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January 29th - ???!

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I just noticed that our weekly thread is about 5 days past the 'best before' date! How's everyone doing? DD1 decided to make cupcakes in her cupcake maker and everyone has been in the kitchen helping out. I made the icing, DS has been offering to taste test everything, DH used his iphone and played Scotland the Brave for a timer. DD made rainbow chip cupcakes with blue icing and rainbow sprinkles on top. Now apparently they're going to my moms... DS just called her and made the plan himself as I typed this! Dh won't give DD2 to me, he says I 'monopolized her' all morning! Geeze, sorry for having the boobs!

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I just noticed that our weekly thread is about 5 days past the 'best before' date! How's everyone doing? DD1 decided to make cupcakes in her cupcake maker and everyone has been in the kitchen helping out. I made the icing, DS has been offering to taste test everything, DH used his iphone and played Scotland the Brave for a timer. DD made rainbow chip cupcakes with blue icing and rainbow sprinkles on top. Now apparently they're going to my moms... DS just called her and made the plan himself as I typed this! Dh won't give DD2 to me, he says I 'monopolized her' all morning! Geeze, sorry for having the boobs!



How fun! Love it! Oh yeah, I noticed our thread yeterday but was too tired to care lol thanks for starting the new one!

 

We are doing well :-)

 

Naomi has been nursing and nursing and nursing and swallowing and my breasts feel like they are emptying and my nipples feel comfortable and I have been able to spend time with the boys and I even cooked dinner because I haven't had to pump...it's just been wonderful!!!

 

Tomorrow my 4yo is going to the aquarium with me dad, he's so excited!

 

Tomorrow I have to drive 2-3hrs each way (depending on rush hour traffic) to attend a training for work..bleh...and I'm not too certain how I will fit in pumping but I guess I will figure it out somehow...

 

 

 

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In moving chaos. Ember is feeling very clingy and nursing every 20 minutes. Si im not getting a whole lot done packing wise. Im nervous about the drive eight hours alone with baby. Eek. H
been reading along but will post more late.also disco vered angry birds ob my phone:eyesroll
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Oh wow. Guys, look at this! DH just emailed this to me, I had no idea he even made it and he forgot about it until he came across it in his phone tonight. That's probably 2 or 3 minutes after she was born... wow!

 

 

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amazing - what a treasure!!
 

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Oh wow. Guys, look at this! DH just emailed this to me, I had no idea he even made it and he forgot about it until he came across it in his phone tonight. That's probably 2 or 3 minutes after she was born... wow!

 

 



 

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Been a busy week - so much to say and haven't had the time to say it yet, so, I'm quoting from the last thread now that I have time to play catch-up! ;)
 

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Also, any of you sleep sitting up with baby on your chest? There are times when I would LOOOOOOOVE to be able to do this, but I"m so worried about dropping him! I did try sleeping with him strapped to me in the Baby K'Tan carrier (like a Moby, but less wrapping - love it) but I still worried about his breathing and couldn't get into a comfortable position to sleep. So many times at night he'll fall asleep nursing and then I put him down, lay down myself (his crib is sidecarred to our bed) and as soon as I shut out the light he wakes up again. Makes me nutty. And I know he would sleep for hours on me. Any suggestions?


I did this for about the first week at home, propped at about a 45-degree angle with a boatload of pillows under me. Neither of us moved much, if at all, and I'd frequently wake up with us in the exact same position we went to sleep in. However:

 

 

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if that doesnt feel secure, what about a piece of fabric wrapped over him and tucked under your body? not necessarily a carrier, but just something that offers a bit of resistance. 


I also did this, with one of his receiving blankets - just draped it over his back and tucked the corners under me - and it did feel more secure than sleeping without it. =)

 

 

We also sleep with a very dim lamp on throughout the night. I can't latch him if I can't see what I'm doing, lol!

 

 

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Ok, I've got to ask: are anyone else's babies not so fond of their papas? DH has been home since W was born, and we all spend lots of time together, but Winter is very much a mam's boy, and he just cries whenever his papa has him. He does fine with women who aren't me, but he doesn't like men. My baby likes the boobies!

I was going to ask you ladies this, also. DS does fine with me (obviously)... fine with grandma, fine with his great-aunt, fine with his (female) daycare provider... he even does all right for my father-in-law, although FIL has him for a relatively insignificant amount of time (and MIL is right there to feed/soothe him, so I'm not sure how much FIL actually does the holding/caring for). But he just cries when he's alone with DH... he doesn't want a bottle, he doesn't want a paci, he doesn't want to be burped, he doesn't need to be changed, he doesn't want to be walked, he doesn't want to be put down... I feel so badly for my poor DH, who loves this little boy like crazy but just feels really rejected by him. We're trying to get him more time with the lil man in the mornings before DH goes to work just to try to acclimate Eli to being with Daddy, and it's helping a little... DH was to the point he was gonna let Eli CIO last Friday while I was at school because he just didn't know what else to do, so I really want things to be better for him. =( (He didn't, of course, and Eli settled down finally after about three hours. But that was a really rough morning.)

 

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My husband finally understands how it works now that we're on our third: His time will come.  It's natural for babies to strongly prefer the mama - for obvious reasons.  I have to remind myself though that these first few months really should be viewed more as the "fourth trimester".  Baby and mama are One. It takes some time to adjust to this outside world.  My 2 and 4 yr old now ADORE him, and dare I say prefer him  :)

 

But here's a tip I just discovered with this baby.  The exercise/birth ball is a fantastic tool for calming baby.  Bounce gently while holding baby to chest and hum/sing/chant etc.  Works every time. Makes DH feel empowered a little more having something that works nearly 100% of the time (like if baby wakes before I'm out of the shower, etc).

 

So my mom is sick with a stomach flu today...looks like I'm not going to the formal dinner tonight after all :(


Edited by AshleeS - 1/31/12 at 11:16am
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My husband finally understands how it works now that we're on our third: His time will come.  It's natural for babies to strongly prefer the mama - for obvious reasons.  I have to remind myself though that these first few months really should be viewed more as the "forth trimester".  Baby and mama are One. It takes some time to adjust to this outside world.  My 2 and 4 yr old now ADORE him, and dare I say prefer him  :)

 

But here's a tip I just discovered with this baby.  The exercise/birth ball is a fantastic tool for calming baby.  Bounce gently while holding baby to chest and hum/sing/chant etc.  Works every time. Makes DH feel empowered a little more having something that works nearly 100% of the time (like if baby wakes before I'm out of the shower, etc).

 

So my mom is sick with a stomach flu today...looks like I'm not going to the formal dinner tonight after all :(



I also say that burping is the man's job lol...so whenever I feed if DH (or even grandpa or any other caregiver than me who wants to be a part) I pass her over when I'm done and he burps her...I always tell him how he is so great at it ;-) Then he feels a part and I honestly think he beleives I *need* him to do that...and actually he is pretty good at it lol. Also, my DH has learned that he really enjoys the kids more as they get older anyway and then mom just doesn't comapre at all...daddy is so much more fun! LOL!

 

Cute trick Naomi started that I forgot to mention? I reach for her but don't touch her, her eyes light up and she spits her paci out! So cute...it's like, "I know you got the goods mama!"

 

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But here's a tip I just discovered with this baby.  The exercise/birth ball is a fantastic tool for calming baby.  Bounce gently while holding baby to chest and hum/sing/chant etc.  Works every time. Makes DH feel empowered a little more having something that works nearly 100% of the time (like if baby wakes before I'm out of the shower, etc).

 

DH does the yoga ball too!  And he will wear DS in the moby and take him for a walk.  If DS is going to be worn, he actually does better with DH than me.  He prefers me to hold him.  That makes me sad.  Not that I mind holding him, but I was really looking forward to wearing him. 

 

Counting down hours til in-laws leave.  MIL is fine if a little annoying.  FIL might get smacked before the end of the visit.  My poor dog, my former baby, is having to deal with him just so I can keep him away from little O.  soon, soon, soon...

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LilMomma - I forgot to mention how happy I am that Naomi is doing so well!!!  :)

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Naomi has been nursing and nursing and nursing and swallowing and my breasts feel like they are emptying and my nipples feel comfortable and I have been able to spend time with the boys and I even cooked dinner because I haven't had to pump...it's just been wonderful!!!

 


This is awesome! I hope you've turned the corner and the pump can get dusty now!

 

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Yeah, hooray for Naomi finally nursing well!!! So happy for you both!

Ha, my poor DH can't really do anything to make Winter happy, and I think DH is partly sad and rejected by it, partly glad not to have the extra responsibility. Really, every time I hand him baby or he comes near, W starts to cry. DH has also developed this awful habit of coming over and trying to help when W is crying on me, which makes him cry much more, which stresses me out, which makes me want to tell DH to go away, which all feels rather crappy. Part of DH's problem is that he's never been arund babies before and he doesnt listen to me tell him how best to handle baby, and everything just pisses W off. Mama and baby are an inseparable pair around here. I actually like it that W prefers mama to all else, though. It makes me feel like a good mother.

MIL and FIL are visiting tomorrow......dreading it already. But DH has decided to have it out with MIL and tell her how insulting she is being. Nothing will ever change with MIL,but at least it feels good to tell her off. But she keeps calling DH now and asking why I kept taking W from her when she visited last time (he was 6 days old, he was constantly crying on her, he needed to nurse) and if she can hold him the whole time now. Ugh, I'm just so not in the mood for the pointless drama now.

Anyone else feeling hormonal and needlessly pissed off these days? I thought my hormones would be mostly balanced by now.....

How do you get the old milk smell out of clothes? I have two bras, so one gets washed every day, but they constantly smell pretty yucky now. I wash with soap nuts or unscented soap. Should I try something like a vinegar soak? I have no idea.
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Azadehhast!! I just had an idea... get DH to put on/drape one of your shirts that you've worn (not freshly cleaned) over himself before he holds Winter... maybe that'll help Winter stay happy for a few extra minutes when you need or want him to be held by someone else. I don't know about getting the milky smell out... Vinegar might be a good thing to try... or adding baking soda to the rinse, maybe... it deodorizes, right?

 

I'm not really hormonal, but I've been a little short. I've really been noticing when the big kids ask me a question they KNOW the answer to... they're allowed to make themselves tea in the mornings on the weekend, but every Saturday morning, someone is hollering down the stairs "CAN I HAVE SOME TEA!?" when Stephanie is still asleep... she sleeps through that, but I can't yell back, so they ask again and again before I can get in the stairwell to hiss up at them to stop asking for things they know they're allowed and that if they don't know the answer then the answer is NO! And then I feel like a bitch. Until I lay back down and realize that DH slept through the whole thing and I just want to kick him. Other than that the only thing is when everything happens at once... I'll be making supper and Stephanie will need to nurse so I'll be at the computer organizing pictures or emailing my sisters while I feed her, DH will come home and start telling me about his day, and the kids will come in and start asking for snacks or tattling on each other and it gets really overwhelming really fast and I just want to zone out! But I can't let everyone starve or kill each other, and I'm working at not being a hermit, and I actually want to reconnect with DH and I can't figure out what to drop for the moment.

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Originally Posted by AshleeS View Post

 I have to remind myself though that these first few months really should be viewed more as the "forth trimester".  Baby and mama are One. It takes some time to adjust to this outside world. 

 

But here's a tip I just discovered with this baby.  The exercise/birth ball is a fantastic tool for calming baby.  Bounce gently while holding baby to chest and hum/sing/chant etc.  Works every time. Makes DH feel empowered a little more having something that works nearly 100% of the time (like if baby wakes before I'm out of the shower, etc).

 

I need to remind myself of the "fourth trimester" thing too... so that I don't get so flustered when people say that I "should" be separated from him more. Ok, not all people. My MIL. She's the only one telling me what I "should" be doing with my baby. I wanna smack her. But back to the point - hearing the "should"s allows the idea to enter my head that following my heart is not right for him, when I know that following my heart is exactly what I SHOULD be doing! And my heart says baby and mama stay together. Period.

 

The exercise ball is great here too - Owen loves it. I'll have to remember to suggest to DH that he go for a bounce with O next time he has him and O is cranky.

 

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Cute trick Naomi started that I forgot to mention? I reach for her but don't touch her, her eyes light up and she spits her paci out! So cute...it's like, "I know you got the goods mama!"

 

SO glad Naomi is doing so much better!! I imagine you're feeling much more relaxed :-)
 

 



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Yeah, hooray for Naomi finally nursing well!!! So happy for you both!
Ha, my poor DH can't really do anything to make Winter happy, and I think DH is partly sad and rejected by it, partly glad not to have the extra responsibility. Really, every time I hand him baby or he comes near, W starts to cry. DH has also developed this awful habit of coming over and trying to help when W is crying on me, which makes him cry much more, which stresses me out, which makes me want to tell DH to go away, which all feels rather crappy. Part of DH's problem is that he's never been arund babies before and he doesnt listen to me tell him how best to handle baby, and everything just pisses W off. Mama and baby are an inseparable pair around here. I actually like it that W prefers mama to all else, though. It makes me feel like a good mother.
MIL and FIL are visiting tomorrow......dreading it already. But DH has decided to have it out with MIL and tell her how insulting she is being. Nothing will ever change with MIL,but at least it feels good to tell her off. But she keeps calling DH now and asking why I kept taking W from her when she visited last time (he was 6 days old, he was constantly crying on her, he needed to nurse) and if she can hold him the whole time now. Ugh, I'm just so not in the mood for the pointless drama now.
Anyone else feeling hormonal and needlessly pissed off these days? I thought my hormones would be mostly balanced by now.....
How do you get the old milk smell out of clothes? I have two bras, so one gets washed every day, but they constantly smell pretty yucky now. I wash with soap nuts or unscented soap. Should I try something like a vinegar soak? I have no idea.


My DH and O rub along pretty well. O cries but they are also able to get in some good Daddy/Baby snuggles and calm time, which helps. O has been calmer for diapers and clothing changes lately, which my DH helps with, and he LOVES his bath, which DH and I do together, so it's good. It also helps that my DH has gotten more comfortable with holding him lately. The more confident DH is, the calmer O is in his arms. So it's coming. But DH is also content to let me take the lion's share of caring for the little guy - not that he doesn't love him to bits, but it's just working better that way right now because I can live on O's schedule more easily than DH can with having to work and all.

 

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I actually like it that W prefers mama to all else, though. It makes me feel like a good mother.


.....a little bit of this, here, too. innocent.gif

 

I love that I can soothe him when no one else can. I love that half the time, I don't even have to try - just reach for him and he stops crying. I love (though am occasionally annoyed) that he sleeps soundly on me for hours, but will wake within minutes of my leaving him asleep on his own.

 

I love that he hugs my boob with both arms to go to sleep. ROTFLMAO.gif

 

I love that he smiles for me a million times more than he smiles for anybody else. love.gif

 

I love that he loves me, I just wish DH had the same joy! I know his turn will come, my heart just breaks a little for him right now. 

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I'm having a hard time dealing with the older kids too, it seems like they wait until I sit down to "need" something. They are constantly waking up the baby with their shenanigans. And I think they both ask for food for attention from me, then they don't eat it. That makes me BONKERS.

 

 

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Mummoth:  I saw your video yesterday but didn't have time to post:  SWEET!  love.gif

 

Also, on DP and baby:  I haven't had any issues with baby and Daddy.  My 2yoDD was completely freaked out by all other men, though -- especially ones with facial hair.  I always figured it was because my DP doesn't really grow facial hair, but not sure about the reason.  She finally started warming up to men last fall, though -- like it was a phase and she is past it...

 

LilMomma83:  About Naomi nursing, YAY!!!  joy.gif

 

I have so little time to post here.  :(  I have to pick my big girls up from school in an hour, which means I need to start getting ready now.  Then they'll need lunch once we get home, and I've set up a play date for this afternoon at a friend's house, so we'll be heading out again an hour later.  I'll try to wrap things up in time to get home and start dinner... my class is at 6 so I'll need to nurse Emberley as much as possible throughout the afternoon.  I feel strange about leaving her, but she did very well last week and DP loves having her to himself.  I have 8 oz of pumped milk and I hope to pump a couple more because I she drank 6 ounces while I was gone for 2.5  hours, and this time it will be closer to 3 hours.  Wish me luck, please, Mamas!

 

On the older kiddos:  Breastfeeding has kept me stationary much more often, BUT I have been doing much more reading to my big girls:  We've read the first Harry Potter book and watched the movie together, I read The Indian in the Cupboard to them over the weekend and the movie is on standby, and we're 4 chapters in to the second Harry Potter book.  2yoDD has been getting lonesome and bored during the school day, though.  The long break and extended period with lots of visitors have left our house feeling even more quiet while the big girls are at school.  2yoDD asked about going back to "play school" -- the daycare she went to while I was going to school last year.  I'm looking into sending her to the Montessori 1 or 2 days a week... she is familiar with all of the adults who work there and has played there before when her big sisters were attending.  She is also potty-trained these days and very independent.  I wouldn't want to send her anywhere else right now, so I hope there is room for her!

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not sure if this will post but will try

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LOL dsb! 

 

It reminds me a little of a couple weeks ago.. DF and I went out to eat and I was trying to nurse Elliott in the booth, but the table was very close to the bench and I was having a hard time fitting both of us in there while nursing.. DF had a bottle of pumped milk in the car and offered to go get it for me to feed him that instead, since I was obviously uncomfortable.. and my first though was, "No way! Risk my reputation by bottle feeding in PUBLIC!?" LOL.. then I realized that is pretty backwards for most people. 

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Call me crazy, but I bought DF tickets to see his favorite singer in the whole wide world for Valentines day. Elliott will be just over 2 months old! I sooooo want to take DF to this show, and I am a little worried about E being so young, but I think we will manage. I asked my mom to come watch the kiddos, and she said she would try to get off work (she was planning on trying to take those days off anyway, for my grandpa's birthday party).. I haven't gone to a concert in sooooo long! 

 

LilMomma- I am soooooo happy to hear that nursing is doing so much better!!!!! 

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