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post #141 of 225
Thank you all for the reassurances! I'll just be happily cuddling my boy to sleep until he wants a change. Oh, how I love him.
Yeah, and I agree with the bum patting. Our daytime sleep routine is nurse, get in wrap, pace the hall or take a walk, pat bum, and of desperation has set in, suck mama's finger. It all works together.

We haven't looked at taxes yet, but I don't think we will get much of a refund, since DH got a raise this year, and for the first reporting year ever, actually has a full year's salary. So no refund is just fine! We've saved $10,000 this year, and that's with having a baby and with paying more than 50% of our income for rent and with some hefty legal fees for immigration. We just looked at all this last night, so I'm feeling really good about it today. We also talked about our upcoming move and now that a few hurdles are out of the way, we can actually start making plans! Instead of the huge expense of buying a car we don't plan to use after moving, we decided to rent an RV for two weeks and dawdle across Canada in comfort. Plenty of room for the cat and the baby who will be crawling by the end of summer, simple to cook and shower, and less expensive than buying a car, AND it looks like DHs company will pay for part of the moving costs! So now we're both very excited about it.

I saw my mother again yesterday, and we went for a long hike in the woods. Oh, it was so nice and restorative to my soul to be in something a bit more wild than our city streets. And my mama and I dreamed up owning our own yarn shop in Charlottetown after we move. It was a good day.

Awwwww, Winter is sleeping on me with his thumb in his mouth. So cute! I am determined to have a thumb sucker. smile.gif
post #142 of 225
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My poor little girl does NOT like getting shots. She screamed until she didn't have any air left and then I had to blow on her face to get her to take a breath again! She had some Tylenol and slept a lot this afternoon, and now she's decided that being permanently attached to my nipple is a good way to cope with life today. I can't blame her, really. I put a cold face cloth on the injection site and she seems to like that. She's trying to be happy, but I think maybe when she moves her legs it hurts because she'll pull a big smile and then burst into tears :( I'm not even going to try and cook tonight, we haven't had Chinese food in a while. I'm not going to let her go tonight unless it's for DH to hold her. We weighed her at the clinic and she's 12 pounds, 3 ounces, so I was happy about that.

post #143 of 225

:(  If it makes you feel better Mummoth, an acute spike of cortisol (a stress hormone) increases the immune response to vaccines.  So hopefully she has lots and lots of antibodies now.  

post #144 of 225
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Wendizbaby- we Dave Ramsey it too, our only debt is our mortgage and we refi it 3 years ago to a 15 year loan. :) We have our 403B's maxed out (we both work for same non-profit hospital organization) and just bought 500K in life insurance to both of us. We've been doing it for almost 4 years.



Good Job!!!  We've only had our mortgage debt, but now these student loans (booooo).  I was bad and didn't pay for school with cash (that would have been the Dave thing to do!)

post #145 of 225
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:(  If it makes you feel better Mummoth, an acute spike of cortisol (a stress hormone) increases the immune response to vaccines.  So hopefully she has lots and lots of antibodies now.  



I didn't know that! I had a numbing patch on her leg, but it didn't seem to help. Luckily the nurse was quick and it was all over in no time. I spent most of my evening snuggled up in my bed with her, reading a book while she nursed and napped. DS must have asked me 8 times if she will feel better tomorrow, it really bugs him that she's hurting.

post #146 of 225

We are at the point when we havehavehave to make a decision about what vax O will get when, and I admit to being pretty freaked out about it. My gut says that some protection is important, but there are so many more vaxes than when I was a kid even, that I have to wonder, are they all important? Worth the risk? I've read all kinds of stuff, including the Sears book most recently, and it's still hard to make a decision. And it scares me to death that something we choose to put into his body could have the opposite effect - could hurt him rather than protecting him. I don't mean autism - I feel like that's been well debunked - but the other reactions that vaxes can cause. I would be devastated if that happened!!! Lord, what to do?!?!?!

post #147 of 225

Heather-- that's the point we were at. I knew there were some things I wanted her vaxxed against, and some I didn't... and in the end, after two weeks of thinking on it, and talking it out with my husband, and my sister in law, and some people on here, I just couldn't make myself comfortable with it, and I had to go with my gut. If in my gut I feel she's not ready, then I need to trust that. It doesn't mean she won't get them later, but right now, I have to trust my mommy instincts and not get them for now. 

post #148 of 225
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We are at the point when we havehavehave to make a decision about what vax O will get when, and I admit to being pretty freaked out about it. My gut says that some protection is important, but there are so many more vaxes than when I was a kid even, that I have to wonder, are they all important? Worth the risk? I've read all kinds of stuff, including the Sears book most recently, and it's still hard to make a decision. And it scares me to death that something we choose to put into his body could have the opposite effect - could hurt him rather than protecting him. I don't mean autism - I feel like that's been well debunked - but the other reactions that vaxes can cause. I would be devastated if that happened!!! Lord, what to do?!?!?!



It's scary no matter what you decide with vaxxes, and the answer of what's right is different for everyone. This time, I was really eager for DD to get the one with pertussis in it, because there is an outbreak of it near here. DD1 has eczema and I felt it was extra important that she have the chicken pox vaccine because her risk of getting a severe case was higher. Yesterday, they offered an oral vaccine for DD2 for rotovirus that I hadn't heard about before. One of the side effects was that the intestine can turn in on itself... it extremely rare, but DH is lactose intolerant and has other digestive problems that aren't diagnosed. I don't know if people that are going to end up with crohns or colitis are  more likely to have the side effect, but it seems sensible to me to not mess with DD's intestines. My conclusion might have been different with the older kids, whose birth dad would scrape the fuzz off something he found at the back of the fridge, eat it and not get sick. I have no idea how... I used to tell him he was a bear in a past life, lol!

 

I don't know if you've taken your family history into account, and I know this isn't the most scientific/evidenced based approach, but it seems logical to me that the pneumonia one might be more important for a kid whose family has a history of lung problems like asthma, etc.

post #149 of 225
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I have to wonder, are they all important? Worth the risk? I've read all kinds of stuff, including the Sears book most recently, and it's still hard to make a decision. 


For the average child, all of the recommended vaccines are important and worth the risk (that is, the risk of morbidity/mortality from disease is greater than the risk of the same from vaccinations).  From a public health standpoint, there's no point in recommending something that causes more problems than it prevents.  There are many vaccines that aren't recommended except to people who meet a specific demographic because vaccine risks are higher than disease risks for the average person.  If you think you can significantly reduce disease risk to less than vaccine risk then it makes sense to forgo vaccinations.  The science suggests that you can't, but we are all individuals, not the averages that the models deal with, so... that's where personal decision-making comes in.  :)

post #150 of 225

So much to catch up on, I've missed you ladies!

Will be back soon to update on us.

Hugs to those of you going through hard stuff!

post #151 of 225
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Have I created a problem for myself? W has only ever slept during the day when he's on someone. These days that's mostly on me, and mostly  while being warn. Except now it's only while being worn. When he gets tired and fussy, either he squirms his way down onto my chest in the wearing position on his own, or he cries until I put him in the wrap, when he promptly falls asleep. Otherwise, he just cries and cries and doesn't sleep at all, or only for 10 minutes, when he wakes and cries again. Now, I'm quite happy just to hold and cuddle and wear him all day, but I'm starting to think f the future. He can't only sleep in the wrap forever. Is this like bed sharing and extended nursing, something that he'll change on his own when he's ready? Should I be concerned?


He just sounds super smart to me!!! He's already communicating with you!
 

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Azadehhast~ I think that as the babies become more aware of their surroundings, they have a more difficult time settling to sleep. Stephanie usually likes her arms free and can sometimes even be plopped into her pod while she's still awake, but more and more we're having to do the swaddle/ shoosh/ spank* routine to get her to settle. My guess is that he'll outgrow it. It seems like whatever is happening in their waking time, they mirror in the sleeping time... when he's learning to crawl and walk, he'll be a total wiggle worm in his sleep!


I've noticed Naomi is requiring more help to fall alseep too...I agree that it stems from our babies growing and becoming more aware.
 

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DH did taxes this weekend - due to our single income, a withholding oversight (of, uhm, three years... woops), and Eli sneaking in just during December, we're getting back $7500. O.O

 

I'm getting a new (to me) car (2-door cars aren't baby-friendly!), and we'll be sinking most of it into finishing our basement in preparation for putting the house on the market this summer. We're also going to take a little trip, my folks offered us use of their time share so housing will be cheap and we'll go somewhere in driving distance. =) Has anyone else made plans for their tax refund (if you're expecting one)?


We are going to use ours for a new car too...as well as fixing our current cars (on of which we need to sell because it just keeps breaking down over and over even though there is no clear reason why)
 

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My poor little girl does NOT like getting shots. She screamed until she didn't have any air left and then I had to blow on her face to get her to take a breath again! She had some Tylenol and slept a lot this afternoon, and now she's decided that being permanently attached to my nipple is a good way to cope with life today. I can't blame her, really. I put a cold face cloth on the injection site and she seems to like that. She's trying to be happy, but I think maybe when she moves her legs it hurts because she'll pull a big smile and then burst into tears :( I'm not even going to try and cook tonight, we haven't had Chinese food in a while. I'm not going to let her go tonight unless it's for DH to hold her. We weighed her at the clinic and she's 12 pounds, 3 ounces, so I was happy about that.


Naomi was not a fan of her shots either...we pretty much cuddled and nursed the rest of the day and if I so much as touched the leg with her tetnus shot she would cry...made a mama feel horrible lol

 

In our news, I can't remember what I posted before, but I was in the ER Friday, Saturday, and Sunday for kidney stones, than admitted to the hospital yesterday and the did a surgery to get one big stone out that was causing blockage and left a plastic stent inside the ureter (tube between kidney and bladder) which they take out tomorrow. I'm home now with some kind of med that has morphine it in it (they gave me something else but I was still in tears from the pain so after calling them 3 times they finally gave me this and I feel like I'm having an out of body experience but at least the pain is manageable now). My mama group is giving me severl days of meals whcih is awesome...its been like pulling teeth to get my parents/siblings to help which is so frustrating. I told them my idea of a "10" on the pain scale has increased several times over the weekend and that all the pain combined with the heavy meds are making it so I can't care for myself let alone the kids. I've been so stressed! At least right now my sisters have the boys for a bit longer and my hubby is at work and I'm home with baby, but, I think my friend should be by soon with dinner and so at least someone will be checking on me that way. I've been completely humbled...my house is a disaster and I just don't even care...normally I would never let a friend over with my house in this state...I just need the help so it just has to be like this.

 

Anyway, haven't been on the computer in a while, now I am just trying to stay awake because I'm afraid if I fall asleep I won't wake up to care for the baby :-( so I might post a lot...I'm trying really hard to make sense and I think I am but its wierd because I forget what I write as soon as it comes out. I hate meds lol...but I so totally need them right now. At least my doctors are now saying I can BF on all of them and I've been nursing Naomi constantly! :-)
 

 

post #152 of 225

aw man kidney stones sound horrible!  what causes them? oh and you are making sense i swear

 

ive been super busy but DP and Ember are napping together so i have some free time even though im pretty sleepy myself. 

 

 

florence is nice so far cant wait to put in our kitchen and bathroom.  yay. 

 

 

Ember is rolling over more consistantly, now, and is a porker i have no idea what he weighs but he seems to be growing like a weed.  he was 2 months last thursday.  we tried to give him a bottle but he just screamed and threw up any suggestions?  or did i wait to long? 

 

post #153 of 225
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aw man kidney stones sound horrible!  what causes them? oh and you are making sense i swear

 

ive been super busy but DP and Ember are napping together so i have some free time even though im pretty sleepy myself. 

 

 

florence is nice so far cant wait to put in our kitchen and bathroom.  yay. 

 

 

Ember is rolling over more consistantly, now, and is a porker i have no idea what he weighs but he seems to be growing like a weed.  he was 2 months last thursday.  we tried to give him a bottle but he just screamed and threw up any suggestions?  or did i wait to long? 

 



Kidney stone are pretty bad..I had them after my middle guy, Caleb was born and it was like natural child birth al over again, this time it was like natural childbirth on steriods! I've been told its common develop them during pregnancy, and now I'm getting really scared to have another kid! They are going to analize mine and see if there is any diet and/or suppliments/meds I can do to reduce my risk of developing them again. I still have one in each kidney also so I guess they will keep an eye on those.

 

So excited about your new house!

 

Can't believe Ember is rolling so much - that's amazing! I don't think any of mine rolled until 3-6 months (Naomi certainly has not even tried lol).

 

You may have waited too long with the bottle, but, sometimes messing around with different positions and nipples and makign sure you are out of the house can help. I had one baby who would only take latex nipples (thr brown ones) and I know most nipples are the other kind. Naomi doesn't like me to be around. My oldest like skin to skin when getting a bottle...so lots of things you can try! You may also try letting him initiate too...lke rub the nipple against his cheek until he turns, rub it on his gums (he should start licking it) and then eventually he should suck it in. Not sure if that will work, but our therapist suggested that anytime we put anything in Naomi's mouth - she said it helps baby find t more pleasurable when they are in control and able to thoroughly enjoy each part.

 

I think I just made a mistake...I realized I missed my antibiotic dose this morning so I just took 2 pills instead of 1 tonight to make up for it..then it occured to me that was probably a bad idea because of how many medications I'm on and also because its a fairly strong antibiotic...gosh I feel so dumb now and I feel really dizzzy but thats probably just because I've been up and about more while I'm waiting on my friend.

 

post #154 of 225

Seems like we're all getting pretty busy with our wonderful babies....anyone interested in connecting on Facebook? I'm Azadeh Hoff.

post #155 of 225

Poor lil man has been kinda snuffly-sick the last few days... he seems to be doing better, however, today I feel like I've been hit by a Mack truck. I went from "perfectly fine" to "wow, yep, DEFINITELY sick" in about six hours. Complete with fever. Boo. =(

 

Took Eli's temp and he seems to be doing fine, but it's weirding me out because *I* am running a fever so he feels COLD to me. Everything feels cold, I'm freezing and wrapped up in blankets... but I touch his head and I'm like "OMG IS HE CLAMMY! TAKE HIS TEMP AGAIN! .... oh, no, he's fine, it's just me." And tomorrow is my long day at school. Blech. =(

post #156 of 225

Finally figured out how to nurse side-lying. I'm so tired all the time, hopefully that will help. Toby is still waking every 2-3 hrs. We have his 2 month appt next week. Curious about his wt, guessing 13#.

Ugh... it seems that my hair is already starting to shed. Last time I had massive shedding at 3 mos.


Edited by lotus1 - 6/12/12 at 9:02am
post #157 of 225
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Azadeh~ I can't find you! I'm Teresa McGillis on Facebook, and I'm mummoth on livejournal, if any of you are there, too :) And there's a few Vanessa Michels! 

 

post #158 of 225

I'm Melissa Kirkman, I'll look y'all up :)

 

Yes, busy with babes and other stuff, I guess that's life. I go back to work tomorrow--boo hiss....I hope the hubby does okay. He couldn't even get a bottle down him the other day at his moms, but he'll be over there all weekend, so I'm sure it will be fine.

post #159 of 225
I'm Heather Chapelle Burgos on FB. I forgot my password and can't access from my phone so I'll look you mamas up later if you dont find me,first. I cant type wel on my new phone so I will write more later. Quickly updating that despite.a.5th hospital visit I.think I'm home for good now. Just trying to.increase milk supply and get N nursing well again. Miss you mamas!
post #160 of 225

I'm Heather Gray on Facebook - I've sent friend requests to those of you I could find. Harder than I thought! Once we've started to connect there, what do you think about forming a group there? We have one for my neighborhood and it has been great for discussion threads and photo sharing (and event invites, though I imagine that would be of less use in our case)

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