My 3.5 year old DS doesn't know the alphabet and can't count to ten (well - he wont, anyway). He can object count up to 6, and he likes to count really fast like this - 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 18, 19, a-dump-teen. He knows A (for his name) and B, C, D (for dad) and that's about it. He doesn't really like the song and doesn't know it. He can write his name even though he can't really name the other letters in his name.
Every time we visit my parents (retired educators), they keep pointing out how he should know these things by now. It is true that most of the other 3-4 year olds we know sing their ABC's and count. However, it just doesn't seem to interest him and I'm not sure I can really teach a 3.5 y/o something they don't want to know?
He's very smart - he's very detailed and intuitive, he remembers everything. He's a critical thinker/problem solver. I'm not worried about his intellectual capacity, really, just wondering if I should be concerned that he doesn't seem to want to know anything "educational" so to speak. He hasn't started any type of schooling.