Thoughts? Any BTDT moms?
We are EBF and it is very important to me that we stay that way.
Here's a great handout about bottle feeding a breastfed baby. It talks about bottle feeding on cue - which will actually be easier for a care giver once they get the hang of reading baby's cues, because babies just don't get hungry on a schedule - especially when they are so young.
Feeding on cue will allow baby to quench his thirst and calm his hunger and sooth his fears when he needs to, and the great thing about breastmilk is that if baby doesn't finish a bottle it can be saved in the fridge for next feeding!
Congrats on your job that allows you to set your schedule! I was so fortunate to have 12 months of maternity leave (I'm Canadian) so I can't imagine having to go back to work at 2 months, but I hope it goes well and you are able to have the time you need to pump! (Although you feed on cue, at 2 months I'd pump every 2 hours if possible to keep up supply and avoid mastitis. I didn't pump until 12 months though, so another Mum will have good pumping advice for you.)
I had this same thought when I was preparing to go back to work, but in the end I realized that DS will still make his hunger signs even if I'm not there, and will only eat what he's hungry for (the handout that PP mentioned above is great for this). So, don't worry about scheduling at all for the baby. But for you, the biggest tip I can say is to be very firm about your pumping needs at work. I have seen co-workers get pressured into the busy work lifestyle and put off pumping here and there, and little-by-little they had to start supplementing because their supply dropped. So, for me, I schedule my pumping into my work schedule (it helps that I have a wonderful boss).
The website workandpump.com is the best thing out there for a working, breastfeeding mom. Also Kellymom.com and of course MDC!
As for how much to leave, this calculator from Kellymom is great for that. DS usually eats 8-12 oz while I'm away for 8 hrs.
What is most important is what is best for your baby not what is easier for the care provider.
It's best for young babies to be fed small amounts (less than 4 oz) frequently even if they would take more. Babies can overeat and that can lead to problems including reflux. The baby may need to eat every 2-3 hours. You usually want to limit the amount a baby eats to around an ounce an hour you are away. Working 14 hours is a long time. It may be better in the first couple of months if you could be away less hours for more days. You may end up having problems with plugged ducts or infections working that long. Some babies don't take bottles well and sleep a lot when mom is gone. This may be ok for 6-8 hours but not for 14 hours. I used to take care of my breastfed grandson. On the days my dil would work over and be away 12 hours it would be awful for me and my grandson. I would be exhausted and he would be upset the whole evening. It may be unreasonable to expect your mother to take care of your baby for 14-15 hours.
Would your care giver consider wearing the baby? If you got an easy to use carrier (maybe like an ergo or a wrap if they have the patience to learn to tie it) it would take out the stress of needing to hold the baby for naps etc - as wearing a baby is so easy for both baby and care giver!
Sometimes you can make changes so you don't have to work. When I had my oldest child I made twice as much as my husband and planned to go back to work. My baby did not do well with me leaving ti work even part time. We sold both of our cars, bought a $300 car and moved into a mobile home. I did baby sitting when I had to. If you don't want to work you may be able to find alternatives.