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[crazykittymomma]

So, I had a 2nd tear on my perineum, a 1st degree tear upward (which basically disconnected my clitoral hood from my labia...) and an internal skid mark. Husband and I FINALLY tried to have sex the other day (um...baby is 10 weeks...poor hubs) and we couldn't because I had too much pain. It seems like there's a lot of scar tissue there now and it's so tight we couldn't get him in. :/ Ouch. Between that and my complete lack of sex drive (tandem nursing, and the oldest is cutting her last molars which might have something to do with that) I'm not seeing much nookie in his future.

Anyone else?

[IwannaBanRN]

Aww! :( I'm sorry that you're having pain. I'm kinda suffering from a lack of sensation down there, so the last 3 times we've done it hasn't been that great. My sex drive has also diminished in the last 3 weeks, where when I was freshly post partum, I was rarin' to go. I hope things settle down a bit down there soon. Talk to your care provider about the pain. You could try to use lots of lube down there, so things "slide" more easily and there isn't as much friction on scar tissue.

[KaliShanti]

I had no tears and it's still uncomfortable. *shrug* I'm sorry!

[crazykittymomma]

Well, we tried again last night and were able to get it in...but there's a ton of scar tissue and husband said I was too tight for him. :/ I confirmed that my midwife didn't put in an "extra stitch", so I guess it's just scar tissue that needs to be broken up. Ugh. Also, the inside wasn't nearly as sensitive as it used to be...like, I knew he was there, but got nothing from it. :( Really hoping that gets better.

[Abraisme]

While I'm not having any pain issues, it is really common to have less sensation pp.  I pretty much don't care about having sex until my AF returns because it doesn't feel all that great.  Now, we still dtd on a regular basis, but it's all for my dh at this point.  I know that things will return to normal soon enough.  Stupid hormones!
 

Originally Posted by crazykittymomma 

Well, we tried again last night and were able to get it in...but there's a ton of scar tissue and husband said I was too tight for him. :/ I confirmed that my midwife didn't put in an "extra stitch", so I guess it's just scar tissue that needs to be broken up. Ugh. Also, the inside wasn't nearly as sensitive as it used to be...like, I knew he was there, but got nothing from it. :( Really hoping that gets better.

[Jaimee]

I'm sorry you're having so much pain!  No pain for me, but the lack of sensation is definitely a downer.  Looks like we'll be needing to do external stim for me!  As for the scar tissue, definitely talk with your care provider or a different one if necessary.  I'm not sure if you can do this while nursing, but it could help to massage the area with estrogen cream.  There may be more natural solutions that might be similarly effective that others would know about.  But when I was dealing with my own pain issues down there due to an incompletely perforated hymen, that was the suggestion and it did soften things up.  I eventually had to use dilators to gently stretch the opening and while this may seem like a lot of embarrassing work, it did the trick.  If I were you, I wouldn't jump to doing it now, but if in a few months things are still super tight, you might consider it.  Dilators can be purchased online made from surgical grade plastic.

[jill the pill]

I haven't even tried to do it yet.  DD1 is refusing to take naps so I'm having trouble finding time.  I had a lot of scar tissue last time as I had a 4th degree tear.  I think it just took time to soften it up and I used olive oil to massage it.  It will get better.  Try to relax as much as possible and even have a glass of wine to loosen up a bit!  That's what helped me.

[mommy2sage]

Sorry that you are having this much pain.  I had pain after the birth of my DD and it took about 4 months until it felt comfortable.

No pain this time.  I just do not have the desire.  Wish I could get in a sexy mood!