My nephew has just started having his evaluations done, no real diagnoses yet other than "delayed" (language, emotional, social etc)
He is obviously different - to me and his daycare providers - but not to his parents.
Daycare insisted he be evaluated and it's becoming obvious to Sis and BIL now, that there is actually a problem,
not because of DN (is that the right abrev? Dear Nephew) but because so many people are telling them that he's different.
It is obviously devastating them, they are visibly upset when I see them, they are grieving and I'd appreciate help from some BTDT parents about what to do for them.
What was the grieving process like for you? Is there anything I can say that will make this easier?
It's complicated by a few issues
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Sister is angry, BIL just seems so lost.
I want to help.
But I'm worried I might make it worse. She's snapping at my children and trying to tell me things are wrong with them (accused my son of breaking DN's toys, stealing and lying; DN broke the toy, she will not hear it). Things are getting rough between us when she needs me the most.
I try to tell her it's not that bad, whatever it is it's not terminal, That's probably wrong, right? since she's grieving. (But honestly, it doesn't seem that bad)
Her friends are childless and not very supportive
what can I do to help given that she's absolutely devastated but my kids are fine.
Were any of you angry at your friends/family for having easy, typical children? Did you ever get over it?
wow, that's long, sorry!
Edited by aus5 - 1/28/12 at 1:37am