of us. My best friend and her husband are very devout Catholics and would be great, but they live in another state about 9 hours away so they couldn't really be actively involved in the baby's life. They could send cards and gifts and such, but they wouldn't play as active a role as the Godparents we currently have do. For instance, our kids still just have family parties for birthdays so we invite our immediate family and the Godparents to any big event like that. And of course, the Godparents would be expected to come to the baptism (obviously!) and any other sacraments. And that might be hard for my best friend because they are so far away and have 5 kids of their own! I also thought of asking some local people from our church. We've gotten to know some families through a bible study we're in and a babysitting co-op we're in. They are local so could attend events and they are also actively Catholic, but I'm not super close with them. So, one, I'd feel weird asking and two, I worry that if they moved or something, they might not be people we'd normally keep in touch with.
So I am at a loss. Any thoughts on my situation? What are you planning to do?