Add me to the list of anti-social moms as well! I don't have really any friends in the area, which occasionally leaves me really down (like, I could really use a shopping buddy because I need maternity clothes and don't want to go buy them by myself)...but generally these days, I would so much rather just stay home. I am utterly exhausted by social interaction and when I have to go out in public and worry about managing two insanely active kids who will not always behave as they should (they are CHILDREN, after all)...ugh. I'm just not up for it. Between the judging (we're home schooling veering very close to unschooling and people in this city are absolutely NUTS about pressuring their little kids really early about school...i'm just not into it, but there's a lot of static and it's worst from DH's family, who are all local) and the germs (norovirus is raging locally right now...call me crazy but I'd like to avoid it)...it's just too much.
We go to the playground, but try to go when there aren't a lot of kids there...since DH is working from home, he usually babysits one when I go grocery shopping or run errands - I took both of them out yesterday to do my weekly shopping and I swore to DH after that that will NEVER happen again. WAY too much effort for me right now. lol.
It's not that I don't want friends and I definitely want my kids to have friends...I just don't have anyone who's local right now. If we had a house that was more appropriate for having playdates here, I would totally do that - I'd much rather have people over to play in our own space where I don't have to worry about the kids running off or getting into serious trouble. But I don't have that kind of place right now...so we stay home and enjoy our own little world.
Sometimes I am lonely for the company of another grown woman...it would be nice to just sit down with a cup of tea and another mom of like mind who's in the trenches of daily mothering...but I don't make friends easily and I have more unconventional ideas about life/parenting/politics/religion...it's hard to find the "like mind" part.
Oh well. I guess I'm just okay with things how they are right now. I used to be on facebook, but I got off almost 2 years ago and don't miss it a bit (my friends are always ranting about various facebook-fueled social dramas and I just...don't have the patience ;-))...and DH is home and he is my bosom friend, even though I refuse to try and impose on him the role of "girlfriend" because he's a guy and there have to be rules.
As for spouses helping...I can't really offer any advice about getting husbands to do housework or cooking...we've always had a pretty clear division of labor that works for us (he works, I do the house stuff) and if I need help, I ask. He'll cook or clean or do whatever when I'm incapacitated, but sometimes I just have to ask and that's hard...especially when our ideas of being a "good mom" are frequently wrapped around doing it all ourselves.
I would just say...if you need help, don't waste your time and emotions wishing he could be a mind reader...they're usually not skilled at that stuff and it's a silly romantic notion to expect that a husband will somehow marry and acquire magical telepathy powers. My whole childhood, I watched my mom resent my dad for not intuitively KNOWING what she wanted him to do and it sucked...It became like a sick, warped game...no fun for the kids to watch and kind of damaging to your kids' concept of relationships. If you know you need help, just ask. Chances are they just don't see things in the same frame you do and they'll be grateful to you for being specific.