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[Veritas Vitae]

Weighed myself at the gym today and I'm still at +23lbs, now 29 weeks, so no gain in two weeks.  I guess that makes sense since I had such a big jump prior to that.  My sister said she would gain that way too, in spurts.

I love your chart, Mama Chickadee.  I wish I had logged and tracked my weight throughout this pregnancy.  It is so interesting to see the pattern.

[NewMumJoy]

Wow, very impressive chart MamaChickedee!

[ericaf]

Up 28 lbs at about 29 weeks. Again... ooooof. How many times am I going to say I really need to exercise before I actually do it? Lol.

[Honey693]

I'm up 21lbs at 29 weeks.  I've pretty much stopped exercising b/c I'm still so tired.

[Ninetales]

32 weeks and according to the scale at the OB office I gained 8 lbs in the last 10 days.  I've done absolutely nothing differently aside from being more active and getting outside more often.  This isn't fair.  I feel like I've been trying so hard and I'm just going to have the same outcome.  This is exactly what happened with Elsa.  I don't want to try and struggle through a full and painful labor only to end up exhausted and finally agreeing to a c-section, but I also don't want to walk in and just get one.  I also don't want to vaginally birth a huge baby.  I feel like every option I have is sh--.

And nobody seems to understand.  All I get are platitudes about how the weight will come off (which is the last thing I care about), or that the baby is probably smaller than I think (except this isn't my first time - I've seen what can happen and I know how big it could be), or that all that matters is a healthy baby (which while it's the most important thing, it's not the only thing that matters).  I don't want a section, I don't want to deal with the guilt, I don't want to hear people's well-meaning jokes or comments.  All I want is a safe normal delivery of a normal-big baby.

I feel like no one thinks I can have a VBAC, that it's easier to let me have my little dreams because I'm just going to end up with the section anyway.  And I'm starting to feel like they're probably right.

[ericaf]

Ninetales: You absolutely cannnnn have a VBAC!! What you think in your mind willlll happen, so you need to be 100% positive. Of course you want to be prepared and grounded, but really... positivity is so dang important. Cling to that. Have they told you how big they think your sweet little bebe is now? You've been through it, so you would know better than me... but being through the ringer medical world wise... I just know that being strong, positive and very vocal about what you want... works.

[Ninetales]

They haven't guessed at his size yet.  My primary is going to do an ultrasound at 38 weeks, but by then it's too late to do anything about it, really.  Except pressure me to schedule an early section, of course, which isn't happening anyway.  I won't schedule it just to have him be slightly smaller.  Of course, from what I've been looking at today, there's really nothing to be done.  My weight gain may have no influence on size, it may have a huge influence.  I can't very well diet or over exercise.

That combined with the fact that they aren't having me do anymore glucose tests or even discussing this issue with me is what makes me think they're just humoring me.

[ericaf]

Ninetales: Would you be comfortable switching Dr's now? To someone who you think is hearing you out more/better? You deserve to be happy and have what you want here (as medically possible, of course). Having someone on your side makes all the difference in the world. How many weeks are you now?

[sallyrae17]

Originally Posted by Ninetales 

They haven't guessed at his size yet.  My primary is going to do an ultrasound at 38 weeks, but by then it's too late to do anything about it, really.  Except pressure me to schedule an early section, of course, which isn't happening anyway.  I won't schedule it just to have him be slightly smaller.  Of course, from what I've been looking at today, there's really nothing to be done.  My weight gain may have no influence on size, it may have a huge influence.  I can't very well diet or over exercise.

That combined with the fact that they aren't having me do anymore glucose tests or even discussing this issue with me is what makes me think they're just humoring me.

Are you swollen at all? If the weight is water weight, then that's a whole different issue. I also second the opinion that you can have a VBAC. I'm going for one as well. Do you have an ICAN chapter in your area? If so, try to get to a meeting or two. It's so reassuring to be in a room with other women who have had c-sections in the past. I really hope that you can be comfortable with whatever decision you make. Remember, it's YOUR decision, not the doctor's. It all comes down to you. 

[Ninetales]

I'm 32 weeks.  There's no switching.  This is the most natural and VBAC friendly practice there is.  Maybe I'm wrong, too, and they just don't see a need to worry about it.  Which would make sense if there's nothing I can actually do that will affect anything.

No ICAN here.  Not active anyway.  :(

No swelling whatsoever.  In fact, it's less than it had been.  Since I started spending time in the kiddie pool it's disappeared.

[midstreammama]

Nine tales, I feel you. Without going into great detail..I feel 100% better this pregnancy then any of my others. I had the blood clot issue which has given me the scarlet letter of being high risk..so no midwife or birth center..of the two hospitals I could go too, one I refuse because I'm pretty sure they caused PTSD with my first birth which is still obviously obviously which is why I waited so long to try and transfer care..and the second...it seems im just going to have to show up in active labor. I have tired4 different doctors and all say they won't take me on because either I haven't had "consistent prenatal care" or that I will question their judgement too much...yes, they actually used those words and these were the natural obs.

So I feel stuck and liberated at the same time...I know what it feels like to not have people listen to your concerns truthfully and I'm sorry for that. You are the mama..you know your body. They should respect that. As for me, I have been monitoring my weight, bp, and really taking care of myself. It's interesting..I feel even more in control now than with midwives..I always felt like I was looking to them for validation..and now I don't need it. Definitely positivity helps...talking to baby, being realistic, grounded and knowing when to ask for help, I feel like I can do that...and I know you can too. We are super strong! :-)

[ithappened]

I don't want to try and struggle through a full and painful labor only to end up exhausted and finally agreeing to a c-section, but I also don't want to walk in and just get one.  I also don't want to vaginally birth a huge baby.  I feel like every option I have is sh--.

oh man ninetales I completely relate to this. I had a bad horrible recovery from my 'natural' birth and yet I fear the same outcome (but having to do it twice) or worse yet having one vaginally then another via emergency c-section. I feel like I cannot win and it sucks. . . I think however you can have the VBAC you want. It comes down to mindset and stubbornness in the end.. I think the problem for me is I'm not sure what I want or what would be worse (3 or 4th degree tears/uterine prolapse again..  or a c-section).

Anyhow, we are all here to support you regardless. Its important you feel you are in charge in the end of the outcome.

AFM- I'm 34w or 35w? I lost count.. and Im still at a 30lb gain. They measured the twins at my ultrasounds yesterday and they were both about 4.5lbs..
 

[ithappened]

36w still at a 30lb gain..

Edited by ithappened - 6/21/12 at 7:31am

[RedTree]

My 29 week appointment had me at a 19lb gain.

[pennywhistle]

I officially crossed 200lbs.  I am trying to embrace it!  Week 30, up 24lbs.

[ericaf]

I'm 30 weeks, 30 lbs. Guess my 30 lb total weight gain goal is out the window.

[LilyTiger]

I'm up 18 pounds at 33 weeks.  I had a weird 3 lb jump this past week, which could explain some of the massive hip pain and ligament issues I've been having. 

[Veritas Vitae]

30 weeks and I'm still at 23 pounds...I've been holding steady for 3 weeks now.

[LeAnn A Doula]

I'm up 14lbs at 31wks 5days. 6 to 10wks to go...

[Lizbiz]

Up 24 pounds at 32 weeks 4 days.  Should have about 5-6 weeks to go!