I am 13 weeks pregnant. completely unexpected. The father knows I am pregnant, Has a history of violence and does not have custody of either of his previous kids (or even unsupervised visitation). I did not find any of this out until way too late. I left him and filed an EPO for threatening behavior but it was dropped due to no physical evidence so he is able to contact me. I have blocked him, moved, etc. But sometimes he still finds a way to contact me. His only concern seems to be whether or not he has to pay child support like he does with his other two children.
I am in no way financially, physically, or emotionally ready to parent this child. I am constantly stressed, I have debilitating chronic pain as it is, a history of pre-eclampsia (almost having a seizure at last delivery), and have been in the hospital 3 times for threatened miscarriage.
If I did not have all the health problems, abortion would not b an option. However, because I have two young children to care for, I am scared to keep this pregnancy. For financial reasons, I may not be able to have one since time is running out. Please, if you have a negative opinion about abortion, keep it to yourself.
Which leads me to adoption. The father has not contacted me in a few weeks. I doubt he will. Due to his history of violence and drug use, he is not fit to have a child.
If I went to put this child up for adoption and told them wo the father was, is it likely they would 'give him a chance' even with his prior history? Would the child go to him by default? As far as I know, he has told nobody I am pregnant, and I haven't told anyone either. I doubt he would sign his parental rights away, but I am terrified with what would happen if the child went to him. I would parent the child by myself, even in this bad situation if the alternative was him having the child. I want the child to have a real family who can provide a good life.