I've posted about DD before, I currently have a post about her raging tantrums in the special needs forum, but i feel like this is actually typical 4yo stuff, so I'm putting it here. I just don't know how to deal with it.
DD will not do anything you ask her to. If she snatches a toy away from her 2yo sister, and we ask her to give it back, she crosses her arms and gives us a snippy "no!". Over and over. She won't pick up her things- and I know- I usually do natural consequences. It just doesn't work- and quite frankly I'm sick and pregnant and I don't have the energy to clean up after a tornado. My 2yo helps to the best of her ability but she needs help from her sister- it's not fair for me to make my 2yo do most of the work! Sure I help here and there, but I'm sorry- if you dump four baskets of blocks out into the hallway, you are going to be the one to pick them up. Yet she says no. No, no, NO!. He excuse for everything is that she's tired. "I'm too tired". "If I clean fast, I get tired." "If I clean slow, I get tired." She just won't do it.
This morning our struggle is her wiping herself. She has been on the toilet for an hour protesting. She has wiped herself since she was TWO YEARS OLD. Suddenly she's "too tired". Her breakfast is on the table, she knows that. I will reheat it when she's ready to come and eat. She's just saying "Nope, I don't wipe myself anymore. I'm too tired". So nonchalant, so matter-of-fact. I'm NOT going to do it for her. She's not crying, not upset, just pushing my buttons. I'm waiting for her to just give up and do it already. Yet she's still yelling at me, demanding I go over there and wipe her. Yet she does it every other time she goes to the bathroom.... I just don't get it.
Anyways- things like this happen quite often. I'd think she was starved for attention but she gets plenty of that. "Mama, lets play horses". Ok. "Mama, lets dance." Ok. "Mama, let me fix your hair." Ok *ouch*. I bake with her, I craft with her, I paint with her, I play with her. We snuggle, read stories, she's not a neglected unloved child. Why is she testing me?