Sol, I read your post just before going to bed and I woke up realizing that you are right, I need to be figuring out how to get answers and not resigning myself to waiting this out. There is still red with every wipe, now with the occasional very small clotty looking thing. I'm glad that you shared that detail in your post, it does help me not completely lose hope. My struggle with seeking medical intervention is based on my prior loss. In 2009 the bleeding came on suddenly, I went for an ultra sound that day, saw a healthy baby and heartbeat, and then lost him/her anyway only a few hours after returning home. Now I'm feeling like what's the use of persuing u/s when it can fail me so miserably? I'm not sure what's preferable. Possibly false hope or trying to maintain it on my own day after day.
There is a clinic where I live and *if* they even have doppler I could go in tomorrow afternoon to look for a heartbeat. My hesitation with this option is I've read lots of stories about people not professed in using doppler not finding heartbeats that are in fact there. I'm 11 weeks, 2 days now and I'm not sure that's far enough along for the novice user to work with. The doctor is actually my next door neighbor and we are friendly acquaintances. I could call her privately and directly ask her about her experience. What do you think?
Because of my work schedule, the other option is to drive to town next Friday or Saturday for an ultra sound at a clinic there. When I spoke to my midwife before she said referring me for an ultra sound was the only thing she could do. I was hoping perhaps a physical examination would be offered to see if my cervix was open or closed, but no. Actually, till I put down a $200 deposit she is not "officially" working with me, I've just had my initial consultation. My next appointment with her is not till Feb 25th because of the money issue. I do think they would probably be open to just a quick doppler check if I asked though. Is a heart beat even enough at this point?