Originally Posted by ithappened
argh the OBs and weight gain keuriweo are sort of one of my pet peeves. With DS1 my OB was on me that I gained too much weight too fast (10lbs in the first trimester) and I spent a lot of the pregnancy stressed because she hung GD over me. I then switched OBs and since its been a non-issue. I think our bodies will do what they want to some extent and we just can't control much or any of it during pregnancy. With DS1 I was SO active and I still went over a 40lb. I ate really well too.. its just what my body wanted to do, and my OB was really freaking out I had gone over 20lbs, but I would of been starving my entire pregnancy if I had stayed at 20lb gain. . . the funny thing is, I dropped it all once DS was weaned without any effort.. I was only up 5lbs after the birth of DS when I left the hospital and regretted that she had me so upset the whole time. Whats your OBs reason for asking you to gain more? At 15w you haven't hit the growth spurt of 16-18w just yet.. I don't see her panic, if the baby and you are healthy.. whats the issue?
In hindsight, I think she might have been reacting to my appearance/demeanor. We waited an hour before we even got into the exam room and then waited another 10 minutes to see the doctor. I hadn't eaten in, probably, a couple of hours. So, on top of my usual doctor's office stress/anxiety, I was tired and hungry. I think I must've looked sick. So, I think when she saw I'd only gained 3lbs total plus I looked like crap, that maybe I wasn't feeling well or eating well. Since she hasn't said anything else that has bugged me too much, I figure I'll cut her some slack for this. lol. Just once.
I imagine that it'd irritate me a lot more to be told that I've gained too much weight. What am I supposed to do? Eat less? Diet?! I think the doctors must assume that if a woman gains "too much" weight, she's pigging out on hohos and twinkies or something. That's pretty insulting.
Originally Posted by sallyrae17
I really think there are so many variables. I'm pretty small, so I'm supposed to gain "more," but I'm also breast feeding. So - I'm just trying to eat as much as I can and whenever I can. I've never worried about gaining too much weight, but I've worried about not gaining enough in both of my pregnancies. When I was seeing a midwife, she wanted me to gain more weight, but my OB (this time around) isn't concerned about weight gain at all...and I've gained less with this pregnancy than I did with my last. What I'm trying to say is that you just shouldn't stress about weight gain. If you aren't eating, well then you probably need to eat. But if you are doing the best you can, then that's all you can do, really. Hang in there!
I think my OB must have thought I looked a little scrawny or something because she told me I should gain 35lbs at my first prenatal appt. I admit I was a little taken aback by that number. I wasn't underweight before I got pregnant or anything but I've found that I'm not the best judge of how thin I look or how much I weigh. When I was "underweight," I usually overestimated my weight and at a "normal" weight, I underestimate my weight. (No matter my actual weight, in my head, I weigh 124lbs lol. It helps to keep up the fantasy when you don't own a scale.) I'm not really stressed about the weight gain now. My appetite has started to increase and I'm beginning to feel like I don't need to force myself to eat more so I'm sure that I'll gain as much weight as my body needs soon enough.