I know some people become SAHMs out of necessity, or always knew that's what they wanted. If you started out in school or the working world but decided to SAHM, how did you make that call?
I recently decided to leave my graduate school program. I feel good about that choice. I want to spend more time with my children, and have another baby. But, I am getting a lot of pressure to take a few more courses to finish a Master's, or to look for a job. I love teaching and agree that an MA would be good to have, but I would really like to step back from the chaotic life I've led since my oldest was born, and just be for awhile. I'd be fine adjuncting a class per semester and being a Mom. Here are the things holding me back from doing that....
- DH -- He's not opposed to SAHM, but he does kind of hate his current job. It pays very well, but it's really stressful. I'm worried that approaching him with this will sound like "Hey, you keep toiling away for 45 hours a week while I live the good life!"
- I'm nervous about budgeting and living on less (even though the majority of my income has been going to daycare!). I also know I'll need to save for a homebirth, etc. This would be new to me and makes me worry!
- I worry about a gap in employment. I worry that I might never be able to work doing something I love. (This kind of happened to my Mom after she SAHMed for 8 years, even though she is sure she wouldn't trade that time with us for anything).
Basically, I'm looking for advice, perspective, and encouragement!