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post #201 of 225

Oh gosh no. I'm stir crazy. I've been trying to find parenting groups and play dates, but it's hard to coordinate schedules when you don't have a set schedule of your own. I'm like you, I can't -wait- until summer and it's easier to go places and go outside for walks and stuff. 

post #202 of 225
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Yeah, I have a trip I want to take at the end of March, and right now it's all based on whether we can get T to accept her car seat or not, since it's a 6 hour drive there and back.

 



Don't know if you're cool with a pacifier or not, but that was the key to Owen being mellow in his seat while I was driving without a second person in the car. Without it he was screaming bloody murder and I was shaking and crying. Not exactly a recipe for safe travel. I popped a paci in his mouth one day out of desperation (we HAD to go somewhere) and boom, it was like magic. He does really well holding it in his mouth, as long as he wants it. I wasn't wanting to use a paci at all, but just in the car seat feels like an ok compromise to me... being flexible about my ideal allows me to meet O's car seat comfort needs.

post #203 of 225

We have one, but she pretty much will only take it when she's in the wrap or mei tai, or after she's done nursing and falling asleep. She spits it out in the carseat :(

post #204 of 225

I haven't gotten restless so far. I feel settled and satisfied in a way that I haven't before - like I was made to be a mama and was just marking time before this. Not to say I didn't love what I did before this - I have been a nanny and preschool teacher and director of education for a church - but this is satisfying on a soul deep level that none of those were.

 

I actually have to be careful not to overdo the outings or we both get over tired and cranky. We've done a few meetup.com outings and gone to doc appointments and music class that a friend of mine down the street runs out of her home... we could easily be out and about morning or afternoon or both every week day if I didn't pick and choose. And then we have visitors too, though that has slowed down some.

post #205 of 225

O is off and on in the car.  We're planning a 6-hour drive at the end of March as well, giving ourselves a whole day to get there.  

 

I found that playing static on the radio helps a lot.  If you don't have good static stations, maybe an ocean wave cd?

post #206 of 225

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Oh gosh no. I'm stir crazy. I've been trying to find parenting groups and play dates, but it's hard to coordinate schedules when you don't have a set schedule of your own. I'm like you, I can't -wait- until summer and it's easier to go places and go outside for walks and stuff. 


OK, good, lol!  A year maternity leave is amazing.  I think I would be more ok with staying home if I knew I had a job to go back to.  Since I don't and since I know this is temporary, it's always in the back of my mind.  I'm always kind of browsing the employment section.  I think I'd like that uncertainty to go away more than I actually want to work.

 

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I haven't gotten restless so far. I feel settled and satisfied in a way that I haven't before - like I was made to be a mama and was just marking time before this. Not to say I didn't love what I did before this - I have been a nanny and preschool teacher and director of education for a church - but this is satisfying on a soul deep level that none of those were.

 

I actually have to be careful not to overdo the outings or we both get over tired and cranky. We've done a few meetup.com outings and gone to doc appointments and music class that a friend of mine down the street runs out of her home... we could easily be out and about morning or afternoon or both every week day if I didn't pick and choose. And then we have visitors too, though that has slowed down some.


That's awesome!  Like I said, I am happy and much happier than I thought I would be.  I could even join the "I was meant to do this" club.  But I don't feel totally, 100% fulfilled.  I'm jealous of you mamas who are.

 

Meetup is a good idea.  I'm in a small town and is hasn't been useful for other things, but...

 



 

 

post #207 of 225

Yeah, I can see that being a bit more unsettling if you didn't really know what was happening. My thing is that I never wanted to go back. I've never had a job I enjoyed enough to want to go back. That's why the doula thing was wonderful, because it allows me to do something I'm passionate about, while still being home most of the time with my children.... but now... who knows. I guess I'll decide in a few months. If I'm going to try the doula thing I need to start gathering clients this summer for due dates next late winter/spring. 

 

I've said that if I could bring Tenley to work with me, I'd be back in a second. But the idea of leaving her to go to work... I'm still at odds with it. It's ironic too, because I have a degree in Psych... but I'm working a no-pre-reqs or training hotel job, and have no plans on using the degree. Never expected to like the hotel job this much, it was just a stopgap until we got pregnant. 

 

The best advice I've found so far is to try to leave when she would normally be sleeping. It doesn't make sense for us to drive at night, but I think we're going to try to leave early morning. She typically sleeps until about 930 or 10, so if we can leave around 7am, that should give us a three hour stretch we don't have to worry about... and then we can do a big nursing session and then I can get in the back with her and try to distract with toys etc. I'm going to see if we can borrow one of those in car DVD players I think. I hate the idea of it, but I also hate the idea of her screaming the whole time because she's upset... We transferred her to her convertible carseat from the bucket, and that does seem to help, but she's still upset. 

 

And you guys will totally laugh, but I was stnaidng in DD's room a little while ago, looking at her clothes, and it's just starting to hit me the sheer volume of how  much clothing we're going to need to bring. She throws up so much that for the three days, I'm probably looking at bringing 5-6 sleepers, 4-5 pairs of pants and like... 15 onesies/t-shirts. lol. Not to mention all the receiving blankets/burp cloths and sleep blankets. The rest of the 'stuff' she needs is so basic, but because of the puking her clothing needs are astronomical. And then ours too, since she pukes on us... lol

post #208 of 225
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I don't get restless often, but I've always been a homebody. There's a Parent & Tot up the street 3 times a week but I haven't gone yet. I like walking down the hill, there's a bakery, a veggie store, a thrift store and the dollar store. I just don't put any effort into being organized when I order groceries, and there's always a reason for a walk if I want to. Plus, DH has split shifts so he sometimes comes home in the middle of the day, and we watch a show together so it's a bit like a date. Then of course I have to get the big kids from school and end up gabbing with the moms while they play if it's not too rainy, and by the time we get back I have to start on supper. The day usually disappears on me.

 

One thing that I didn't realize is that I really like having some income that I earned myself. I get the child tax benefit and child support each month, but it's not the same as the money from after school care. It feels really good to have a pay cheque, even if it's not a lot. The other part of that is, I like being in charge of the bills... DH just holds back what he needs for the truck, his phone and spending money, and I handle the rest. I'm actually good at it, too... I paid a credit onto our gas bill because it's an equal payment plan and I was worried that once they reconcile it in the spring, we'll have a huge bill. They base the amount on previous use, and there was just a couple in here before us, and then the house was vacant for a few months last winter. Well, I called to see how much energy we've actually used, and and I've managed to overpay them a bit! 

 

 

 

 

post #209 of 225

We caught two pees today!! And we're not even doing EC! this is only the 3 and 4th times ive put her on the potty, and she went right away both times!I just happened to notice that she was grunting as I was changing her, and decided to give it a shot since I didn't want to waste a diaper, and she went! Then the next time I changed her, I figured I'd give it a shot because she was wiggling around again. 

 

I'm gonna keep trying! 

post #210 of 225

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We caught two pees today!! And we're not even doing EC! this is only the 3 and 4th times ive put her on the potty, and she went right away both times!I just happened to notice that she was grunting as I was changing her, and decided to give it a shot since I didn't want to waste a diaper, and she went! Then the next time I changed her, I figured I'd give it a shot because she was wiggling around again. 

 

I'm gonna keep trying! 


YAY!!!!!! We need to try this occasionally! Speaking of which I just realized I forgot to even change her before bed because she was crying so hard I jsut wanted to feed her...and now I don't think I should wake her :-/ At least she's in a sposie today...

 

Thnks for the advice about my hubby, definitly going to make us a little more obvious...lol...on the other hand, either she is renting a car or she just went and bought the exact same car and same color as my hubby! :-/ The irony of it? We just bought a second minivan and we are sellign the car. LOL

 

So when it rains it poors...I hate being so negative!!! But I went to schedule my boys check ups (not a huge deal, but, since we do vax I figure it's best to make sure the get their well checks at the appropriate times or close to it -- thankfulyl the have been really healthy this year...in fact I think this is my almost 5yos healthiest year yet, I'm hoping he is outgrowing the asthma!) anyway, the pediatrician's office said they can't see them back until we pay our bill (like $600+) even though I have been paying on it each month! It's not a big deal because I will have the money soon when we get the car sold, but, still...what if they get sick? I just don't think that is right...since I am paying on it, I would understand if we weren't paying on it. But, maybe that is just my opinion.

 

Naomi started something wierd during the past day or two...she wants to bury her head in everything...so when she nurses sometimes she buries her head (like trying to hide her eyes I think..or maybe just liking the feeling of having  her face covered) and she can't stay latched lol. Do any of your babies do this? It's mostly funny (just mildly frustrating if she is trying to do it while eating) lol I don't remember my others doing that...though Caleb did like his face buried...I just didn't nurse him very much or very long so I really just remember having to put blankets over his head all the time.

 

 

 

post #211 of 225

With my first baby I struggled with transitioning to "just being mommy" a little as well. Not that motherhood wasn't fulfilling...but I was use to working so hard (school, work, hobbies, exercise, a small business); it was just SO different and so foreign not being busy outside of the home.  I put a lot of pressure on myself to be successful with something at least home-based, and it kept me from enjoying those early months as much. Now with 3 small children I can't imagine having to do anything beyond mommy/wife/homemaker.  It suits me well, and I feel super blessed that for the first time in our marriage my husband is making great money (I use to always make more, which made it hard to give up my income).  The earlier in a woman's life she has children, the easier it is to adjust I think.  Less time to get set in their personal/professional life?

post #212 of 225
I definitely count myself in the totally fulfilled, meant to be a mama category, but I understand the wanting more. I just sort to dealt with those feeling before Winter came along. A few years ago I had to quit working, and though I've had jobs since then, I've found that the best and happiest situation for me is to be homemaker. The way DH and I explain it is that he makes money and I make everything else so what he makes is enough. So I make all our clothes, food, soap, furniture, that sort of thing, and once me move, I'll grow most of our food too. All that means that I have PLENTY to fill my time, and it's just been socially that I feel something missing. And now that my babe is here, all my other efforts feel complete and whole in a way they never have before. My 'job' really is right here at home.

Still, I'm wishing for more social interaction, for some real life true mama-friends. And I agree wth Mummoth, having my own money would be great. I'd love to buy and do things for myself without feeling like I have to ask or discuss it with DH first.

We're looking at a four or so hour trip next week and then maybe a 5 hour flight, if we're unlucky, and yeah, I'm really dreading it. W's only been in a car three times. I have a feeling he will be sucking my finger a lot!

Poor Tenley with all the throwing up! I don't think we have that much clothes!
post #213 of 225
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YAY!!!!!! We need to try this occasionally! Speaking of which I just realized I forgot to even change her before bed because she was crying so hard I jsut wanted to feed her...and now I don't think I should wake her :-/ At least she's in a sposie today...

 

Naomi started something wierd during the past day or two...she wants to bury her head in everything...so when she nurses sometimes she buries her head (like trying to hide her eyes I think..or maybe just liking the feeling of having  her face covered) and she can't stay latched lol. Do any of your babies do this? It's mostly funny (just mildly frustrating if she is trying to do it while eating) lol I don't remember my others doing that...though Caleb did like his face buried...I just didn't nurse him very much or very long so I really just remember having to put blankets over his head all the time.

It was so cool! And we caught another one today when we got home from shopping! I've been resisting it, because I'm so scatterbrained that I feel bad if I get her expecting (and therefore waiting) for us to potty her, and I don't follow through.... so we're taking it bit by bit and see how it goes. 

 

Ten sometimes does that when she's trying to sleep or relax, she wants to block out the world- possible? I've got muslin swaddle blankets that I throw over her head in that case. 
 

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We're looking at a four or so hour trip next week and then maybe a 5 hour flight, if we're unlucky, and yeah, I'm really dreading it. W's only been in a car three times. I have a feeling he will be sucking my finger a lot!
Poor Tenley with all the throwing up! I don't think we have that much clothes!


Yeah it's crazy how much we go through. People don't get it, and they'll be like 'so what, she threw up, you don't need to change her', and I'm like no... picture dropping 3 tablespoons of souring yogurt on your baby's clothing and rubbing it in. That's more what it is. It's chunky and it reeeeks. I was trying to snuggle up to her in bed the other day and had to move because the smell of her was making me nauseaus :(  But-- doctors appt tomorrow, so hopefully things will improve. I'm back on dairy as of today. If anything, she was getting worse, not better with me off of it. 

 

We've been testing things out for the trip, and so far having her in the big seat makes a bit of a difference, but the biggest thing, and I never would have thought of it if someone else hadn't mentioned it-- was I pumped a bottle today, and sat beside her seat, and she had a bit of bottle everytime we got back into the car. Only really like 1/4 oz each time, but enough that it distracted her enough to forget how much she hates the seat, and then she was content. And it's easy enough for me to pump 2oz quickly before a car ride. 

 

I think for the trip I'm going to pump about 20oz to take with us (so probably start on wed, and pump a few times wed and thurs, and we leave friday morning). Then as long as it stays refrigerated, it'll be good until the drive home on Sunday as well... that way i don't have to pump or bring a pump with us. I'll be nursing her obviously while we're there, it's just for in the car I want it available to put into a bottle. 

 

 

 

Did I post about our amazing luck with diapers? We needed more cloth diapers, plus I had three smalls and three mediums that I wanted to get rid of in favor of OS diapers instead. We found someone selling 32 of them, with hemp inserts for $350 (new they retail for $20 and 5.50, and this ended up being less than $11 each total), so DH told me to jump on it and we'd just sell whatever extras we had. So I bought the 32, and ended up keeping 10. So we sold 22 right away, plus I have the 6 from my original stash to sell, and we've already made back $335. So for $15 I got 10 extra diapers, plus the 6, which will probably sell for around $70. So... in essence, I'm getting paid to acquire 10 more diapers :)  I also sat down and figured out what we've spent on diapers so far, compared with what we've made selling ones we didn't like, and we have about $350 in our stash right now. So when we sell them, as long as I get at least $10 per diaper, it means that we will have completely broken even on our cloth diapering when all is said and done :) That's pretty awesome !! 

 

Also, I got a coupon in a coupon swap the other day for $5 off if you bought two bags of diapers, plus diapers are on sale at toys r us $4 off per pack, plus we had a $50 gift card we got before T was born... so i went and bought a pack of size 2 and a pack of size 3, so like 115 diapers total, for $27... and then used the gift card... so free! And they'll probably last us until she outgrows the size 3... so with any luck close to a year!   I love knowing that we shouldn't have to buy ANY more diapers for probably another 9 months :) We only use them when we're going to be out for quite a while (like out of town to my moms house) or when we're using diaper cream, other than that, she uses her cloth. 

 

Anyways, I'll quit my diaper rambling now :) I'm just so excited. 

post #214 of 225
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And you guys will totally laugh, but I was stnaidng in DD's room a little while ago, looking at her clothes, and it's just starting to hit me the sheer volume of how  much clothing we're going to need to bring. She throws up so much that for the three days, I'm probably looking at bringing 5-6 sleepers, 4-5 pairs of pants and like... 15 onesies/t-shirts. lol. Not to mention all the receiving blankets/burp cloths and sleep blankets. The rest of the 'stuff' she needs is so basic, but because of the puking her clothing needs are astronomical. And then ours too, since she pukes on us... lol

 

I totally get it.  With my DD I got soooo tired of changing her and myself all day.  My floor was never cleaner though!  I was literally spot cleaning the wood all day long...she puked about 30x day!  I got pretty good at using bibs to catch the mess - that way I was only changing those every few minutes (I had a stack of 20-30 that I went through most days).  Best of luck with the trip!  Just a day over at my inlaws was exhausting Lol.
 

 

post #215 of 225
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I totally get it.  With my DD I got soooo tired of changing her and myself all day.  My floor was never cleaner though!  I was literally spot cleaning the wood all day long...she puked about 30x day!  I got pretty good at using bibs to catch the mess - that way I was only changing those every few minutes (I had a stack of 20-30 that I went through most days).  Best of luck with the trip!  Just a day over at my inlaws was exhausting Lol.

 

my first threw up a lot too... it was crazy sometimes!!!
post #216 of 225

LOL I know. We commented the other day that if she manages to go a whole day without changing outfits, it's a miracle. But-- still moreso a testament just to how good we've gotten at diving for and predicting the pukes. We use receiving blankets as 'burp cloths' cause then they hold enough, and we go through so many each day, but at least it finally means less puked on clothing!

post #217 of 225

I want to change my statement about work being okay. Work is a zoo, it felt good to be there but it was exhausting and it made shoulder and neck hurt like hell. Things here are a zoo, DH ran out of uniforms before I got them washed and the house is far dirtier than my liking. DD1 has preschool homework, 20 books/month and a small task everyday...we can't even keep up with that.

post #218 of 225
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I want to change my statement about work being okay. Work is a zoo, it felt good to be there but it was exhausting and it made shoulder and neck hurt like hell. Things here are a zoo, DH ran out of uniforms before I got them washed and the house is far dirtier than my liking. DD1 has preschool homework, 20 books/month and a small task everyday...we can't even keep up with that.



*hugs* I'm so there...I'm completely overwhelmed and can't seem to do anything correctly at work or home. :-/ I actually just posted a very teary post to my local mom FB group and was surprised that all these moms who look so together when I see them out and about feel just like me....it is HARD to be a work out of the home mom!

 

post #219 of 225

i forgot the *best* part, i get to start pelvic floor rehab because my junk has all dropped. my gyn actually suggested it before this 10 lb guy plowed through my va-j-j, i seriously dont know how to fit it in, its a 45min drive each way...but i dont want my uterus to fall out or have surgbery, so idk any other option

post #220 of 225

it actually wasn't that bad, they did some biofeedback so I know which muscles to work down there...the PT lady was very nice and supportive, and said most women only need 4 visits past the initial visit, so a total of 5. I *think* I can handle it. Also, since she was a regular physical therapist I mentioned my knee pain while running and she suggessted some exercises and strengthening exercises I could do for that.

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