I know it sounds very silly but this has become a HUGE problem. I homeschool my dd who is 4.5 years old and I can't believe I'm writing this but I'm dealing with a "lonely only" situation and I feel awful about it. I've always intended to homeschool and socialization was such a non-issue for me. I literally laughed about how stupid people were for worrying about dd being socialized enough and yet here I am.
Here's the story ...
For the life of me, I can't understand why no one wants to have informal social events for the kids, also known as play dates.
If I wanted to waste money making my dd feel like crap that she can't skate well I would bring her to private lessons. If I wanted someone else to teach my child academics I would send her to school. So, why is EVERY single homeschool activity based around some type of learning activity that there is clearly a prerequisite for?
Please keep in mind that I'm really frustrated right now and that I know I sound like I'm grossly overgeneralizing but I don't believe I'm far off. So few people I have met find any value in just letting the kids play a little while. It's always organized sports or musical instruction or academic based co-ops. No one wants to just get together and let the kids play.
Now, I do realize we are at an age where dd is too old for mommy and me stuff and too young for most homeschool activities which I'm hoping will get better as she gets older.
I really don't know what to do. She is lonely and sad but we haven't been welcomed at any group and I swear while I probably sound like a lunatic right now, I try really hard to be nice and friendly and normal with everyone I meet. I've tried to set up things on my own, even at one point inviting people I didn't know very well into my home just to get something going and it still didn't work out. A lot of moms have told me that playtime is for their kids to do at home together and they can't justify spending time out if it isn't for an actual purpose like musical or academic instruction.
I sort of understand that to a point but really? Should kids only social time be with their own siblings or during instruction? And if so, where does that leave my dd?