Had a bit of a curve all thrown at me today. And I really don't know how to respond.
Background: when DS was a baby I met done other moms at a Breastfeeding support group an we formed our own playgroup and our kids have been playing togetherforthe last 3 years. Last year we formed a homeschool preschool that meets every other week for one morning.
Several of us just had baby #2 in the last six months. My dd was born a month ago. DH and I decided that we would delay vaccinations now that we have learned more about them.
Today I received a message that went to everyone in the preschool that when we started the group we would have the kids on the CDC schedule of vaccination (I only half remember this). Since dd is on a delayed schedule, they say my son can come but she cannot. "no hard feelings."
I am flabbergasted. On the one hand I see their concern for their kids health but on the other hand if they are all vaxed then how is my kid goin to make them sick?
The other thing that is underlying is this same group of people in the playgroup are the same people as the preschool. So basically they are satin they don't feel comfortable around my kid, so really can she come to any play date? The only diff between the homes hool preschool and a play date is one has structure and the other doesn't.
In the last two years though I've realized that I'm not really good friends with anyone. We are all acquaintances. I stay because it's a place to go and for DS to play.
I don't know whether I should just leave the group altogether or present my case to get them to "allow" dd in the group and educate them that more and more parents aren't vaccinating.
But on the same hand it feels like they are kicking me out, not really my choice anyway.
The preschool was really why we stayed because it was good for DS because we can't afford to put him in classes right now.