I was a stay at home homeschooling mom for 9 years, until my ex left me and the kids almost a year ago. For the first 6 months he came around a couple times a week and would take the kids overnight once or twice a month. I was still homeschooling. but now with zero support. I put the kids in school with no help or input from him. I put them in therapy, I worked my butt off. It was a rough summer.
In septmember we came up with a formal plan and agreed on all the money and he served me papers. They did not at all resemble what we had agreed on and he asked for 50 50 shared visitation. I feel strongly this is not in the best interest of the kids. He is unmediacted bi-polar and he is crazy. My 7 year old is terrified of him. Ex claims that the state does not count the time you are at work thus he has been a 50 percent parent all these years. He somehow thinks the fact that I spent all day long with the kids every day doesn't count. Not to mention the fact that he often didn't even come home from work because he was out partying.
Fast forwrd to now. I was just sent again, divorce paperwork after months of negotiations which again asked for 50 50 shared parenting. Again we had agreed on two nights a week and he changed it and sent me something different because he was mad at me for not being nice to him.
He uses this threat constantly. It's killing me. I went from having my kids all the time, to having to put them in school, and not see them two overnights a week. They sleep on the floor at his house or his girlfriend's house. My kids are afraid of him, and ask to go home. He doesn't participate at all in school stuff or regular life stuff. He leaves all their dirty clothes at my front door. He doesn't think about their well being at all. I work a school schedule so I drive them and pick them up from school. He doesn not help me. Yet his lawyer encourages him to demand this. He doesn't even live nearby. He says he would take them and hire a nanny, instead of letting me have them.
He states he wants the kids more so he doen't have to talk to me, so he doesn't have to parent with me, so he doesn't have to answer to me in any way.
Anyone have experience with WA state and stuff like this. I will fight him to the death to keep my kids. He left us, and he does not and has never been a dad who contributed 50 percent. He is crazy, absolutely nuts.
He will go to court over this just to make a point and he seems to think he will automatically get 50 50 if we go before a judge. Anyone know if this is true?