Just wondering if others might feel the way I do.... I am the proud momma to crazy boys, 5 and 18 months. My brother had a child last week, which is very exciting to me, my brother and I were very close growing up and still are. At only one week old, this child already has a schedule, nursing every two hours - there is endless talk by my sister in law about getting him on a schedule and I have no doubt that in a few months time, he will be napping at set times, sleeping through the night ( as of now, they have to wake him to feed!..) She has even been out without him a few times, which blows my mind. I was a basket case with my first born, so busy concentrating on his every mewl and hiccup that, I swear I never put him down at all. He was always in a sling or in my arms, plus he was a high need babby, screaming when we went out, only slept on me etc. etc,
Even though I initially balked at the idea of putting a newborn on a schedule ( when I was there the baby was sucking at her arm, but she wanted to wait 'til it was 'time' to feed him, but eventually relented, when he upped his protests ) and I can't imagine not nursing on demand, I am lately secretly sort of envious of parents who commit to and successfully maintain schedules. My two boys are mowglis, playing all day, grazing on plates of this and that ( neither one would even stay in a high chair!! ) shouting, and laughing and generally getting into everything. My house is in a state of chaos, I am ok with a mess, but 12 games/toys out at once becomes hazardous! Rules, as you can imagine, are kept to a minimum. Now that my son is in 2 day a week homelearning program, this lack of parameters is glaringly obvious. he speaks his mind and questions authority in a mighty way - he is a choosy listener to put it mildly.
Anyone else with this sort of free-wheeling existence ever wonder how much easier it would be if there were more rules? I ache for some time to myself... my babe goes to sleep at 11 or 1 o clock, wakes up at 8 or 9, after waking a bazillion times each night - we co-sleep. Is it to late for me to establish a schedule? I made a conscious choice against a scheduled life, it doesn't suit me, but it seems I may have sacrificed a lot for this, and maybe done it too casually. Maybe kids need some concrete expectations..? Maybe not all kids rollerskate the hallways, capes flying, upon waking, with mum stuffing the odd mouthful of oatmeal into their mouths as they whiz by..? I used to be proud of their non-conformity, but now I wonder if I really missed the boat and that maybe things evolved that way for the sake of a little familial sanity? Thoughts please!!