poverty - Page 6

[maciascl]

I am really trying not to panic right now. Dh signed all the paperwork for a new job about a month ago but was never given a start date. They are waiting for a new store to open so we knew it would be a couple weeks. Last week they called and said he would start the next week, which was last week and well, they never called. Then I asked DH to call them today to follow up, but he forgot. WTH!? Forgot? We have enough money to scrape by for 3 more months (I hope) then we are competely out, homeless, done. My sister is living with my parents already so I don't know where we would go. If I calm down and really think rationally it isn't likely that we will get to that point soon. They will get him working and we can stretch what we have further. Then he also has a few home buyers he is working with so hopefully they will work out soon too. I am just so scared and tired of things working out at the last possible second. I am starting to worry about my heart again. I feel like I am starting to have palpitations again. I've got to find something that calms me.

[zebra15]

Maciascl- Your DH needs a back up plan incase the store doesn't work out.  Honestly, I've had so many 'you're hired' oops, we don't really need you deals in the past it's not funny.  Can your DH start each day with a list of things he MUST do and put calling this company at the top of the list- daily?

I get major phone stress and anxiety about calling people.  I hate to call and follow up.  But seeing it on a list makes it less horrible in some way.

I totally understand stress and health problems.  Can you find some calming music, either white noise or nature sounds.  That sometimes works for me.

[justmama]

Originally Posted by mamahart 

I am really trying this daily gratitude exercise- just to keep my head on straight.

Today I am grateful for my teenage girls because they are happy and beautiful and funny.

Today I'm grateful for health insurance.  My younger two are both on antibiotics for strep and pneumonia and just refilling our breathing meds plus antibiotics for 2 cost well over $2K.  They've been out of school 4 days this past week and are finally turning the corner and feeling better.  Asthma sucks but health insurance is key to managing it.

I'm grateful for a day to myself while they are with daddy so I can go for a run and clear my head after a long week of sick children and breathing treatments around the clock.

I'm grateful for the sun because it's shining through my windows and through a crystal making rainbows all over my living room.

I'm grateful for a fridge filled with food and a coffee pot filled with my favorite drink in the entire world.  It's a good morning when there's coffee.

[zebra15]

Today I am grateful that DS and I have food for dinner.  I am grateful that I stockpiled in the past and that pile allows us to eat in weeks like this.  (Yes I have a foodstamp balance but I must be very conservative with that balance).  This is a no frills shopping week.

I am also contemplating moving again. My lease is up in May and I know employment is better on the other side of the country.  I will have just enough $$ to get there.  I have zero family support.  I feel like I've wasted a whole year (and a lot of money) staying here for this year (may-may).  I do not want to stay another year, in fact I can not afford to stay another year. I won't be able to make Junes rent at this pace.

I need to make some contacts and figure out what the heck to do.

[zebra15]

I had a second interview today.  They were talking $$'s and shifts so this must be a good thing... right...

[Mom31]

way to go Zebra- totally hoping this works out for you!!!

[maciascl]

Yay! Good luck! Sounds promiseing.

 

Originally Posted by zebra15 

I had a second interview today.  They were talking $$'s and shifts so this must be a good thing... right...

[Mom31]

I had a girl and her two kids move in over the weekend.  She is leaving an abusive ex and has a 4 yo and 20 month old. What a houseful. She is going to help around the house and buy food and I am going to help her get on her feet. She has no education and has very little to no work history.  We have filled out application with goodwill for her... does anyone have experience working for them or any other ideas of places for employment for her?

Thank you.

[sosurreal09]

No clue about good will but if she speaks English well she may be able to get hired as a nurse aide at a nursing home. They will usually hire and train you and then pay fro you to get certified. The hours are great 7am-3pm, 3pm-11pm, or 11pm-7am. The pay is usually pretty good depending on where you live.

[thatgirliknew]

Originally Posted by Mom31 

I had a girl and her two kids move in over the weekend.  She is leaving an abusive ex and has a 4 yo and 20 month old. What a houseful. She is going to help around the house and buy food and I am going to help her get on her feet. She has no education and has very little to no work history.  We have filled out application with goodwill for her... does anyone have experience working for them or any other ideas of places for employment for her?

Thank you.

I LOVED working for the Goodwill. They worked with me on the fact that I couldn't do a lot of physical work due to my back problems. I sorted and hung clothes all day. I could take an mp3 player and listen to music or NPR. I made about either $8 or $8.50 back when minimum wage was 6 something.

The only thing I did not like is that if someone came in to do court-ordered community service, they may or may not send people home...

[zebra15]

Originally Posted by Mom31 

I had a girl and her two kids move in over the weekend.  She is leaving an abusive ex and has a 4 yo and 20 month old. What a houseful. She is going to help around the house and buy food and I am going to help her get on her feet. She has no education and has very little to no work history.  We have filled out application with goodwill for her... does anyone have experience working for them or any other ideas of places for employment for her?

Thank you.

Try Goodwill, Try calling the Red Cross- sometimes they have a list of places that will hire.  Also try DES, they should have a list of resources and many times those resources will provide training and or employment.  The other thing to remember is if you are getting DES services (food stamps, etc) you need to report the change in 'household'.  Your new roommate should not be a member of your case, she should have her own case.

[zebra15]

Originally Posted by zebra15 

I had a second interview today.  They were talking $$'s and shifts so this must be a good thing... right...

It was a nasty fake out.  I got the decline email today.  I have no idea what I am going to do. I think I have enough to make it to the end of my lease (2 months), then its seriously, game over.  I can probably borrow some $ to get 'home' from my mom.  They are not going to give me $$ to stay here.  I can probably get work at 'home' but home is so mentally unhealthy for us.  This is just so depressing right now.  

*I made it through the online application, online assessment, phone interview, HR interview and floor interview (even got to see the call center, listen to calls, talk money, shifts etc.)  WTF is wrong with me.... well they were hiring all new grads 22 yr old and I'm NOT 22 so... maybe that's part of the problem?

I'm going to throw up now.

On the bright side, there won't be a drug screen this week so I can take all the Ativan I want, right?

[worthy]

I am so, so sorry, zebra.  Hoping the next true right good helpful real for-sure thing is right around the corner for you.  Hang in there; you are in my thoughts.

[justmama]

Originally Posted by Mom31 

I had a girl and her two kids move in over the weekend.  She is leaving an abusive ex and has a 4 yo and 20 month old. What a houseful. She is going to help around the house and buy food and I am going to help her get on her feet. She has no education and has very little to no work history.  We have filled out application with goodwill for her... does anyone have experience working for them or any other ideas of places for employment for her?

Thank you.

That's really beautiful of you to help this mom get back on her feet.  Very kind and compassionate of you.

[Mom31]

So sorry Zebra.

[Virginia Mom]

Ask the coach to hold the swimming check....don't just hope he will..................you don't want to have to worry about any fees for the check bouncing.........the fees can add up in a heartbeat.......when I worked in a bank....the other person's bank would charge a fee, my bank would charge a fee, then an additional fee for every check there after and another fee for each day the account was at a negative balance.....a simple $50 check suddenly turned into something over $200 in bank fees.........talk about robbery!

[christinahudler]

Haven't read all the comments, but I definitely want to join in this thread.
My husband's parents wanted to take over our finances before Christmas because they were going to "save us money" so that we could get the kids Christmas presents.  We laughed a bit and went along and just as we thought...they can't save us money because there is NO SPARE MONEY to save.  I get so frustrated when people try and suggest we do this or that and seem to not really understand that we don't have any disposable income.  For instance, before starting at my current job I was working at a buffet restaurant.  One of the employees said I needed to invest in a small vacuum (like a shark) if I was wanting to continue to work there.  When I said we couldn't afford it she literally laughed and was like "It's really inexpensive."  Inexpensive doesn't change that I HAVE NO MONEY!!  AH!  I just want to scream!

[jess in hawaii]

Zebra- ugh, sorry you went thru all that and they got your hopes up for nothing.

Em- that's so sweet of you to help another mama.... just be careful, i've always been a helper and it has often hurt my own family, so i am very cautious now.

Christina and anyone else new on this thread- welcome!

[Mom31]

I am being very cautious.  It is a delicate situation so I am on guard.  But things are good and it's working pretty smooth right now.  Any ideas on places for employment would be great.

[jess in hawaii]

Originally Posted by Mom31 

I am being very cautious.  It is a delicate situation so I am on guard.  But things are good and it's working pretty smooth right now.  Any ideas on places for employment would be great.

Is she getting TANF? I don't know the exact situation or how it works in your state, but here, if you apply for TANF you can claim an exemption from First to Work if you are a victim of DV. Then they put you in Vocation Rehab at some point - which I personally think is a really good thing for someone with no education/skils/work experience, like me.